A Quick “why Is My Life So Bad” Checklist

Great view of the Earth from the International Space Station.

We need to get a little uncomfortable for a minute. But it's ok. You have to be uncomfortable in order to grow.

You're going to fail. You're going to disappoint people and yourself. You're going to have moments where you're so overwhelmed that you're curled in a ball crying and frustrated. You're going to miss important milestones. You're going to drop the ball so many times things seem impossible. You're going to fail. You're going to be mean. You're going to be a bad person at points. It's life. It happens. You just need to understand that it happens. And on those days where you want to dissappear and never be seen again because everything is too much, your brain is going to amplify all these faults and failures and make them seem worse.

Babe. We all go through this. We ALL fail. We ALL make awful choices and fuck people and ourselves over. We ALL will have moments where we are the villains. Where we completely fail a lot of people in our lives due to bad decisions. It will happen. Probably multiple times. What matters is that you recognize these things and make appropriate changes in your life to help make sure that next time isn't as bad. Maybe start learning time management so you're not stressed constantly and blowing up on everyone. Maybe find a healthy outlet like painting or the gym or cooking. Find small, simple joys to make life better. It's going to suck. You're going to be the bad guy. But that's not your entire life.

It's uncomfortable and hard to sit with. Sometimes things are your fault. Sometimes you make bad choices and they fuck your life up and fuck others over at the same time. It happens. You can't change the past, but you have the power to change your future. You can change your future. Talk to people. Find yourself outlets. Learn skills. Things get better, but they only do so if you put the effort for them to do so. I love you. You're trying. And that's all you can do. And one day you'll slip backwards and feel so defeated but when that happens, you'll have many tools to help you get even further. I promise babe everything will be ok.

Listen to me babe. Failure is normal and part of the process. If you never fail, you're not making true progress. You're just regurgitating prior process.

I don't know why society is so obsessed with perfectionism and never making a mistake ever, but that's not how it works. You're going to forget to upload an assignment. You're going to miserably fail a test. You're going to get a speeding ticket. You're going to make your little sister sad. You're going to kill some plants. You're going to get that quiz back you were so confident about and realize that you got 1 question right. Those moments are when true learning take place instead of memorization and regurgitation.

This is why in math they make you show all your work and on science and reading they made you explain all your answers and choices with a paragraph. It highlights your thought process so you can analyze where you were right and where you were wrong. And it's ok to be wrong! No one is ever right all the time.

Don't let anyone shame you for being bad at something. Remember that they had to learn to walk and chew and talk and write and read and they didn't succeed the first few times in any of that. We should be building people up and acknowledging their faults as a way to learn and grow, not as a source of shame and despair.

above and below, 2022, ig

i hate this fucking "i'm just a girl" brand of feminism bc it is so easy for young women in their 20s who are afraid of big changes and personal growth to revert to depending on their gender and the associated fragility of it so that they can make it through life when really they're just trapping themselves in a position where they cannot and will not grow out of that fear.

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Life update 🌟

Hello everyone, I have been missing in action for a couple of months, and I haven't really explained myself properly... I have hinted at having some big life changes coming my way, but it was way bigger than I could've anticipated.

Basically, I have lost almost all financial support, so now I have to financially support myself, including paying for the scholarships (which isn't much since I am almost at the end of my Bachelor's degree, thankfully).

It was a very difficult situation, and here and there I really had to strap in to make it thru, but I believe the worst has passed. Now I am financially stable, but I am still struggling with balancing everything on my plate, studies and a full time job. Our curriculum is designed so you only have that on your plate + an internship, not a full time job also. All that combined with my not-so-great mental health... Yeah it's a struggle.

So yeah. I initially made this blog for motivation to finish my studies, but during this time my studies became such a sore spot for me, because all of it made me feel inadequate, since I really struggled to study as much as I've wanted to, and my schoolwork took a massive hit. I know it's silly considering my situation, but that's how I felt, and hell I still do. That is the feeling I have to learn how to deal with.

If you are in a similar situation - please know you are not alone. I know in a sea of pretty pictures and motivational quotes it can feel like you are not doing enough, but you have to live and learn by your tempo... Or your health will pay the price, which is something I am still paying. And hell, it ain't worth it!

Thank you for reading this, lots of love 💝💖💝