Brother In Law Bonding

I have not seen one good reason as to why SydCarmy shouldn’t happen. Age gap? They’re maybe 2-3 years apart and both full grown adults. Power imbalance? They very clearly view each other as equals and respect each other deeply (I couldn’t do this without you, You were the best cdc in the u.s.) Professionalism? Many chefs and people who work in the culinary industry have said it’s quite common to have work place relationships. Carmy needs therapy? He can go to therapy AND be in a relationship, many people are. The Bear doesn’t need romance? There are many ships and many canon relationships (CarmyxClaire etc.), yet SydCarmy is the only one you don’t like. They’re better off as friends? Maybe, but many good relationships are a balance of friendship and partnership, so really they can remain besties and be in a romantic relationship.

Actually The Bear is a really good case study on trauma being deemed as abhorrent when it’s not presented in a pretty or digestible way within media including how characters who struggle with it are seen as unlovable. Particularly within Carmen’s character and the audience’s response to his behavior in season 3. Let me start this off by saying I’m not trying excuse any of Carmy’s actions throughout s3, I’m just acknowledging that trauma and it’s effects on the traumatized individual as well the effects on people in their life are complex and unpredictable, furthermore, people who haven’t experienced trauma tend to be more judgmental than compassionate towards them. Carmy is no different; him exhibiting this behavior and a certain part of The Bear fanbase choosing to ignore his past or just plain forgetting it and acting he’s like the worst person to have ever existed for having trauma and experiencing many of it’s ugly side effects. I firmly believe that a big part of this reaction is because many people lack nuance in media and an understanding that nothing is ever truly black and white. There are many shades of grey within humanity and The Bear is one of the few pieces of media that does a wonderful job of showing that. It’s glaringly obvious that Carmy has a multitude of issues that need to be addressed before he can run a successful restaurant and maintain healthy relationships. But None of that makes him an irredeemable or horrible person. It makes him a flawed human being that needs help who is also deserving of love and support. Trauma is far from beautiful and I’m tired of people acting like it needs to be portrayed in media in a sanitized way that erases all the hardships that come with it because they feel uncomfortable when they’re shown the gritty, raw, vulnerable truth of what trauma really is; of what it really does to a person. Carmy is no exception, he is struggling with his mental health in a way that is not pretty and wrapped up in a bow and people can’t handle it because we’re being shown the reality of it. He is angry, lashing out, spiraling, handling his emotions the only way he knows how by throwing himself into his work. I won’t deny that he has treated the people in his life poorly and he will need to earn their forgiveness in his own time. Yet none of that makes him any less worthy of love and patience. He needs professional help but he will only reach out when he’s ready too and even then it won’t go away over night. It can take months, and possibly years to truly heal from every thing he’s been through and after all of that he will still have bad days and he will still be just as worthy of love on those days as he is on the good ones. Struggling with trauma will never make anybody underserving of being treated with kindness or compassion and it will never make anyone any less worthy of being loved.

An addition if I may

so im rereading the hunger games

Listen I know he’s not perfect but there’s not a lot of competition

am i peeping a flashback scene?? The Bear season 3 spoilers

Thinking about how children of Poseidon will always be stronger, have more range than any other big three child.

Like Zeus's domain is mainly in the sky. He's about order. Law. Lightning. Wind. He gets storms as a side product of lightning and wind. But he has control over those; he can make them gentle just as he can make them destructive.

Hades is the dead. His domain is over souls, over the minerals and riches and the fallen mortals, monsters and everything that lies in rest in the earth. He's all about justice for the dead. He doesn't show off his power nearly as much as his brothers because he's more of a judge and overseer than a raging, wrathful god.

But Poseidon? Yes, his domain is the sea but he is so much more. He is also the storm bringer and the earthshaker. He has chaotic power over his brother's primary domains. You'd think that Zeus would be the storm bringer cause he has lightning? No. It's Poseidon. You'd think that Hades would be the earthshaker because the depth of the earth and the underworld is his domain. No. Its Poseidon. And those particular powers that Poseidon has in his brother's domains are not neutral or calm. They are powers of destruction and deadly force. It is not in a storm's nature to be gentle, nor is it in a earthquakes nature to be gentle. Poseidon's powers are predisposed to chaos. (Chaos, the strongest and first of the primordial gods).

And then on top of that, Poseidon has domain over the sea. The sea, which we know even less than our own solar system. Everything from the depth of the sea to the shallow waters. The waves, the creatures within, the monsters within. They're all Poseidon's.

What did Percy say in tlo again? "Kronos knows Poseidon can tip the scales against Typhon?"

Not Zeus, not Hades, not any of the other Olympians or gods. Poseidon.

Yeah.

Poseidon is the strongest Olympian god, and Percy is the strongest demigod and it's not even close.

Maturing is realizing that Luke Castellan was never the villain. The gods and Kronos were. He was just an angry kid who felt forgotten and ignored by his father and the other gods. He was used and manipulated by Kronos the same way the gods used him and other demigods before. And Percy Jackson and the Olympians is about the cycle of abuse and neglect. From Kronos, to the gods, to the demigods; from Kronos who ate his children, to the gods who ignored theirs. Then along comes Percy Jackson, Percy who recognized the cycle and said no more, Percy who used his one gift from the gods to make sure they never let what happened to Luke happen again. No more forgotten and angry children left to fend for themselves, left to grow resentful of gods so much so they end up being used and manipulated by Kronos who was just as bad as the gods and worse. No more Luke Castellans. Maybe Luke didn’t break the cycle but Percy did because of him and that’s so important.

Carmy throughout all of season two while Syd was fighting for her life to get The Bear to the opening

Like Him - Tyler, The Creator

When you realize the revolution all started because of love. Because Peeta burnt the bread and threw it to Katniss so she wouldn’t starve to death. Because Katisss was protecting the only person in the world she was sure she loved when she volunteered as tribute. Because Peeta confessed he had been in Love with Katniss for years. Because Katniss honored Rue when she died by singing to her and surrounding her body with flowers. Because Thresh spared Katniss for protecting Rue. Because Katniss saved Peeta even though she didn’t have to. Because the star crossed lovers couldn’t die in that arena. Because Katniss only ever wanted to save Prim and keep Peeta alive. Because loving others so fiercely was seen as an act of defiance against the Capitol.