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writing east asian characters

as a half east asian person, asian representaion is important to me, and i’m sure it is to all the other asians out there. but incorrect representation is far worse than no representation at all, so here are a few guidelines and things to keep in mind when writing an asian character.  

things to keep in mind when naming:

please don’t make up names that “sound asian”. well known offender: cho chang from harry potter. hearing people mock me when i speak in my asian language by saying “ching chong chang” is bad enough, but making us asians read/hear about a character whose name is a constant reminder of that ignorance and racism really bothers me.

if the character was born in a different country, our first names aren’t always native to our language/country. we may or may not have a traditionally english name. a great example of this used correctly is ethan nakamura, from the percy jackson series.

coming up with a last name is not difficult - at all. just google “common (insert country/ethnicity) last names” and they’ll come up. use this for other ethnicities/races too!

this is really just common sense but don’t give a traditionally korean name to a japanese character, vietnamese name to a chinese character etc. (unless they are multiple ethnicities).

guidelines for physical descriptions:

please…don’t say they have slanted eyes. just don’t.

our skin isn’t yellow. we aren’t lemons. also, the asian race incorporates not just east asians but also filipinos and other much darker skinned people.

many east asians have straight, thick black hair. but again, even within the asian race we are diverse, so this isn’t always true.

of course, if your asian character is being faced with racism, you can have the racist character make fun of their eyes or skin. some asians make fun of themselves, but make sure you check w multiple asians to see if this joke is ok.

writing personalities, characteristics, quirks, etc.

east asians can have any personality, just like any black, white, or hispanic character. they can be mean, they can be nice. just make sure that if you only have one asian character, they aren’t shown as a villain. if you have multiple asians on both the “good” and “bad” sides, that’s perfectly ok.

stereotypes can definitely affect your character. be concious of them.

people’s personalities and quirks are shaped by their parents/how they were raised. an asian kid adopted by white parents is not going to act the same way or entirely fit in with other asians raised by asian parents. their cultures (or their parents cultures) will affect them.  

east asian cultures

asians can be racist to other asians. in the past, koreans and japanese do not get along, and that has really showed in the japanese side of my family. my mother is quick to stereotype koreans she sees, but she does have korean friends she gets along with. racism among asians exists, and it’s not always black and white. rasicm also exists against other races; i’ve heard of an asian daughter who wasn’t allowed by her parents to marry a black man.

asians can have friends of multiple races/ethnicities

not all asians know their respective languages. some only know a little, some are completely fluent.

east asians don’t know everything about other east asian cultures, and can still accidentally insult other cultures. each culture is very different, so do your research on each one.

universal east asian culture things: 1) no shoes in the house. 2) do well in school. 3) strict rules on cleanliness, going out, friendships, relationships, and curfew. 4) mothers always wear slippers for some reason. 5) attacking insolent children with said slippers.

religion is also varied. usually it’s either christianity or buddhism, although there are of course, exceptions. the native japanese religion is shinto.

taiwan was recently the first country to legalize gay marriage, which is good news, but that also means that many asian countries are against it or don’t fully support gayness. not all asians are like this! but it’s common for asian parents to be less understanding of this kind of stuff so keep that in mind if your asian character is going to be gay.

stereotypes and their affects

asians are smart. this one probably came around because many asian parents are very strict when it comes to their child’s education, but strictness doesn’t equal understanding a subject you just don’t get. this stereotype is usually detrimental to asians because people expect too much of them. if they do well, it’s expected and less people congratulate them. if they don’t, they’re shamed for it more.

asians are bad drivers. this one doesn’t affect asians as badly as the smart stereotype, but it’s still insulting.

asians all look alike. again, this one isn’t really that bad, just very annoying. yeah, some of us look similar, but a lot of us are very different. i was once compared to a guy who was fully vietnamese, whose skin must have been at least ten shades darker, with black hair and was on the chubby side. i’m japanese, half white, with brown hair, and definitely thinner than him. if i genuinely look like the person you’re comparing me to, it’s not a problem, but it’s definitely offensive when we’re very different types of asian. we are all different and unique, and it’s important that people respect that. 

it’s important to remember that not all of the things i said are always true - there are always exceptions. i’ve probably missed a lot of things. i also don’t pretend to know about every different kind of east asian. so if you have anything to add, feel free, and if you have any questions about how to portray an asian, ask someone of that ethnicity!

it’s okay if you didn’t realize that you belived in a stereotype or that you might have said something offensive once, as long as you learn from it and don’t do it again in the future. i hope non-east asians learned something from this post. good luck writing your asian characters! heck yea representation

side note: I’ve addressed this in other posts, but the example of cho chang as a bad name and is purely my opinion. many others may disagree, I just thought it was mildly ignorant and shouldn’t be used often. jkr in general is not a good author to model when it comes to representation of any kind. ty!

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Favorite Tony & Peter 5+1 fics??

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my fav???

only one?

i’ll tell you my fav:

Complete

5 times tony forgot peter was just a kid by parkrstark

Five Times Peter Said “Sorry” to Tony Stark by AgentNerd

The 5 Times Tony Stark helped Peter Parker’s Reputation. (And the One Time Peter Helped His.) byDeductionIsKey 

5 Times Peter Parker Didn’t Hug Tony Stark by myglassesaredirty

Give All My Secrets Away by YouAreTheBrightest234 (TransLucas) (5 times Peter hid something from Tony and the one time Tony hid something from him.)

5 Times Peter Acted Older than he Was by RandomFanfictions 

5 Times Everyone Thought Spider-Man was Iron Man’s Favorite Superhero by madasthesea 

Five Times Peter was Tony’s Son and One Time Tony was his Dad by prettyholland 

5 Times Peter Parker Saved Tony Stark by madasthesea

5 times it wasn’t a hug and the 1 time it was by parkrstark

5 Times Peter Fell, and Tony caught him. And the 1 Time Tony didn’t. by eva7673

5 Times Tony Thought Peter Was In Trouble by JBS_Forever

Sickdays Day 4: Not the Norm, Vol. 2 by occasionalspiderfiction (SemiRetiredAuthor), sickficlurker (SemiRetiredAuthor) (5 Times Peter Struggled with Spider Metabolism, +1 Time Tony Helped.)

5 Times Peter Didn’t Say He Was Struggling…And The One Time He Did by Bladam_Shevine

5 Times Peter Needed Tony Stark by hopelesslywanderlust

5 Times Peter Made Tony Laugh Out Loud by grilledcheesing

5 Times Peter Pretended To Be Tougher Than He Was by grilledcheesing

5 Times Tony Didn’t Need To Worry About Peter by grilledcheesing

Five times Peter Accidentally Called Tony Dad, and The One Time Tony Called Him Son. by RikkiBarnes

Five times Peter called Tony “Dad” and one time Tony called Peter “son” by Blissful_Rain

New Addition by Sweet Little Darling (5 times Tony was protective of Peter and the 1 time he couldn’t protect him.)

Surviving Superheroism by spiderstan0spiderstan (Five small ways Tony Stark helped Peter Parker survive super-heroism, and one time Peter helped him.)

Not complete

5 Times Tony Discovered Something About Peter by thesunrises (It’s not complete yet but it is very good.)

Five Times Peter Called Tony Dad by Ervin1182 

5 Times Peter Parker Disobeyed Tony Stark by LannieBae

5 Times Peter Thought Tony Was Mad by caraminha

Carry on Wayward Son by TinyButFierce (Five times the Avengers didn’t meet Tony’s kid and the one time they did.)

Erratum by itsjennasaisquoi (five times Team Cap screwed up + one time they did okay. Tony is very cute in here.)

Five Times Peter Thought Tony Was Going For A Hug, And One Time He Was byChasingAfterMidnight

5 times peter clung to tony by parkrstark

Five Times Peter Didn’t Listen to Tony by LocalGoddess

Spiderman Homecoming - Oblivious by OnlyEscape (5 times people can see the definition of father and son in Tony and Peter.)

Spiderman Homecoming - The Little Things by OnlyEscape (5 times Tony hates Peter’s quirks. And the 1 time Tony loved every little thing about Peter.)

5 Times Peter’s Mental Illness Made Him Stumble And The 1 Time He Refused To Falter by losingmymindtonight

5 Times Tony Regretted Peter’s Enhanced Senses and The 1 Time They Saved Their Lives by losingmymindtonight 

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Welcome to the Family by FriendLey (Peter Parker spends time with Tony’s family.)

I Think Clint Was Right by prettycheese21 (Or that time Clint eavesdropped on a few conversations, came up with a conspiracy theory, and convinced the other Avengers to go along with it. This is close enough to 5+1 things, but SO GOOD.)

This is everyone’s favorite trope, I’m sure there’s more. I will continue adding as time goes by and I remember more. Thanks for asking ;))))))

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