Happy Pride Month Everyone!!!

Not TradWife in a 1950s housewife, modern stepford way but in a post-apocalyptic homesteader, me and my husband vs the world way

This was going to be the year that I started trying to make more friends too, as well as looking for potential partners, because ideally my plan was to have a kid in the next couple years after I get my BSW, and there are, ahem, preceding things that need to happen for that. Looks like those plans got cancelled for this semester, and I only hope this all blows over by the fall semester for that reason. I don’t want to be the girl who’s pushing marriage and kids a few months into dating someone!

Share your petty gripes about how the Coronavirus has messed up your plans. Let’s make a thread of complaints together. It’s okay. They can be as small or stupid as you want.

I’ll start. My petty gripe during this whole thing is that I was saving up to buy a computer and some nice software so I could teach myself special effects and advanced video editing for my backup career plan and now that my job is shut down I have to keep all my savings to apply for grad schools next year and since my summer job got cancelled I might not even have enough for that.

Also my favorite taco shop is shut down and I’m pissed about it!

Anyone else overwhelmed with modern life expectations?

Like I could probably have graduated some housewife school like three times over now. I know the cleaning hacks. I know the social planning. I can perform the femininity, in skirts and pants. I know the sewing (functional and recreational) and the crafts. I can cook very well. I know other people of varying gender identities who can do the same (with or without the femininity, as it were).

What I can’t do is focus long enough to write 16 pages of essay on topics I am burnt out on (because of my university taking away spring break cause the Greek life kids couldn’t be responsible about the pandemic and not party for five minutes last semester), to further my education, for a career I never planned to even have as a kid, so I can be self sufficient (good) and avoid being told I’m wasting my potential (bad). Even though I’m smart enough for it, it’s not what I’m truly passionate about.

It’s all so much, like in another life I could have had a couple kids and a husband and a reasonably clean house and been living my best life by now, but instead all I have are increasingly taxing assignments, the single life, a messy house, no time for anything else and enough stress and anxiety to have been institutionalized over back then. Like I just want to be a homemaker. Thanks capitalism

If my femininity within the context of my own life threatens you to the point that you feel the need to attack my life choices, maybe you need to reevaluate why you feel so threatened by traditional feminity. Because it’s not like I’m asking you to live the same way I do.

I’m just asking for the same freedom you want, to live in a way that makes me happy.

Happy Passover! ~Canary

Chag pesach sameach!

[Image description: A seder plate, with parsley, an egg, horseradish, a shankbone and a beet, charoset, and slices of orange. End ID]

New blog here, 100% agree!!

Anyone else ever follow a seemingly cute tradlife/cottagecore/homesteading blog, only to cringe and hit the unfollow button when you’re scrolling through your dash and see them reblog some vitriolic anti-choice post about how evil abortion is, and how consenting to sex is consenting to pregnancy?? Or is it just me that that happens to all the time?

Clearly I need to find more progressive bloggers with an interest in femininity to follow. I know there are more of us, despite the majority of the community being conservative! To me, there are few things more traditionally feminine than the practice of caring for and protecting ones’ own body and choosing what’s best for it (and your family). Women have been making tinctures to prevent pregnancy (carrot seed, anyone?) and brewing teas to end unwanted ones for literally as long as humanity has existed. Midwifery as a folk practice often included mentoring young women in safe sexual practices for the time, and family planning was of paramount seriousness in a world where childbirth was dangerous and children died so young. Where is my representation for that traditional femininity–the kind that cherishes pregnancy and infants, but understands the importance of being able to choose the right time for them?

I invite anyone who disagrees with this to kindly unfollow me. And for those of you who do agree, please reblog and help me find more like-minded, feminist blogs that still enjoy homemaking and traditional interests!

This extends to people of any gender, too! Women identifying people should get to choose the course of their life without shame, men identifying people should get to choose the same (not this, oh they can choose any career because Privilege, I mean they get to be a homemaker if they want and be gnc if they want without toxic masculinity backlash), nonbinary people, agender people, genderqueer people; no matter what gender (or non-gender) you identify as, the ability to choose one’s own life should be paramount to other peoples’ opinions!

No matter your identity, do what you want to do, do what you love, and don’t let anyone tell you different! 

Making fun of girls who dream of being a wife and stay-at-home-mom actually doesn’t make you progressive or feminist or cool, it just makes you a person who shits on someone else’s dream, a.k.a an asshole 

It honestly amazes me how many of my friends and women I know would love to be homemakers but they are embarrassed to admit it. Its sad that it is assumed that all women should want to be “hustlers” and “boss ladies” and wanting to being a homemaker is seen as outdated and having a lack of ambition. 

I’ll admit that I’m a little shy talking about my true goals sometimes, but when I get to connect with another woman who shares the same aspirations it really means so much to me. 

*Just want to make it clear that I’m not hating on women who have career goals. I love and support them too! 

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Trump will deliver killing blow to the USPS

The USPS is about to declare bankruptcy. It’s at the center of the longstanding plans for disaster recover and has been since the Cold War. It’s the only institution that could (for example) deliver covid meds to every home in America in one day.

https://pluralistic.net/2020/03/25/national-emergency-library/#going-postal

But Congress has decided not to bail out the postal service, despite Art 1, Sec 8 of the US Constitution: “To establish Post Offices and post Roads.”

Maybe it’s because without a USPS we couldn’t have a postal vote in 2020?

https://pluralistic.net/2020/03/27/just-asking-questions/#save-usps

The proximate cause of the post office’s bankruptcy is the pandemic, but that is merely the finishing blow. The USPS was murdered in 2006, when Congress passed the Postal Accountability and Enhancement Act.

https://www.nakedcapitalism.com/2020/04/will-the-united-states-post-office-become-a-victim-of-covid19.html

The Act gave the USPS a mere 10 years to “prefund its future health care benefit payments to retirees for the next 75 years.” That is, to set aside cash to pay medical bills for future employees who hadn’t been born yet.

https://www.govtrack.us/congress/bill.xpd?bill=h109-6407

The Act gave the USPS a mere 10 years to “prefund its future health care benefit payments to retirees for the next 75 years.” That is, to set aside cash to pay medical bills for future employees who hadn’t been born yet.

https://www.govtrack.us/congress/bill.xpd?bill=h109-6407

The USPS’s murder is straight out of the neoliberal playbook: “1 Defund, 2 claim crisis, 3 call for privatizatization, 4 profit!”

As Lambert Strether points out, it was a bipartisan act of murder, cosponored by the “centrist” Democrat Henry Waxman.

Killing the USPS looms large in the Trump admin’s (nonmetaphorical, actual) privatization playbook, “Delivering Government Solutions in the 21st Century Reform Plan and Reorganization Recommendations”:

https://www.whitehouse.gov/wp-content/uploads/2018/06/Government-Reform-and-Reorg-Plan.pdf

The proposals are for USPS to become a Wework clone or franchisee, but not to become a publicly owned bank - a common line of business for other nations’ postal services, natural based on the amounts of cash they handle.

The USPS is the nation’s second largest employer of veterans, with 630,000 employees. Trump is about to allow it to collapse so that UPS, Fedex and other private firms can skim off the most profitable parts of its business and leave rural Americans totally isolated.

The loss of the USPS would mean the loss of the last truly universal federal program in America and would unduly hammer the people whom Trump claims to love – veterans and rural voters.

https://twitter.com/lildipshit3/status/1248741868440940544