One Important Thing That Must Be Understood About Interpersonal Relationships Is That You Have To Stop

just a quick note- no trans person has ever said “did you just assume my gender.” trans people are very aware of how their gender and physical appearance differ and that visually one might assume that they are a man/woman when they are actually not. that’s kind of the whole idea of gender dysphoria. 

GETTING INTO BED ON A DECEMBER NIGHT

When I slip beneath the quilt and fold into your warmth, I think we are like the pages of a love letter written thirty years ago that some aging god still reads each day and then tucks back into its envelope.

ELLEN BASS

Robert Kushner - The Queen in Her Boudoir, 2019

hehe yes

when i die all i want is to become on of those cats who lives around archaeological sites in greece and rome, sun myself while surrounded by remnants of antiquity, and make visitors wonder if i am perhaps some reincarnated ancient soul returning to the home i loved millennia ago

reblog and make a wish! this was removed from tumbrl due to “violating one or more of Tumblr’s Community Guidelines”, but since my wish came true the first time, I’m putting it back. :)

Perhaps she was the one who said,       Turn around.

— Portrait of a Lady on Fire, 2019

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How do you cope with seasonal depression

i moved to california

but before that: 

therapy and medication management (always good ideas). 

lots of socks/hoodies/blankets + anything to maximize coziness and improve sensory wellbeing. seriously, buy a super soft blanket.

asmr videos

special attention to sleep schedule to maximize daylight. 

spent time researching tropical places/playing theoretical beach vacations. digital tropical wallpaper, followed photo-heavy blogs featuring things like travel, flowers, sun, etc, anything to change my mental landscape

cultivated soothing rituals. this can be anything (e.g. lots of people like tea). i personally loved taking long hot showers

big one: kept my room clean and inviting. when the outdoors becomes uncomfortable, it’s extra important to make your indoor environment as welcoming as possible.

made a list of favorite shows/movies/comics/books/etc, stuff i’d seen a dozen times before. when worse came to worse, forced myself to choose something to watch/read. really helped distract me through the bad patches.

force-fed self mellow-but-upbeat soundtracks. the music we listen to has a big effect

found exercises i could do easily indoors for 5-15 min at a time (it turns a few minutes of push-ups here and there are way more doable for me than say, jogging or getting to the gym). also a good way to keep my toes warm during winter.

feel free to add!