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★  Oh it has been a minute! Hello everyonee, I'm back with the pac that was promised! Sorry for the delay, oh it's just, I've been hearing some thunder (literally). Now, let's get straight into it. This pac is focused on first timers and who will be their first romantic partners. Take a deep breath, ask yourself the question and pick the pile that calls to you the most!

DISCLAIMER: this is a general reading it will be as close as possible to your situation but it will not be accurate. take only what resonates. if you want a more accurate reading you can book a reading! 

PILE ONE

Personality wise? Intuitive, loving, good-natured person with whom you'll click with instantly, even though they'll have a hard time expressing their deepest feelings for you. They're going to be somewhat unstable in how they express them - one day super passionate, next day distant. They tend to just avoid addressing emotional issues directly. This is because they’ll carry emotional baggage from previous relationships that will make them struggle to open up to you.

What you’ll like about them is their ability to stay calm, even when things get challenging. For example, if you’re overwhelmed or dealing with stress, they’ll be the type to quietly sit with you, not needing to say much but making you feel supported just by being there. They’re ambitious and hardworking, and though they may struggle to express deep emotions sometimes, they'll be really comforting and stable to you. They’re the type who, after facing a setback, will dust themselves off and keep pushing forward without complaining, which you can find inspiring. Their calm nature will help you feel at ease, (somewhat like some INFJs where their mere presence can calm people down) and while they may not be super expressive or the most touchy-feely, their presence will have a comforting, almost healing effect on you, especially when you need it the most.

In the relationship, their emotional baggage and hesitancy with expressing those deep feelings might make them seem a bit reserved or even detached at first. For example, they’ll take time observing and analyzing, almost like they’re “studying” how things are going instead of going “all in” with romantic gestures. They could be juggling a lot, maybe between work and personal stuff, and sometimes they’ll struggle to keep everything steady. They’re straightforward but can focus on their own needs first if they feel overwhelmed… They’ll be resilient and loyal once committed but will need reassurance that the relationship is worth their energy. They won’t rush or make bold actions. Because of past experiences, they’ll hold back on fully opening up right away, needing to feel truly secure before they can trust deeply. If you push them too fast, they may pull back, but when they finally commit. Once they’re “all in,” you’ll see a different side of them—you know the saying: “Once bitten, twice shy”.

Will you marry them? It’s unlikely this person will be your future spouse. This relationship will be meaningful and bring personal growth for both of you, but eventually, you’ll find that your paths don’t fully align. They’ll be an important part of your journey tho, teaching you a lot about yourself and what you want, but it looks like you’ll each move on to pursue different futures.

PILE TWO

TRIGGER WARNING: Mentions of abusive behavior. Ooh, to be honest I don’t like the magician reversed. This is going to be the longest reading out of all the piles. Your first romantic partner will be pretty charming, their energy will be contagious and they’ll be really smart. But I believe this person to be really immature when you meet them. For some of you they won’t be a good person. I know you entered here to have your hopes up but sometimes things like this can happen. I sense both of you are avoiding growth and when that happens, the universe brings you closer to certain types of people as a wake up call. Maybe a few of you are still quite young and are more susceptible. With that said let’s get into it:

Personality-wise? Again, charming, smart and energetic/fun. Although I believe sly is the real term here, not so much smart lmao. But they're the type who might have big dreams but when it comes to taking real, consistent action, they lose interest or get distracted. They often rush to conclusions without getting all the facts. They tend to avoid taking real accountability when things go wrong. They can be sneaky about getting their way. For example, if they make a mistake at work or in school, they might cover it up or pass the blame to avoid the fallout. If there’s something they want, they might subtly manipulate situations to make it happen. For instance, instead of directly asking you to skip plans, they might plant seeds of doubt, hoping you’ll change your mind on your own. They might brush off conflicts, hoping they’ll just go away instead of addressing them directly. Again, really charming and sly. They have amazing intuition and quick decision-making skills, but doesn't always use this gift wisely: like catching on quickly when someone isn’t being truthful. But instead of using this insight positively, they might turn it into a way to win conversations or prove themselves right, rather than genuinely helping or connecting.

What will you like about them? Well, to explain this it correlates to your lack of growth. You tend to let your guard down too easily, often sacrificing your own happiness and emotional well-being for the sake of keeping the peace. You're still avoiding some necessary growth and maturity in your life. Even when you feel drained emotionally, you might push those feelings aside rather than setting boundaries or confronting them. So because of this, despite seeing the flaws in their personality, you’re still likely to feel a strong pull toward them. They may frequently talk about personal struggles, past issues, or dramatic events in their life. This could be anything from ongoing issues with friends or family to frustrations at work. You find yourself wanting to understand these layers, even if they never quite resolve them. After peeling those layers, you might find they have an inner resilience in them that will impress you, even if it sometimes comes across as stubborn. Their imaginative way of seeing the world, their charm, their intelligence and their dreams will make you feel like life with them could be exciting and filled with possibilities. Their practicality will fly right above your head (sorry for the drag 😭).

In the relationship? In the beginning, this person may be all about the grand gestures—like planning elaborate date nights, surprising you with meaningful gifts, or saying all the right things that make you feel special. That's why you always gotta be suspicious of the grand gestures, specially if they are too soon in the meeting stages (be careful with love bombing). But as time goes on, they struggle with consistency. Maybe they’re super romantic one week, but the next, they’re distant and non-communicative, leaving you wondering where you stand. They’ll make you feel amazing on a fun night out, but if you need someone to talk to about stress or personal challenges, they might shut down or avoid the topic altogether. Remember the part I mentioned of them avoiding conflicts? Well here it is.

When it comes to routines like regularly checking in about your day or planning a future together, they might become disengaged. They might say things like “Let’s just see where things go”, you know, brushing it off, which is a no-no if you’re looking for stability. If you try to bring up your feelings about the relationship or where things are heading, they might change the subject, become defensive, or pull away rather than engaging with your concerns.

This person is likely to be quite manipulative and somewhat fake in their approach to life. They put up strong barriers and tend to be overly protective of their resources - whether that's time, money, or emotions. To put it simply: they may make you feel like you’re asking for too much even when you want basic attention or support. While they might act tough and logical, they actually struggle with emotional immaturity. Like when their own emotions flare up, they’re likely to overreact or act impulsively, revealing that they actually don’t have good control over their emotions. They tend to be manipulative, using tactics like guilt-tripping, withholding affection, or even silent treatment to get what they want or to keep you feeling off-balance. This person keeps parts of their life hidden or vague, making it hard for you to feel close to them. They might dodge questions about their feelings, where they’ve been, or their plans for the future, giving you a sense that they’re always holding back or hiding something.

Regarding marriage potential - absolutely not. You'll likely feel confused about where you stand with them, and while things might feel dreamy and wish-fulfilling at first, there's a lack of real foundation for something long-term. It might seem picture perfect at first, but when you get closer to it, it looks unstable.

PILE THREE

Personality-wise? Charming and smart. They stand out, unlike pile 2 while they are also charming and intelligent, this traits are not overtly malicious or as badly channeled. Now, for the raw traits: When it comes to commitment, they might seem enthusiastic at first, the will express genuine interest and will make you feel like you’re their main priority. But then, when things get more serious, they could pull back or start questioning the relationship. They will be the type to avoid talking about future plans or shy away from labels, leaving you feeling unsure of where you stand. Also, they tend to overthink. Even small decisions might become a source of stress, as they’re often their own biggest critic. They will be someone grounded and quite stubborn, but they could be highly practical and reliable.

You'll be drawn to their unique mix of maturity and playfulness. You'll admire how they can switch from being super focused on their goals (they are quite ambitious tho) to being spontaneously fun (they’re the type to surprise you with random outings or last-minute plans). They keep things interesting to even the simplest of dates. And if they mess up a dinner they cooked or accidentally get lost while driving, they are the type to laugh it off and turn it into a fun moment rather than stressing about it. Their different perspective on life will intrigue you - they might introduce you to new experiences, hobbies, or ways of thinking that you hadn't considered before. Probably related to their ambitions. While they might not be the most organized or conventionally successful person, you'll find their determination and drive quite attractive. This person will make life feel more exciting and vibrant for you.

In the relationship, they'll show a mix of behaviors. While they can be quite romantic and charming (surprise date nights and buying you your favorite album, cooking your favorite dish or buying you a bouquet of flowers), they also have a tendency to be passive-aggressive when dealing with conflicts. Don't get me wrong, they'll genuinely enjoy making you feel special. But when disagreements arise, they might avoid direct confrontation. Leaving you guessing at what’s really bothering them. They will keep certain feelings or vulnerabilities tucked away, and their career or personal ambitions often take center stage, sometimes at the expense of your relationship. This can lead to moments where you feel like you’re not getting their full attention, or even that they’re not completely transparent about their priorities.

You'll likely meet this person through mutual friends or they can be a childhood friend. A classmate or even a coworker for some of you. However, they can be quite rebellious and threw that with that stubbornness of theirs, they will prefer doing things on their own terms most of the time. Overall, someone set on their ways.

Oh, and whether they're your future spouse - while there's potential for a significant relationship that teaches you a lot about love and yourself, this person is likely not your future spouse. This seems more like a stepping stone that prepares you for your future spouse.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

PILE FOUR

Personality-wise? Will be someone who appears strong and protective on the surface, but deep down they will have a sensitive side. They’re resilient and can be emotionally supportive. They are thoughtful, so when life gets tough, they’ll often retreat, not wanting to share their pain or burden anyone else. Ig they’re having a rough week, they might go quiet and pull back from social interactions, choosing to process things alone instead of reaching out.

What you’ll appreciate most about them is their vulnerability and honesty. They’re not perfect and have been through their own heartbreaks, but they’re working to make peace with their past and be open with you. They’ll show you that even with scars, love can grow. Despite sometimes doubting themselves, they’re committed to building something real and meaningful with you, and their willingness to be raw and imperfect is something that will resonate with you deeply.

In the relationship, they'll be quite attentive and nostalgic, often reminiscing about your shared memories - like saving ticket stubs from your first date or recreating special moments. They love celebrating small, meaningful memories and might even keep a box of shared mementos. Think of the type of partner that remembers the anniversaries with a cute meaningful gift (how cute). Will make you feel valued and celebrated. However, they might struggle with expressing vulnerability, sometimes acting controlling due to their own insecurities. They might ask for frequent updates on where you are or get uneasy when you’re spending time with others. Despite this, they'll be emotionally intelligent and caring, even if they may occasionally get lost in their own fears and even anxieties. They’re generally good at reading your feelings and are caring, but they sometimes get lost in their own worries. Like, they might overthink something you said or get stuck in anxious thoughts about the relationship, which can occasionally affect their mood. But I do believe you can easily bring them out of it with communication.

Your first romantic partner will be an adventurous and passionate person. While they sometimes feel stuck in their own mental barriers (like overthinking everything before making a move), they're actually quite successful and satisfied with their life when you meet them. Professionally or in their personal achievements, they’re doing well—maybe they’ve landed a good job, run a successful business, or already reached their dreams. But despite this confidence in other areas, they’ll often hesitate when it comes to romance. They might double-check a message before hitting send or worry too much about saying the “right” thing to you. They probably had some traumatic experiences tho, I sense a difficult upbringing or maybe they were victims of cheating. This makes them careful, sometimes overly so.

Will you marry them? It's not set in stone. So this will likely be a very important and impactful connection to you. A very few of you will get marry to them. The other majority of you will not. You'll both feel a strong pull toward each other, and with patience and dedication, this could lead to something lasting. While there's potential, there are those trust issues to work through first, so it is not going to be a smooth sailing. For a majority of you this can actually be the problem that will pull you apart: the trust issues and unresolved past heartbreaks.

PILE FIVE

Personality-wise? They're emotionally mature and logical, someone who's broken free from toxic patterns in their past (yay! finally!). In emotional situations, they’re likely to stay calm and look for practical solutions. Say you have a disagreement—they won’t get caught up in the heat of the moment but will try to address it diplomatically and with logic. Your first romantic partner seems to be someone who approaches relationships with a level-headed mindset, someone known to keep their emotions under control (not hiding them though nor in a controlling way). They value independence and will not be hesitant to leave what doesn't work for them (love this). Previous experiences have taught them to put their own well-being first. If something feels strange, they don't hesitate to speak out or take a break to evaluate things for a moment. This could be a person who has dealt with some unhealthy partners in their past, and they’re now committed to keep their peace intact and avoid a relationship that could become possessive (controlling) or too emotionally draining. They’ll avoid possessiveness and try not to cling, wanting a partnership that’s healthy and balanced. Someone that knows when to step back if things aren’t working and isn’t easily swayed by sentimentality (while still remaining caring and responsible).

In your relationship, they might struggle with long-term planning at first, but they're genuinely invested in building something stable with you. For example, if you mention planning a big trip together in the distant future, they might say, “Let’s see where we’re at when the time comes.” This isn’t necessarily a lack of interest but reflects their cautious approach to long-term planning until they feel completely sure. They'll be direct in their communication - sometimes almost too direct! (lmao) - and while they take their time processing things (like that awkward pause when you ask about meeting their family), once they make up their mind, they move forward with conviction. Like imagine you ask them: Hey what are we? and they reply with something straightforward like, “I really like you, but I’m figuring out how we fit into each other’s lives.” They won’t sugarcoat or hold back to please you, they will prefer to be honest and clear about their intentions (I mean, sounds great tho). Because once they are in, they will BE fully in.

You'll like that they are passionate, driven and willing. But when it comes to personal matters, especially about themselves, they might downplay their own accomplishments lmao (yk, humble). And at the same time someone that completely changes your perspective on love. They build trust slowly. You may find that they take small steps over time to reveal personal details, like sharing a meaningful childhood memory after several months together. They’re careful about building trust, so their reserved side isn’t disinterest—it’s simply their way of ensuring stability and safety in relationships. So if you ask them what’s wrong they'll be pretty honest with you and won’t play any games unlike previous piles. They're also determined to overcome their challenges and aren't afraid to go after what they want. They’re not the type to give up on a goal or dream, whether that’s in work, personal growth, or the relationship itself. You’ll likely notice that they’re committed to improving themselves and won’t let insecurities hold them back for long.

Will you marry them? As for whether they’re your future spouse, the potential is definitely there. Higher than the other piles.

★  Hello! :D This reading is a surprise and we will be focusing on your future spouse's personality. I'm a sucker for romance so I'm up for 4 piles (which is a lot for me considering I've only started doing free general readings a few weeks ago lmao it can be quite draining).  But will this stop me? absolutely not. This is about your future spouse's personality so it is likely that your spouse is not quite there at the moment (yk, we all mature or are in the process of it). I will also associate CHARACTERS most similar to the description of your future spouse. Take a deep breath, ask yourself the question and pick the pile that calls to you the most!

DISCLAIMER: this is a general reading it will be as close as possible to your situation but it will not be accurate. take only what resonates. if you want a more accurate reading you can book a reading! 

PILE ONE

Your future spouse has a very clear and mature personality. Someone who has undergone significant change. Definitely someone that matured a lot. They have freed themselves from many restrictions and seem to have everything in order when you meet them, both emotionally and financially. They are stable, dependable and again, mature. They don't allow themselves to be crushed by anyone and are resilient. For some of you they will look like they have it all, really. They will be someone who knows how to focus on what really matters without losing sight of their goals. Financial security is something they will have. Your future spouse may have had a crazy, even exciting, past. For a few of you a playboy even. They've matured a lot since then, but still carry that spark of excitement in them only with people they trust. Once you get to know them, they will make you laugh and will be exciting and fun.

You will meet your person when you make an important decision in your life that you struggled to make for a long time. It's as if you finally pluck up the courage to go for something after letting yourself get carried away by doubts or uncertainties. It is when you connect with this version of yourself that you will meet your future life partner. Best of all, new opportunities will surround you and you may meet them abroad (some of you, not all of you!), or when you start a new stage of your life. I feel a sense of freedom, of freshness. And I got really happy reading the cards. You will both be ready to meet one another.

At first the process of getting to know each other may be slow and, dare I say it, there may be misunderstandings. But nothing serious. It sounds like your future spouse is someone who struggles with opening up at all or feeling completely vulnerable. But nothing toxic or dramatic. Will not be someone who is going to play minds games with you. It just won't be a quick process of getting to know each other. You will take things slowly. Or even you, too, may even be cautious about getting to know them. For a few of you, your future spouse might be an introvert. There will be a mutual tension and curiosity in the air. The most extreme thing I see for some is misunderstandings over personal boundaries. For example: one may be too direct or forward and cause the other's personal space to feel threatened. It's nothing that can't be cleared up, though!

For the characters most similar or similar to the energy of your future spouse I have: Howl Pendragon, he's a man who seems to have it all under control, but is actually struggling with an existential crisis and leaving his past behind. They even give a nod to his past as a womanizer. From anime I don't know much, but I think of Itachi Uchiha, again, someone who seems strong, composed, competent and deeply mature, having grown through hardships while maintaining focus on what matters. Mr. Darcy even for the struggle to open up at first lmao. Really hard for me to remember a romantic comedy as close to this person as possible, sorry.

Signs: ISTP, INFJ, ENTJ and INTJ for a few of you. Fire, like Aries, Leo and even Sagittarius in Venus, Moon and Mars is very likely. Scorpio for the transformation. Leo Sun for a few of you. They might have a lot of Earth placements: Taurus definitely higher up there. I know it is a stereotype but that financial stability is something I've seen in people with some strong taurean placements (like a sun, venus or even mars in taurus in the 2nd house). Capricorn is up there too. Saturn trine Moon or Venus.

PILE TWO

I have no other way to describe them than as an interesting book that won't be easy to read, but will keep you hooked, curious and even seduced. I can't help but see that they will be secretive, calm and even aloof but mysterious. They may see romantic relationships in an unconventional way, but this is what will give them an authentic touch. For a few of you, they won't want a traditional marriage. They are, however, a very intelligent person. Very introspective. They are able to read between the lines and notice things that others might not normally notice. For some of you, a person that reads people well before they can even speak. A rich inner world despite being reserved. They are making it so hard to describe them lmao. I believe they are very private and reserved, but they are very seductive once you get to know them. The type who prefers deep conversations to superficial ones. Talk about everything a little bit and have a rich conversation. The type to remember details of the deepest things you have talked to them about or even things that you consider not so important that you have shared with them.

You are going to meet your person when both of you, or just them, are going through a stage where you feel stuck and are looking for a change. They may know that where they are currently gives them stability. Perhaps the job or where they are gives them that security, but they know deep down they needs to let it go and move on. Some of you will meet at a formal meeting, or a business related event. At first it will be a little tense or even uncertain. It is likely that the external situation will not let you two connect immediately. For example: perhaps one of you is looking for a new job, or is starting a business.

You will have palpable chemistry, and for some of you it may not be a marriage as such. You and your future spouse may be slow to make decisions or deal with certain issues. The lack of clarity and perhaps the reserved nature of your future spouse will make things so slow as to create frustration. A feeling that things are not moving forward as you would like them to. The key between the two of you will be learning to work together on communication and whether you both have the same values and vision for life. For some of you this may be a challenging connection. And for a very few of you, I don't see you getting married but this is as close as you will get.

For the characters most similar or similar to the energy of your future spouse I have: Megumi Fushiguro comes in the back of my mind and fits very well. Edward Cullen. Oh! and Giyuu! Miguel O'Hara (mostly because of how methodical, secretive and respected and even intimidating he became to others, not on an antagonistic energy tho).

Signs: Straight up textbook ISTJ for many of you. ISFP, INFJ and for others of you an INTJ. ESTJ for a very veeery few. Definitely a Capricorn/SCORPIO Moon or Capricorn/Scorpio Venus. Taurus Mercury for some. The competitive streak might be explained by a fire sign, maybe an Aries Mars or a Scorpio Mars (scared of y'all).

PILE THREE

A quick thinker. Speaks even faster. A remarkable capacity for analysis and strategy. Quick-witted and intelligent. One of those people who, if you tell them a clever joke, will respond with one that is just as good or even better. Somewhat restless but competitive. Will not tolerate mediocrity in their life. Their mental agility may make them come across a bit cold or cerebral at first. But they are simply very focused and guarded.

Whatever betrayals or hardships they’ve been through have created someone independent. Maybe even too independent, and when they meet you, things might move slowly before they let you in. This future spouse has experienced a lot of pain and sadness in the past, possibly facing betrayals or disappointments. This has led them to be more reserved and emotionally guarded—a gentle soul. They are quite rational, and for a few of you even leaning toward being pessimistic.

When you both meet, you will be looking for balance in your lives. I couldn't help but see the scales in the tarot cards. In short, balance/justice, whether professional or personal. You are likely to meet in a legal proceeding, a shared project, or simply evaluating what deserves to be in your lives that will bring balance or fairness to you. Your future life partner will be at a stage where they recognize that it is important to give and receive in a balanced way (I'm suspecting if either of you has any Libra in you), i.e., evaluating your priorities. Perhaps you will meet in a mediation service, volunteering, or a situation where the key is give and take.

The connection between you will be full of possibilities. You need to remember to set foot on the ground. You won't struggle to see a sky full of possibilities together, your only struggle is to get lost in it. Structure is key! The sky is the limit. It will be a stimulating connection. You will have shared dreams. Your future spouse may be more impetuous in pursuing their ambitions, while you are more likely to be more of a good judge of what steps to take. In short words, you complement each other.

For the characters most similar or similar to the energy of your future spouse I have: Satoru Gojo, he is quick-witted, competitive and even impulsive at times but deeply layered Definitely Flynn Rider. For Ghibli male leads, I could only think of Seiji Amasawa from “Whisper of the Heart,” seems distant but opens up emotionally as he becomes more secure in his relationship with Shizuku.

Signs: Yeah, they scream ENTJ, ESTP and ENTP to me. Air signs a lot too. Gemini is the one that I can definitely see in them, like an Gemini Venus/Mercury/Sun is definitely up here. Sagittarius sun definitely up there. Mars in Aries or Aries anything, really lmao.

PILE FOUR

Your future spouse will exude an aura of happiness! I see a relaxed, optimistic, and self-assured person. A very hardworking person too. Who does not let the bad things in life destroy their spirit. It makes me think of someone who lights up the room with their presence, someone you would not suspect them to have been through so much. They are satisfied with themselves, though they’ve come from difficult times that made them question their emotional stability. A charismatic person, who becomes the center of attention—or even artistic for some of you—who makes you feel like you’re the most special person in the world.

You will meet each other at a time of healing, when you are both leaving difficult situations behind. Situations where you have carried a burden that has left you exhausted.

Your future spouse will be quite committed, and will avoid falling into controlling and possessive dynamics with you. You will have a strong connection because you will have shared values and principles. You will grow emotionally together. Commitment will not feel like an obligation, but will feel natural and by having shared values and principles you will respect each other (wow). For a few of you, you may have to let go of old patterns, because you will be able to find stability without needing to be too dependent on each other.

For the characters most similar or similar to the energy of your future spouse I have: For this pile: Naruto Uzumaki, Yuuji Itadori (sweet, charismatic, unbreakable spirit and green flags). Elle Woods for the infectious energy, values she has (how she never broke her client's trust) and again, the charisma she has. Hashirama Senju (like full, this one a lot for his hardworking and charismatic spirit paired with his strong principles and values).

Signs: This person makes me think a lot about ENFP, ESFJ and ENFJ. From zodiac signs: pisces or water signs. Leo or even Sagittarius. Definitely Libra or even Aquarius. Moon trine Mars: emotional strength paired with action and positivity. They may have only one aspect in a sign and the most likely I can think of is Leo (their childlike ways can be similar to an Aries but Aries turns on as fast as it turns off, this person struggles lmao).

hey, I'm here for the game. Already rebbloged and followed, my initial is M and i'm 24

Who has a big crush on me?

Thank you!! 💙🧜‍♀️🐬

Who has a big crush on M?

10 of wands rx, ace of wands

The person who has a big crush on you is someone who’s recently let go of a lot of mental blocks that held them back before; their shyness is one. They feel a strong attraction to you, but it’s not just about physical chemistry—they also want something more stable and meaningful. However, they’re struggling with their timidity and not expressing their feelings openly yet, even though they’ve definitely been watching you closely, maybe through social media or in casual interactions. They are trying to secretly get intel about you. This is likely someone in your everyday life, quietly admiring you from a distance while trying to figure out how to approach you.

Hi, how are you? ♡

My initials are EL and I'm 19 years old, Leo ♌️

• How can I improve my skills to connect with new people and build genuine relationships? Please.

How can EL improve their skills to connect with new people and build genuine relationships? 

In your current situation your only problem is that you are very misaligned, specifically you give more than you receive. You try too hard to "give" in your relationships disregarding your own needs and values. You need to change that focus: What do you value most in a connection? That they are honest with you? That they have integrity and don't bend their will? For example: That they are honest people or do you value people who connect with spirituality? What we value is not carved in stone—it changes. But it is important for you to know what your core values are. It is also important for you to know what your needs are and whether the connections you have align with them. A simple "I feel..." or "I need..." makes a big difference. Let’s say you value “supportiveness” in friends and when you have an important event you want them to be there for you or even show up (if their calendar isn’t full that day). Like a friend that couldn’t make it to you receiving an achievement and finds a way to “attend” during their lunch break by watching the livestream and leaving comments. Communicating an "I need you to support me in this, because I don't feel valued" or “I need you to support me on this, because I value ‘supportiveness’ (your core value) a lot” will cause you to stop being the only person in charge of giving more than you receive. If others don't listen to your needs despite communicating them or don't align with your values (or both because everything is interchangeable!), you need to let them go. 

If you want to improve your ability to connect with new people and build genuine relationships, your main obstacle is in finding a balance between letting things go and starting over. You experience anxiety in doing so. It's like a fear of the unknown. You may overthink how to approach people, afraid of being taken advantage of again. You have so much to give, but you don't receive what you are looking for, what fulfills you emotionally and makes you feel valued. You end up in a state of discouragement, perhaps even anguish to see the circumstances in a more optimistic way and without fear—of starting over. The best thing you can do is to realize that the happiness and emotional satisfaction you seek in your connections was simply misguided. You need to improve on three things: one, balance how much you give and how much you receive; two, let go of the bad experiences you had by being more optimistic, cutting off the ones that are currently not working for you and letting go of discouragement; three, rethink your focus, communicate your values and needs and prioritize yourself. First you must know that the emotional connections you form with others are not your only way to make you feel full and complete, you have so much love to give and to spare—you can fill yourself without any problem. Don't expect others to fill your cup when you can do it too, and never betray yourself (your values and your needs) to connect with people. You will never lose by prioritizing yourself. 

I was thinking about doing another tarot game for this month like a monthly thing. i thought it could be something cute. but then i remembered we just entered mercury rx preshadow today 😭

hiii! i know i know i’ve been missing. it’s just that my college career is quite demanding. this next months i’ll be trying to find a way to fit this blog into it! thank y’all for your patience<3

ANONYMOUS PARTICIPANTS

I'm going to skip over the anonymous participants who did not clarify who they were on direct messages.

One participant submitted their alias anonymously, but there are several direct messages from others where they just say they submitted their question anonymously without telling me WHO they are. So... I don’t know who's who.

Feedback.

Thank you for the answer and the game. I give everyone same vibe when i meet them this is so true ...😭😭😭✨️ and Thank you for the tips i will sure i practice more to make a note of them in my head...💓💓💓💓

thank you! I would have written more if I had realized in time that you wanted tips, my bad. but i'm glad it could be helpful either way! and good luck with your practices. if you ever have a question i hope i can be of help.

i have 2 more asks left to finally reach 15!

roberto cavalli spring 2004