Hugs can be platonic.
Hand holding can be platonic.
“I love you,” can be platonic.
Cuddling can be platonic.
Kisses can be platonic.
Not all affection is romantic.
“just educate them! they won’t stop being transphobic if you don’t!”
is that before or after they assault me and possibly kill me
History wants so badly for Cleopatra to be beautiful. Like they can’t conceive of Rome being intimidated by anything less
Time Lords are all non binary, so there are no gendered pronouns in Gallifrey. The only reason we hear he/him pronouns used for the Doctor, for example, is because the TARDIS translates it to something his companions are more familiar with.
Erica Cameron, author of Deadly Sweet Lies
I am asexual. It’s a fact of my life now, but it’s one I didn’t discover until I was 29 and trying to recover from an emotionally abusive and manipulative marriage.
I grew up in a liberal, diverse city in South Florida and the available spectrum of sexual orientations was always pretty clear: gay, bisexual, or straight. I could be attracted to anyone of any gender, and that was okay—it was something I knew both in theory and from watching my childhood best friend try to figure out her own sexuality as we grew up.
No one ever mentioned that being attracted to no one was an acceptable option.
Parents, teachers, and even friends told me over the years not to look for too much external validation. Or, at least to avoid letting that validation impact my self-worth. Sometimes, though, something has to be verified, labeled, and categorized by someone who isn’t in my head for my experiences and emotions to feel real and acceptable. That is especially true when the word I was looking for to describe myself didn’t exist in my vocabulary. Not outside the context of the short section in my freshman biology class about the asexual reproduction of amoebas, anyway.
It’s why I vacillate between the urge to laugh and cry when someone questions the need for diversity in books. I was a voracious reader as a child. How different would my life have been if I’d known at 9 or 19 what I discovered at 29 about the sexual identity spectrum? I won’t ever know the answer to that question, but I will try my hardest to be the voice that tells teen readers what I never heard. What I would absolutely love is for my asexual spectrum characters to provide the “Oh my god, that sounds like me” moment for at least one person. Not going to lie; it’s kind of a life goal.
“ah, if people can’t accept who you are, they must change. not you.”
Straight: stays on the first floor
Gay: stays on the second floor
Bisexual: sometimes on the first floor and sometimes the second
Pan: zipping up and down the escalators
Ace/Aro: waiting in the car
I’m sending all of my love to Asexual people at Christmas time. This can be an especially hard time for aces, especially if relatives and friends start questioning them about relationships.
Don’t feel like you have to validate your sexuality or reasons why you do not have a partner this Christmas. You should not be made to feel bad about who you are, especially as we near a new year.
Honestly I love this time of year, but the questions from family members drive me insane. For a long time I sat in silence, not speaking out against how uncomfortable those sort of personal questions made me. Not only did I feel uncomfortable, but I felt guilty for not having a partner/relationship.
I have since discovered that I am on the ace-spectrum. I no longer feel guilty because I no longer believe there is anything wrong with me. I guess that’s the message I wanted to get out today.
Your sexuality does not define you.
Your lack of interest in sex/relationships/ etc does not mean you are broken.
Also, if people make you feel that bad about you not being in a relationship, you should really reevaluate whether you need those people in your life.
You should never feel guilty for who you are.
You are wonderful just the way you are. I wanted to tell you all that because there are probably plenty of people who won’t hear it from family/friends over this winter season.
show some support for your ace/aro pals
yes it's cool when unrequited love isn't treated as this huge tragedy and people can still be friends or accept it and move on but i do love the fucked up dynamic you get when someone is so utterly obsessed with someone else that they beg and plead with them just to be allowed to devote themselves to them like a dog even if they get nothing in return for it. when the love is completely one sided but it isn't any less intense for it.
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