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How to ask a provider for money and gifts: feminine tips

this advice is only applicable for provider men and provider men only

your 25 year old boyfriend who’s fresh out of college with a student debt on his back will probably not do these for you

your crush earning 10$ per hour working as a cashier will also not be the correct target for these

this advice works on 

1. men who really, really, REAALLLY like you and want to impress you because they view you as the prize

2. men who have the means to spend on you

first tip on asking men for money is this:

men are your mirror, 

they will mirror back the energy you give off

so if you come to a man all nervous with shifty eyes, hands clasped tightly together saying “oh i don’t know if this is asking too much but i would really like it if you got me xyz” 👉🏽👈🏽

this is a huge ick for a provider man

and he will mirror that energy right back, if you’re not confident asking for money he doesn’t feel good giving it to you

imagine you’re at a job and want to ask for a raise, will you say

“hey guys, not sure if we have the budget for this but it would be really great if i can get a 10% increase” 👉🏽👈🏽

that’s not the energy that you bring when asking for money, 

you have to be confident, straightforward, and ask for money as if it’s the most natural thing, as if you’re asking a waiter for water at a restaurant

here’s a few examples

“babe i’td make me so happy if you bought me these shoes”==> straightforward, you are talking bout your feelings and how HIS action would directly impact your happiness 

“i’d love to wear this dress for you, do you think you can get it for me” ==> you’re making this about him, you want to wear the dress FOR him, you want to represent him well and show off how good he treats you, this is an immediate ego boost for the man, 

+ asking “do you think you can get it for me” is only appropriate if you are in the early dating stage, this is being polite and not entitled but also slightly condescending because you’re questioning if he can do it/afford it, masculine men will want to prove it to you, but as you get comfortable in the relationship you should ask using the method in the  first example

remember, provider men WANT to spend money on you, it makes them feel good, masculine and capable, the only thing they expect back from you is a smile and feminine gratitude, 

“your receiving is your giving!”, aka men get a kick from taking care of their object of affection

so if you act all shy and victim-y or like you’re apologetic that he has to spend money on you, it’s a turn off for him and makes the spending not fun !

gratitude should look like this:

“thank you baby, i love how much you spoil me and take care of me”

 “i love how you show me you love me” 

this makes the man equate spending on you to an act and display of love!

“ you know me so well, you always pick exactly the thing that i want” = praising his attention to details and his dedication to pleasing you

“you’re the only man/ the only one who can do xyz”

men looove when you place them above other men, telling him he’s the only one who can do certain things for you really gets into their head, use this one carefully you don’t want him thinking that he’s the first man that spent money on you or treats you right, you strategically use this one for exceptional occasions. finally, 

how to act when a man doesn’t want to spend on you

never get mad, angry or entitled, 

that man just showed you his true colors and his intentions with you, in true “Elle Woods” fashion, tell him with the sweetest most innocent voice you can muster

“oh i’m sorry i didn’t know you were in a financial difficulty”

this line works like a charm to repel broke men, and to offend stingy men with money, 

if you have the means and you’re not spending then that equals to broke 😉  

my ask is open if you have questions on this specific topic ✨

Started dancing in the mornings while I make coffee again. I’ll be alright