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How to Tell Someone That You’re Suicidal

Everyone gives the same advice: talk to someone. Tell them how you’re feeling. But no one ever tells you how to start that conversation with someone - and it’ll probably be one of the hardest conversations you’ll ever start. But it’s worth it. For starters, it doesn’t matter how you choose to tell someone. In person is fine. Text is fine. Facebook messenger, email, Twitter DM, Facetime, Skype - they’re all fine. There’s no rules of social etiquette here. It doesn’t matter how you tell someone. It matters that you tell them. Secondly, be direct. Saying the words “I am suicidal” is difficult, but they have to be said. Dropping hints won’t always get people to clue in. Most people don’t want to assume that their loved ones are suicidal, or people might be too shy to ask if you want to die. If you can’t bring yourself to say anything else, just say that - I am suicidal. Help me.  If you are struggling to find the words to tell your loved ones what is going on, here are some templates you can use to get started. Feel free to copy them exactly.  Hi. I really don’t want to freak you out, but I’ve got something important to tell you. I have been feeling suicidal lately, and I can’t handle this by myself. I need your help.  I just want to warn you, I have something really upsetting that I need to tell you, and I really need you to stay calm. I’ve been thinking about killing myself, and I don’t know what to do. I need you to help me.  I have a huge favor to ask you, but I have to warn you, it might upset you a little bit. I am suicidal, and I can’t work up the courage to tell my parents. Would you be able to talk to them for me? You might have noticed that I’ve been acting different lately, and I need to tell you what’s going on. I am depressed, and it’s gotten so bad lately that I’ve been thinking about suicide. I know that I need to get help, but I don’t know how. You are the person I trust the most, and I really need your help here.  I know you’ve been worried about me lately, and there’s something I want to confess to you. I’ve been thinking about killing myself lately by [method of suicide]. I really need you to come over and take away [means of suicide]. 

I want you to know that I love you, and what I’m about to tell you is not your fault. I don’t want to live anymore, and I need some help right now to keep me safe.  You might not know this, but I’ve been struggling with depression, and to be honest, I’ve started thinking about suicide. I really need someone to talk to about it. You don’t have to give me advice, I just need someone to listen to me right now.  I’m sorry, but I think I’m in real danger of hurting myself. I am at [address] right now, and I need you to come over here, or phone 911 and tell them to come get me.  If you are feeling suicidal, you need to tell someone. There are people in your life who love you, and they probably don’t realize how much pain you’re in. You just have to tell them that you need help. You don’t even have to type the words - just copy and paste one of those passages to someone you trust, and hit ‘enter’. It’s that easy. You deserve help.  You deserve to live.  Life gets better. It does. Give yourself a chance to see that. 

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“I’ll be a dreamer ‘til the day I die”

— Spirits- The strumbellas

Self care is taking time to relax and listen to Cavetown’s new album Lemon Boy. Especially when you’ve been feeling really anxious lately.

Tag yourself as the dark side of the Marauders

(Warning this is kinda sad)

James Potter: ‘Be My Mistake’ by The 1975

Heart ache and heart break, constant yearning for more, rain racing on window panes, losing those you love, fogged glasses from a cup of coffee, thunderstorms that shake your soul, loneliness and isolation. 

Sirius Black: ‘Come Undone’ by Adam Barnes

A jigsaw piece that doesn’t fit, clouds covering constellations, the ache in your heart, not being able to prove yourself, wind whistling through the trees, doing what is right and yet feeling as though it’s wrong, never being approved. 

Remus Lupin: ‘This Is Home’ by Cavetown

Dreading an event, anxiety and butterflies that feel like eagles, full moons, hating the way you look in the mirror, fog blocking out the hope, the fear of never being loved, walking through the stars at night, cameras that have run out of film. 

Peter Pettigrew: ‘6/10′ by Dodie

Always being the one left out, damp sticks stopping a fire igniting, always last, hunting for approval like a lion hunts for prey, the feeling of lacking something special, dancing on your own, being talked over, broken vinyls. 

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