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this is actually the reason WHY i didnt come out for so long

i used to say shit like that before i realized i was a dude, my “friends” used to say shit like that, my mom used to say stuff like that

i was scared of realizing that i was a man due to the way everyone talked about them around me

i was nothing like the men they were saying men acted but was scared so badly of being seen that way that i boxed my thoughts of being trans up and sent them to the back of my mind

it was only until i finally felt comfortable (after i dropped all my those shitty people i called “friends”) that i finally let myself discover who i was

i genderfluided myself into a man and never changed back

this comment is also something i picked up on too

ive literally had a trans woman tell me (who used to act the way listed above) that she and many trans women who act like that are insecure about masculinity due to their transition so take it out on people who want to be masculine

im just tired of the queer community hating me for wanting to be a man

im so tired of radfeminism being the main feminist movement in social media

it isnt actual feminism its hatred in a trench coat wearing a mask with the words “feminism”

Yeah probably if you haven't lived the life of a trans man seeing people go "I don't like when people joke about hating men" or something along that line, it probably sounds mra ish.

But in my everyday life, people only address me as a man when they are using it to insult me. I forgot to do XYZ? That's me being a dumb man. I'm talking too long? I'm mansplaining. Etc etc. These are the only times in my real life that people will address me as a man. That's why we use the term 'malgendering', that's why many hate those "trans inclusive misandry" jokes. Because that's the only thing people are trans inclusive in.

the forbidden fruit of knowledge except it's testosterone

On April 16th 2025 the US federal government has proposed to change the interpretation of the endangered species act so that it no longer protects habitat.

This is open for public comment until the end of May 19th. Please comment and make your voice heard.

Wildlife need their habitat. If the ESA redefines harm so that habitat is no longer protected, the implications for wildlife would be catastrophic.

I’ve seen it too many times. It’s incredibly annoying now so I can’t just say nothing.

When someone calls out transandrophobia, anti-transmasculinity, whatever you’re inclined to call it, and the person who did it is a trans man or transmasc themselves? I need you to understand how deeply irrelevant that is.

Sometimes what you said was just harmful no matter who you are while saying it. Being part of the group being harmed doesn’t tell me that what you said was okay. It tells me you’ll throw yourself and the rest of your own community under the bus for a scrap of approval from the people who want you and everyone like you to get hit by a bus. I don’t know why you expect me not to either be more pissed off or just start to pity you.

“But I’m transmasc” cool so am I, now can we go back to talking about how fucked up it is for you to say what you just said?

AND we need to stop having radfem ideals as the main feminist movement. not only do they often believe this, they also PUSH it as what men will ALWAYS do

radfeminism is no longer about the patriarchy, its about hating men.

radfems often just became or already are sexist, transphobic, and homophobic.

ive seen radfems say that “all men” are the same which INCLUDE CHILDREN!! a CHILD showed signs of sexual abuse but they didnt care BECAUSE it was a male child who went to a female child and pulled her head to his crotch and said “suck”

NO TODDLER WILL DO THAT UNLESS THEY WERE TAUGHT TO AKA SEXUAL. ABUSE.

and radfems OFTEN do and say stuff that tell men that it is completely fine for them to do what they expect all men to do (the crimes that men are statistically more likely to do) which then tells women that they should expect it from them (which then can become victim blaming or even accepting abuse since its “expected”)

the “all men” ideology* is harmful and actively tells men and young boys that it is in their blood and biology to BE harmful people.

one thing people often say (that i agree with) is that we need to stop teaching women to accept abuse from men/defending them and to teach men to stop being abusive. the radfem ideology doesnt do that. it actively tells men that they WILL act that way since its what they always do. it actively HARMS that ideology

*this does not include the “all men” when it comes to randomly in the street, in public, etc. the ideology that you do not know that person therefore they may harm you IS valid. it ISNT valid to say that every man HAVE TO / WILL act a certain way as it tells young boys that they WILL act that way therefore telling them that it is completely fine to act that way. it is just a rebrand of “boys will be boys”

not only that, what about trans people?

do trans men count towards the “not all men” (according to them, it doesnt lmao)

then when you ask them why it often has to do with the fact that we are trans.

if you have to bring up someones PAST identity, the identity they NO LONGER IDENTIFY AS to defend WHY you dont include them in you ideology that has to do with the gender they currently are, then you dont see them as their current identity, only the previous one

as much as i would love to bring up issues that trans women deal with due to radfeminism, i have no clue how to bring it into the conversation as im not a trans women and, due to shitty memory, only remember my own experiences as a trans man when it comes to radfemisim. the og post i reblogged has a wonderful comment speaking on the fact that this also is trans misogyny as it claims that AMABs will always act a certain way, so does it apply to trans women?

again, radfeminism is just transphobia and sexism masked as feminism

it harms everyone. women especially. its essentially telling them that they should expect and accept abuse from men since “it’s what they do”

also, if any radfems see this, im blocking you lmao

this isnt a discussion, argument, etc. between us. i do not care what you have to say

only saying this because ive see a radfem before try to defend themselves in a post talking about the harm of the ideology as a trans man

people gotta stop acting like every single thing a man does is sexually motivated. it's not helping the men who do focus on making things sexually oriented that shouldn't be grow past the behavior. we gotta stop equating every single thing men do to somehow having to do with sex on some level. this is profiling whether or not we want to admit it, and it IS making the problem worse, because it REINFORCES this behavior in men who DO act like this. challenge the notion that all men care about is sex, not reinforce it. all you're doing is being absolutely fucking nasty, and you're especially walking all over sex repulsed men, asexual spectrum men, and men who have sexual trauma.

Androqueerphobia

The term is organized as; Andro + queerphobia - to emphasize that this is a subset of queerphobia, not a subset of "misandry" which is a word that has been thoroughly poisoned by reactionary groups such as MRAs, incels, MGTOW, anti-SJWs, and others.

Definition: Bigotry against queer masculinity & queer manhood. Such as what is faced by butches, nonbinary people, transmasculine people & trans men, intersex men, and men/mascs who are gender nonconforming or otherwise genderqueer.

These are all forms of gender identity, expression, presentation & existence that are distinct from cisnormative patriarchal manhood, and posess proximity to femininity in some way, whether it be societally-imposed or from within. Because of this, queer masculinity & queer manhood is marginalized under patriarchy.

This term is meant to enmesh with similar terms used in queer discussion and is not meant to replace anything. It does not have an ideological backing aside from the belief that queer masculinity and manhood is gender-marginalized and those affected deserve a term to talk about that.

The evolution of (trans) man.

(Well, this one, anyway.)

Age 9: "Tomboy"

Age 15: Strictly enforced femininity

Age 30: Hitting the mental limits of being closeted all his life and about to crash HARD

Age 47: Fifteen years now since starting transition. Far more good days than bad, no regrets.

The world may be full of uncertainty and danger, but I resolve to continue to find joy in who I am. Be joyful to be kind to yourself and be joyful to spite the bastards who would tear us apart.

hate people wanting to shut down conversations about transandrophobia say that trans men and mascs "measurably" experience less violence than trans women and fems

one of the core aspects of transandrophobia is erasure. the rates of violence we face cannot be "measurably" different than anything, because the rates of violence we face are deliberately not measured and erased whenever posssible

the only good thing about being on it is that wearing a thick pad makes it look like i have a slight bulge

just an FYI for trans people in the US right now

[id: reddit post by user spaghettishoestrings titled "(UPDATE) Just lost my healthcare !" with the flair "Celebratory."

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Original post is viewable through my profile. Apologies, since I’m on mobile, I couldn’t hyperlink. The TLDR: my doctor called me on Monday and informed me that their practice would no longer be providing treatment for gender affirming care as a result of a recent presidential Executive Order, even though the EO was for people under 19. Even though I’m 25.

Also, because it was asked a few times, this happened in Michigan, and I’ve been on HRT for 5+ years. It’s a practice that includes like 15+ physicians, and I think that the decision was made over my PCP’s head, given that she once told me that she literally moved states to be able to provide gender affirming care here.

First off, genuinely, thank you so much for all the replies and messages. I genuinely felt frozen after that phone call and didn’t know where to start, and you all really helped me get my feet off the ground.

A couple people mentioned contacting the ACLU, which, truthfully, I thought, “there’s no way that the ACLU will get back to me” but I sent a message anyway. They actually called me a few hours after my post and we talked about the Executive Orders and my rights. They offered to fax my provider a letter reminding them of my rights and some other legal terms. It’s crazy how a post on reddit resulted in my name being on the official ACLU letterhead.

Anyway, today my doctor’s physician assistant called me and shared that their practice is reversing their decision and they will continue to provide gender affirming care. I’m still keeping a bunch of the resources that y’all shared saved, including Planned Parenthood, Plume, and looking into a private endocrinologist.

This whole experience just reminded me how great this community is. I appreciate y’all <3"

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[id: reddit user copurrs commented:]

You should contact Chase Strangio from the ACLU, I believe he is looking for reports of folks being denied their GAC due to these EOs. He's @chasestrangio on IG and Threads.

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