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Okays, So. I don't think Harry would have been named after nobody I feels as tho James and Lily would have named him after a family member or something. So I always kind headcannoned that James had and older brother named Harry.... but he was a still born. So James would have never grown up with him but he knew he had an older brother and his parents always said that Harry was looking over him, so yeah I think Harry was named after James older brother.

Regulus wears dock's, Evan wears vans and Barty wears converse. Dorcas told me herself

I am a James Potter as the little spoon truther

marlene who forced herself to like guys because she couldn't possibly be a lesbian. no, being a lesbian is gross. it's wrong. she couldn't disappoint her mother like that be some something so gross

still, the first tike she kissed a girl, it felt so right. she cried for two days straight. eventually asking james what was wrong with her. james - who was raised to believe everyone can love whoever they want - didn't understand why marlene was so upset. he explained to her there was nothing wrong with her. why would there be? liking girls while being a girl is as normal as a bloke liking a girl

Preach

A post for men about creepy men

I wrote a post a while back about how some people are very good at getting away with doing intentionally creepy things by passing themselves off as just ~awkward~.

Recently, I noticed a particular pattern that plays out. While creeps can be any gender, there’s a gendered pattern by which creepy men get other men to help them be creepy:

A guy runs over the boundaries of women constantly

He makes them very uncomfortable and creeped out

But he doesn’t do that to guys, and

He doesn’t talk to guys about it in an unambiguous way, and

When he does it in front of guys, he finds a way to make it look deniable

And then some women complain to a man, maybe even a man in charge who is supposed to be responsible for preventing abuse in a space

and he has no idea what they are talking about, since he’s never the target or witness

And he’s had a lot of pleasant interactions with that guy

So he sympathizes with him, and thinks he must mean well but be have trouble with social skills

And then takes no action to get him to stop or to protect women

And so the group stays a place that is safe for predatory men, but not for the women they target

For example:

Mary, Jill, and Susan: Bill, Bob’s been making all of us really uncomfortable. He’s been sitting way too close, making innuendo after everything we say, and making excuses to touch us.

Bill: Wow, I’m surprised to hear that. Bob’s a nice guy, but he’s a little awkward. I’m sure he doesn’t mean anything by it. I’m not comfortable accusing him of something so serious from my position of authority.

What went wrong here?

Bill assumed that, if Bob was actually doing something wrong, he would have noticed.

Bill didn’t think he needed to listen to the women who were telling him about Bob’s creepy actions. He didn’t take seriously the possibility that they were right. 

Bill assumed that women who were uncomfortable with Bob must be at fault; that they must be judging him too harshly or not understanding his awkwardness

Bill told women that he didn’t think that several women complaining about a guy was sufficient reason to think something was wrong

Bill assumed that innocently awkward men should not be confronted about inadvertantly creepy things they do, but rather women should shut up and let them be creepy

A rule of thumb for men:

If several women come to you saying that a man is being creepy towards them, assume that they are seeing something you aren’t

Listen to them about what they tell you

If you like the guy and have no idea what they’re talking about, that means that what he is doing is *not* innocent awkwardness.

If it was innocent awkwardness, he wouldn’t know how to hide it from other men

Men who are actually just awkward and bad at understanding boundaries also make *other men* uncomfortable

If a man is only making women uncomfortable but not men, that probably means he’s doing it on purpose

Take that possibility seriously, and listen to what women tell you about men

tl;dr If you are a man, other men in your circle who are nice to you are creepy towards women. Don’t assume that if something was wrong that you would have noticed; creepy men are good at finding the lines of what other men will tolerate. Listen to women. They know better than you do whether a man is being creepy and threatening towards women; if they think something is wrong, listen and find out why. Don’t tolerate give predatory dudes who are nice to you cover to keep hurting women.

Never a truer statement spoken

(I don't know who the original credit is sorry)

Ima firm believer that Peter, James and Marlene grew up together and act like siblings. Marlene is obviously the oldest, James is the middle child and Peter the youngest. And that Peter and Marlene team up to bully James on things like crushes. Or the Marlene is protective over Peter and James. And Peter and James gave Dorcas the shovel talk but Dorcas just nodded along amused cause she's heard all the embarrassing stories about these two from Marlene.

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