That’s How I Want You, Baby Girl! A Trembling, Quivering Mess. I Want You Spent And Drained. I Want

can i ask you for advice? if not that's okay too, i understand. but its my fourth anniversary with my bf tomorrow, and i can't help but feel depressed about it, and i can't talk to him, because he'll feel as though its a dig at him/his fault.

i was only 19 when we met, and recently turned 20 when we got together. I feel regretful (is that a word?) about entering into a relationship at that stage in my life. even though everything is swell, and the life we have is wonderful, probably what most people hope for, i mourn the life i could have had. im 24 and instead of being out with friends all the time, or working to travel and explore new things, or be in school, my life is filled with monotony. work, eat, sleep, repeat. all my money goes towards bills. all my free time goes towards cleaning and chores. which yeah i know welcome to adulthood, blah, but i never got to have an adolescence, and i don't know how to process that. im trying to get us to take trips this year, and live our lives, but he seems to be dragging his feet about it as though he doesn't really want to do anything. Which im struggling with, because im tired of doing nothing but work and chores. -❣❣❣

Thank you for the ask and I’m happy to offer what help I can. I’m sorry you are struggling with this. It’s something I can certainly sympathize with and feel very deeply about based on my own past experiences. It’s a tough situation for you and I hope sharing your struggles helps lighten them some.

So let me address this in two parts. The first I’d like to talk about is not feeling like you can bring this to your partner. It is really important to have a relationship where both partners feel they can be open and feel safe with each other. Even for the tough conversations. I think you should share your feelings with your partner but maybe phrase it terms of “Hey these are some things I really wish we would do together. Can you help me figure out how to make that happen? Do you want to share them with me?” That way you are trying to draw them in to help you succeed rather than feeling like they are the roadblock. It can be tricky to do but give it some thought and maybe try it. If you don’t think that will work or that they will take it as a personal attack either way then I think you have some relationship issues that go even deeper and you should consider if there is a way to heal those or if it is salvageable. I know it can be really hard to talk about these things but sometimes it’s better than letting it all fester and seethe under the surface. That just leads to an even more unhealthy relationship. And if you can’t work through that stuff together then it might be time for you both to follow your own new paths separately. Does that make sense?

So now let me get to the part about you feeling regretful about your relationship and how it has impacted your life. You are so young and should be able to go out and travel and live your life as you desire. Find your passion and focus on that. Don’t let life suck you in to the never ending cycle of work sleep repeat. There is so much more to life than that and you need to find and follow the path that speaks to your heart. What are you passionate about? What do you wish you could spend your time on? That’s where you should focus. And honestly your partner should want that for you and you should want that for them. The challenge can sometimes be that you and your partner have completely different interests and desires. If that’s the case then you have to be ok with doing completely different things separately. That takes trust and if you don’t have that then it’s really hard because partners can get jealous and feel left out, etc. You honestly have to love yourself and be secure in yourself for that to work well and most people aren’t. So I’d say give it a test run, come up with a plan, a short day trip or something. Present it to your partner and if your partner doesn’t want to come then say ok, that’s fine, you don’t have to go but this is something I need to do for me. Take the trip and see how you both handle it. You may have to reassure them that you love them and that this is for you. But hopefully they will be supportive. If they aren’t, if they try to undermine your plans, express jealousy, or other negative reactions then you need to take a hard look at the relationship and decide if this is what you want for yourself.

I know I’m getting long winded here but I think it’s a really important thing you are facing. Relationships should be mutually supportive. You are there to help each other succeed. You should want to help each other grow and learn and embrace life. We each have our own paths to follow in life. When we find a partner we hope that we will share our paths but that isn’t always the case. Our paths may only be shared briefly, or they could be for years. I think it’s important to accept that as we grow and learn we also change. And sometimes we change in ways that take us away from our partner. That’s not necessarily a bad thing. It’s a part of life and ultimately you have to focus on your own growth and learning and change. You shouldn’t sacrifice your own dreams and desires for the sake of your partner and they should never want you too. Maybe try having a discussion with your partner about what their dreams or goals are. Do they have a bucket list? Can you find some common ground in shared things you want to do and can discussing them motivate your partner to take action and do them with you. If that doesn’t work then I think you still need to pursue your own dreams and desires either way. Take charge of your life and move it in the direction you want it to go. You don’t want to look back in 20, 30,40 years and regret the trips you didn’t take. Hopefully your partner will embrace that and support you and if not then you really need to consider if they are the right partner for you. And don’t forget to give them the same opportunities you want for yourself. Hopefully you can both grow together and if not then don’t let them hold you back from living the life you desire.

I hope all this makes sense and helps some. You are welcome to message me anytime, anon or not. Sometimes we just need a friend to talk with. In the meantime I’m sending you lots of love and good energy!

Come on adventures with me, baby girl! Let’s go explore the world! We will find quiet, beautiful places together and get lost in each other! Our need and desire blocking out everything else but the two of us! I don’t care who sees us. I don’t care who knows. I don’t care what they think! All I care about is you! Having you in my arms! Feeling your kisses on my lips and your skin against mine! Are you ready, baby girl? Ready for those adventures? Come on, baby girl! I’m waiting for you!

There’s no right or wrong way to be a little! Being little is what you need it to be! It is special to each and every individual! Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise! You are a perfect little just as you are!

This is a great list and so very true. You find a lot of this toxicity in Dd/lg and D/s relationships too. It is so important to establish a healthy relationship no matter what relationship type you are in. It is important that your partner is always respectful of you, your needs, your boundaries, your goals in life and that they always support your personal growth. If your partner doesn’t do this for you then you need to rethink your relationship. If you can’t do this for your partner then you need to work on your own issues and trauma first. There’s nothing cool, sexy or romantic about toxic habits. Build good relationships, respect yourself and your partner. Always!

What I mean when I say "toxic monogamy culture"

the normalization of jealousy as an indicator of love

the idea that a sufficiently intense love is enough to overcome any practical incompatibilities

the idea that you should meet your partner’s every need, and if you don’t, either you’re inadequate or they’re too needy

the idea that a sufficiently intense love should cause you to cease to be attracted to anyone else

the idea that commitment is synonymous with exclusivity

the idea that marriage and children are the only valid teleological justifications for being committed to a relationship

the idea that your insecurities are always your partner’s responsibility to tip-toe around and never your responsibility to work on

the idea that your value to a partner is directly proportional to the amount of time and energy they spend on you, and it is in zero-sum competition with everything else they value in life

the idea that being of value to a partner should always make up a large chunk of how you value yourself

Let me show you the ways I want to ruin you, baby girl! Let me spoil and tease and tempt you until your precious little body is quivering uncontrollably with desire. I want to use my lips, my tongue, my fingers to make you gasp and moan, your exquisite body trembling with need and wanting as I explore every inch. I want to see the hunger in your eyes, pleading for me to take you, aching to be taken and used by daddy. I want you so desperate with need that you give yourself to me completely. Willingly submitting to daddy’s every desire just so he will take you and satiate your burning need. Knowing you are always safe in daddy’s arms even as he pushes your limits and tests you. I will devour you until you scream with pleasure. I will tease and edge you until you’re a whimpering pleading little mess. I will take your sweet mouth until you’re a drooling mess. I will fill and stretch your dripping little cunt letting you feel how hard you make me as I throb and pulse inside of you. Taking you with all my need and desire until I’m groaning and growling and your gushing all over my cock, giving me every last drop of your sweet cum. I will pull you on top of me and set you free. Letting you grind and bounce and ride me to your hearts content. Reveling in the sight of your unbridled pleasure as you lose yourself in your need. Feeling you contract around me, your cum dripping down my shaft and soaking us. Letting you push me closer and closer to my own edge until I take you and pin you down, gripping your throat, your hair, clutching your luscious body as I thrust into you with all my need. Can you feel me swelling inside of you, baby girl? Can you hear it in my growls and moans and curses? I know you can because I feel you contracting around me, your cunt milking and stroking me with each thrust, pushing me over the edge as you cum for me. Can you feel the energy and lust coursing through daddy’s body as I release it all inside of you, cumming with you, hard and deep, filling your sweet cunt until it drips with my seed and our mixed cum. This is how I will ruin you baby girl. Until you are spent, drained, collapsed in my arms gasping, your mind swirling in pleasure as you clutch at daddy, curling up in my arms, whimpering, sobbing with the total release. My precious girl! Are you ready?

Ruin me ❤️

To be perfectly honest there is a high likelihood that I might pin you too them and kiss you long and hard in public too! In private I’ll do much more naughty things, and pin you to every available surface; doors, walls, countertops, tables, desks, floors, beds! 😈

It’s as simple as that! Be kind! Be caring! Be respectful of everyone! You don’t know the challenges others face! Don’t judge them! They don’t know yours! Don’t accept their judgements! Be you and be true to who you are! Spread the love and just be kind! Make the world a better place!

Yep. That about covers my idea of the perfect morning. Except maybe add some baby girl cuddles too.

That’s it baby girl. Ease down onto daddy’s cock. Feel how hard you make me. Feel every inch as it slips inside of you, filling your sweet pussy. Feeling you contracting around me as I throb and pulse inside of you. That exquisite first thrust flooding us both with ecstasy and desire and hunger for each other. Let me feel your juices dripping down over my shaft and balls as you ride me. Feel daddy’s hands caressing you as grind and bounce. Gripping your luscious ass, caressing your back, cupping your breasts and teasing your hard nipples. Daddy’s hand slipping into your hair to pull your head back. Show me what a hungry little slut you are as you bounce and grind and take your pleasure on daddy’s cock. Feel how you make me swell and throb inside of you. Our moans mingling and filling the room as I thrust up into you and you grind your cunt hard on daddy’s cock. I can feel you tightening around me. Your sweet pussy close to cumming all over daddy’s cock. I drop my hips and pull my cock completely out, you let out a desperate whimper.

“Daddy, no! Pleaseeee give it back. Pretty please! I’ll be a good girl I promise!”

You look so desperate, eyes wide and pleading, lip trembling. Then with one smooth thrust I plunge my cock back into your dripping cunt. Burying it up to my balls. You moan and curse and grind hard on daddy. A breathy “fuckkkk” escaping your lips as you bounce and grind and squirm on daddy’s cock.

I grab your hips and thrust up into you, pounding into my baby girl as your fingers rake against my thighs and chest, desperately trying to cling to me. I feel you contracting around me, can tell you’re close to cumming again. Should I let you, baby girl? Or should I edge you some more? Maybe daddy will just use you tonight and make you save that orgasm for another day. Making you even more hungry and desperate. Or maybe daddy will push your limits to see just how many times you can cum on my cock before I fill you full of my seed. Such a tough decision for daddy to make. But first, did you ask for daddy’s permission to cum, baby girl? What happens to naughty girls that cum without permission? It looks like you want to find out.