Do Not Punish The Behaviour You Want To See

Do not punish the behaviour you want to see

I mean, it seems pretty obvious when you put it like that, right?

But how many families, when an introvert sibling or child makes an effort to socialize,  snarkily say, “So, you’ve decided to join us”?

Or when someone does something they’ve had trouble doing, say, “Why can’t you do that all the time?” (Happened to me, too often.)

Or any sentence containing the word “finally”. 

If someone makes a step, a small step, in a direction you want to encourage, encourage it. Don’t complain about how it’s not enough. Don’t bring up previous stuff. Encourage it.

Because I swear to fucking god there is nothing more soul-killing, more motivation-crushing, than struggling to succeed and finding out that success and failure are both punished.

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6 years ago

HEY ARTISTS!

Do you design a lot of characters living in not-modern eras and you’re tired of combing through google for the perfect outfit references? Well I got good news for you kiddo, this website has you covered! Originally @modmad made a post about it, but her link stopped working and I managed to fix it, so here’s a new post. Basically, this is a costume rental website for plays and stage shows and what not, they have outfits for several different decades from medieval to the 1980s. LOOK AT THIS SELECTION:

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OPEN ANY CATEGORY AND OH LORDY–

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There’s a lot of really specific stuff in here, I design a lot of 1930s characters for my ask blog and with more chapters on the way for the game it belongs to I’m gonna be designing more, and this website is going to be an invaluable reference. I hope this can be useful to my other fellow artists as well! :)

Did you find this helpful? If you’re able, maybe buy me a coffee please? :D


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5 years ago

Yuu: I don't want to lie anymore

Yoichi: Yuu-kun...

Kimizuki: lie about what?

Yuu: it's Mika. I've been dating Mika.

Everyone: Mika?!

Shinoa: Yuu is not the only one!

Narumi: you're dating Mika too?

Shinoa: what? No- I... Mitsuba's always been my best pal, but now I love her.

Kimizuki: wait a minute... Yuu and Mika... Shinoa and Mitsuba? You mean... I've been keeping my relationship with Yoichi a secret this whole time for nothing?!

Yoichi: babe-

Narumi: I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE

Crowley: wait you have a boyfriend?

Narumi: yeah... he's a member of my squad, Shuusaku...

Yoichi: wait a second! Is there anyone else who's going to come out?

Everyone: ...

Crowley: I don't like anyone


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6 years ago

i hradcanon that in an au, yuu loves watching emotional romantic movies. he's a hopeless romantic!!!

YOU ARE SO RIGHT. yuu loves romantic movies sm and he loves the cheesy tropes and believes in soulmates and horoscopes andnsjanksnd

@etherealgrape


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6 years ago

this is old but gold I'M STILL DYING ABOUT THIS HAHAHA

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6 years ago

everytime I say something on a discord server I get a lowkey feeling everyone’s just lookin at me like this

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5 years ago
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5 years ago

They say if you write down your wish on a piece of paper, put it in a glass bottle, and give it to the sea, your wish might come true.

You have made it your mission to sail the seas finding these bottles and making the wishes written on them come true.

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