Me While I’m Just Living My Life: Yeah.. I Don’t Get It. Just Don’t Understand Any Of This. Like

You know you're an ENTP when #157

sometimes, your mind is too fast for your mind to realize that you have just made a complete circle in analyzing all the possible perspectives, and you are suddenly wondering why is this subject boring.

Why u gotta be so hateful

i am full of love you dumb son of a bitch

7w8 vs 8w7

7w8: thinks fights are fun

8w7: picks fights for fun

THE ENNEAGRAM INVENTORY

ONES 1.     I like to be organized and orderly. 2.     It is difficult for me to be spontaneous. 3.     I often feel guilty about not getting enough accomplished. 4.     I don’t like it when people break rules. 5.     Incorrect grammar and spelling bother me a lot. 6.     I am idealistic. I want to make the world a better place. 7.     I am almost always on time. 8.     I hold on the resentment for a long time. 9.     I think of myself as being practical, reasonable, and realistic. 10.   When jealous, I become fearful and competitive. 11.   Either I don’t have enough time to relax or I think I shouldn’t relax. 12.   I tend to see things in terms of right or wrong, good or bad. 13.   I analyze major purchases very thoroughly before I make them. 14.   I dread being criticized or judged by others. 15.   I often compare myself with others. 16.   Truth and justice are very important to me. 17.   I often feel that time is running out and there is too much left to do. 18.   I almost always do what I say I will do. 19.   I worry almost constantly. 20.   I love making every detail perfect. TWOS 1.     I want people to feel comfortable coming to me for guidance and advice. 2.     Relationships are more important to me than almost anything. 3.     Sometimes I feel overburdened by people’s dependence on me. 4.     I have trouble asking for what I need. 5.     I crave, yet sometimes fear, intimacy. 6.     I am more comfortable giving than receiving. 7.     I am very sensitive to criticism. 8.     I work hard to overcome all obstacles in a relationship. 9.     I try to be as sensitive and tactful as possible. 10.   When I am alone I know what I want, but when I am with others, I am not sure. 11.   It is very important that others feel comfortable and welcome in my home. 12.   I don’t want my dependence to show. 13.   Watching violence on television and seeing people suffer is unbearable. 14.   Sometimes I feel a deep sense of loneliness. 15.   If I don’t get the closeness I need, I feel sad, hurt, and unimportant. 16.   Sometimes I get physically ill and emotional drained from taking care of everyone else.       17.   I often figure out what others would like in a person, than act that way. 18.   I enjoy giving compliments and telling people that they are special to me. 19.   I am attracted to being with important or powerful people. 20.   People have said I exaggerate too much and am overly emotional. THREES 1.     I am almost always busy. 2.     I like to make to-do lists, progress charts, and schedules for myself. 3.     I don’t mind being asked to work overtime. 4.     I have an optimistic attitude. 5.     I go full force until I get the job done. 6.     I believe in doing things as expediently as possible. 7.     It is important for people to better themselves and live up to their potential. 8.     I’m not interested in talking a lot about my personal life. 9.     I try not to let illness stop me from doing anything. 10.   I hate to see jobs undone. 11.   I tend to put work before other things. 12.   I can’t understand people who are bored. I never run out of things to do. 13.   It is sometimes difficult for me to get in touch with my feelings. 14.   I work very hard to take care of and provide for my family. 15.   I like identifying with competent groups or important people. 16.   I try to present myself well and make a good first impression. 17.   Financial security is extremely important to me. 18.   I generally feel pretty good about myself. 19.   People often look to me to run the show. 20.   I like to stand out in some way. FOURS 1.     Being understood is very important to me. 2.     My friends say they enjoy my warmth and my different way of looking at life. 3.     I can become nonfunctional for hours, days, or weeks when I’m depressed. 4.     I am very sensitive to critical remarks and feel hurt at the tiniest slight. 5.     It really affects me emotionally when I read upsetting stories in the newspaper. 6.     My ideals are very important to me. 7.     I cry easily. Beauty, love, sorrow, and pain really touch me. 8.     My melancholy moods are real and important. I don’t necessarily want to get out of them. 9.     I often long for what others have. 10.   I try to support my friends, especially when they are in crisis. 11.   I live in the past and in the future more than in present–day reality. 12.   I place great importance on my intuition. 13.   I try to control people at times. 14.   I hate insincerity and lack of integrity in others. 15.   I have spent years longing for the great love of my life to come along 16.   I focus on what is wrong with me rather than on what is right. 17.   I like to be seen as one of a kind. 18.   I am always searching for my true self. 19.   Sometimes I feel very uncomfortable and different, like an isolated outsider, even when I’m with my friends. 20.   When people tell me what to do, I often become rebellious and do, or wish I could do, the opposite. FIVES 1.     I learn from observing or reading as opposed to doing. 2.     It’s hard to express my feelings in the moment. 3.     I get lost in my interests and like to be alone with them for hours. 4.     I usually experience my feelings more deeply when I’m by myself. 5.     Sometimes I feel guilty that I’m not generous enough. 6.     I try to conceal my sensitivity to criticism and judgment 7.     Brash, loud people offend me. 8.     Conforming is distasteful to me. 9.     I like to associate with others who have expertise in my field. 10.   I like having a title (doctor, professor, administrator) to feel proud of. 11.   I have been accused of being negative, cynical, and suspicious. 12.   When I feel socially uncomfortable, I often wish could disappear. 13.   I am often reluctant to be assertive or aggressive. 14.   I dislike most social events. I’d rather be alone or with a few people I know well. 15.   I sometimes feel shy or awkward. 16.   I get tired when I’m with people for too long. 17.   I feel different from most people. 18.   I feel invisible. It surprises when anyone notices anything about me. 19.   I don’t look for material possessions to make me happy. 20.   Acting calm is a defense. It makes me feel stronger. SIXES 1.     I am nervous around certain authority figures. 2.     I am often plagued by doubt. 3.     I like to have clear-cut guidelines and to know where I stand. 4.     I am always on the alert for danger. 5.     I take things too seriously. 6.     I constantly question myself about what might go wrong. 7.     I often experience criticism as an attack. 8.     I often obsess about what my partner is thinking. 9.     I can be a very hard worker. 10.   My friends think of me as loyal, supportive, and compassionate. 11.   I’ve been told I have a good sense of humor. 12.   I follow rules closely (a phobic trait); or I often break rules (a counterphobic trait). 13.  The more vulnerable I am in my intimate relationship, the more anxious and testy I become. 14.   I tend to either procrastinate or plunge headlong, even into dangerous situations. 15.   I am very aware of people trying to manipulate me with flattery. 16.   I like predictability. 17.   I have sabotaged my own success. 18.   I can support people through thick and thin. 19.   I like being neat and orderly. It helps me feel more in control of my life. 20.   I dislike pretension in people SEVENS 1.     I enjoy life. I am generally uninhibited and optimistic. 2.     I don’t like being made to feel obligated or beholden. 3.     I am busy and energetic. I seldom get bored if left to do what I want. 4.     I often take verbal or physical risks. 5.     I usually pick upbeat friends who have similar goals. 6.     I’m not an expert in any one thing, but I can do many things well. 7.     My style is to go back and forth from one task to another. I like to keep moving. 8.     I seem to let go of grievances and recover from loss faster than most people I know. 9.     I like myself and I’m good to myself. 10.   I like people and they usually like me. 11.   I usually manage to get what I want. 12.   I value quick wit. 13.   I am idealistic. I want to contribute something to the world. 14.   I vacillate between feeling committed and wanting my freedom and independence. 15.   I am often at ease in groups. 16.   When people are unhappy, I usually try to get them to lighten up and see the bright side. 17.   I love excitement and travel. 18.   Sometimes I feel inferior and sometimes I feel superior to others. 19.   I usually way whatever is on my mind. Sometimes it gets me into trouble. 20.   I can make great sacrifices to help people. EIGHTS 1.     I can be assertive and aggressive when I need to be. 2.     I can’t stand being used or manipulated. 3.     I value being direct and honest; I put my cards on the table. 4.     I am an individualist and a nonconformist. 5.     I respect people who stand up for themselves. 6.     I will go to any lengths to protect those I love 7.     I fight for what is right. 8.     I support the underdog. 9.     Making decisions is not difficult for me. 10.   Self–reliance and independence are important. 11.   I have overindulged in food or drugs. 12.   Some people take offense of my bluntness. 13.   When I enter a new group, I know immediately who the most powerful person is. 14.   I work hard and I know how to get things done. 15.   In a group I am sometimes an observer rather than a participant. 16.   I like excitement and stimulation. Sometimes I like to spar with people, especially when I feel safe. 17.   I am vulnerable and loving when I really trust someone. 18.   Overly nice or flattering people bother me. 19.   Pretense is particularly distasteful to me. NINES 1.     I often feel in union with nature and people. 2.     Making choices can be very difficult. I can see the advantages and disadvantages of every option. 3.     It is sometimes hard for me to know what I want when I’m with other people. 4.     Others see me as peaceful, but inside I often feel anxious. 5.     Instead of tacking what I really need to do, I sometimes do little unimportant things. 6.     When there is unpleasantness going on around me, I just try to think about something else for a while. 7.     I usually prefer walking away from a disagreement to confronting someone. 8.     If I don’t have some routine and structure in my day, I get almost nothing done. 9.     I tend to put things off until the last minute, but I almost always get them done. 10.   I like to be calm and unhurried, but sometimes I overextend myself. 11.   When people try to tell me what to do or try to control me, I get stubborn. 12.   I like to be sure to have time in my day for relaxing. 13.   Sometimes I feel shy and unsure of myself. 14.   I enjoy just hanging out with my partner or friends. 15.   Supportive and harmonious relationships are very important to me. 16.   I am very sensitive about being judged and take criticism personally. 17.   I like to listen and give people support. 18.   I focus more on the positive than on the negative. 19.   I have trouble getting rid of things. 20.   I operate under the principle of inertia: if I’m going, it’s easy to keep going, but I sometimes have a hard time getting started.

Social variants' blind spots explained

Sp-blind: I could take care of myself but meh other things to do

So-blind: I could care ‘bout social behaviour but who cares I do what I want

Sx-blind is lalalasocial behaviour but how to connect with ppl deepness whaattt

“People who think they know everything are a great annoyance to those of us who do.”

INTPs

Enneagram eyes

I’ve seen this kind of observational post done for functions and MBTI types, but not for Enneagram I don’t think?? Disclaimer: based off personal observation.

Feel free to contribute :)

One: (Note: I don’t know many of this type) Least relaxed, gaze can become fixated on one thing in the environment esp. when talking/trying to explain something, bright, slightly strained.

Two: Expressive, attentive, anticipating, reactive, open (but can also look very closed-off if unhealthy - focus overwhelmingly on the other person); often cheerful, ‘alight’.

Three: (Note: I don’t know many of this type) Level, straightforward, superficially expressive, confident, shiny, can look very inexpressive/serious when not interacting with people.

Four: Tired, often compassionate, self-absorbed, self-deprecating, can look cynical; soft, starry, ‘piercing’ but in that you are drawn to look into their eyes not necessarily that they’re invading your soul.

Five: Quiet but not absent, observing, piercing, detached but only purposely, from withholding (compared to 9’s typical ‘floatiness’), direct-facing but not so challenging (as 8) more matter of fact.

Six: Searching and responsive, like they’re waiting for you/the world to make the first move; petitioning, checking, may make a lot of sideways glances in person and in photos.

Seven: Lively, outwardly-focused, often flitting between things in the environment (more so if Ne, more acting-on if Se). When they make direct eye contact and speak, you may feel like they’re using you as an anchor as they run along with their thoughts.

Eight: Very outwardly-focused, intense, direct and challenging like laser beams are coming from their eyes; can look cold, kind of lizard-like but if warm, purposeful.

Nine: Relaxed around eyes, not showing much strong emotion, staring into the distance slightly glazed over, eye contact can be genuine but generally doesn’t emphasise strong ‘alliances’ as such; can look enigmatic.

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Things the Types Need to Hear

ESFP: Look, I get it, you leave people in the dust because you know how crazy and all over the place your life can be and you’re also crazy scared to let somebody in just to have it end up with you accidentally leaving them and both of you getting hurt, but emotional intimacy and real depth in friendships are 100% worth it in the end and it’s the struggle and fight of a lifetime to keep them in your life, but it’s also the greatest gift and you can’t keep denying yourself that intimacy and friendship. 

ISFP: I know you have a lot of great desires and wonderful dreams and they might seem too far off and too crazy and too beautiful to come true, but you have them for a reason, and you gotta stop paralyzing yourself with fear and take that first step and throw yourself into the unknown, and that’s the scariest part, I know, but we both know you’re braver than you look, and that your passion can make it happen. 

ENFP: I know that the moment you hit an obstacle or two when you first start working towards that far off dream, it’s scary and it makes you want to crumble and run away to a new thing like you think you always do, but don’t! You’re miles more tenacious and capable than you give yourself credit for and you’ve got to discipline yourself and trust that your talents and optimism can and will propel you through whatever is keeping you from your goals. 

INFP: I know it’s hard to feel understood and it’s easy to let yourself become bitter by the ways of the world or whatever’s happening, but closing yourself off to others isn’t going to save you the pain. You have a natural capacity to understand others that’s hard for the other types to grasp and when you stop yourself from using that talent, or use it for selfish reasons, you’re doing yourself a massive injustice. 

ESTP: Listen, I totally get that the world is full of fun and interesting things and you want to experience them all, but you’ve got to remember that for a lot of the people that come along with you, they’re there to experience YOU as much as they’re there for the thing itself. Don’t let yourself forget that half the fun of anything is who you’re doing it with. 

ISTP: I know you generally don’t mean to yell or be rude when your irritated and that it’s really just a passing thing and you don’t generally care all that much, but just apologize to people after you’ve calmed down! Explain it to them and that you don’t mean it! Admit to yourself that you care enough about them to try to make amends, even when you’re just being a little crotchety; it means a lot to the feelers lol. 

ENTP: You’re a genuinely fun person to be around and you usually rack up a reputation for that, but just because you’re funny and witty and damn smart doesn’t mean you don’t have feelings and problems that need to be externalized, and trust me, the right people will be more than willing to talk about what’s really happening in your life one minute and go back to elaborate jokes the next without a problem. Don’t stunt your emotional growth for the sake of brevity. 

INTP: It’s okay to not know what to do in an emotional situation. Like, it’s genuinely okay. If somebody’s opening up to you, half the time your presence and you listening is 95% of what they need in that moment. Don’t avoid the situations just because it causes writer’s block emotionally. Emotional availability comes with experience. You’ll learn. Just, be your goofy self and the rest will come with time. 

ENFJ: You’ve got to realize that although holding yourself to such a high standard is noble and praiseworthy, that it sometimes eclipses your ability to be a good friend when that was the goal in the first place. You’re human and can’t do everything for your friends that you’d want to be able to do when they need help, and profusely apologizing and beating yourself up for it just shifts the focus off of helping your friend and turns it to you. Accept your humanity, and just do what you can. They appreciate the help, I promise. 

INFJ: I know you have a tendency to feel misunderstood and want people to show you that they love you and care about you, but you don’t get to say you’re fine AND disappear on people. Either say you’re not okay and pull back, or say you’re okay and stick around long enough for somebody to see through the BS. In my experience, y'all have a habit of making things a self-fulfilling prophecy, and that doesn’t do you any good! Be forward, be honest, and just be vulnerable; they care more than you convince yourself they do. 

ESFJ: I need to be straight with y'all. Learn how to talk about something other than your 4-5 current fixations. In my experience, N’s have a crazy hard time being close with you because you keep bringing the topic back to one of your current Favorite Things™, whether it be the semester abroad you just got back from or the first date that’s scheduled for two weeks from now. Expand your area of interest and you’ll find people will be much more authentic with you. 

ISFJ: You have this really amazing ability to notice the small things about people and that helps you show them you care about them in these really great and meaningful ways, but you can’t let yourself overthink the small things you notice about people. One of my good ISFJ friends started poking around trying to see if alcoholism ran in my family after noticing I’d been drinking wine a lot recently. You might have an intention to help, but overthinking/overanalyzing like that and trying to involve yourself in helping can hurt your friendships. 

ESTJ: Your presence is powerful and intense and that’s great at times, but you’ve got to let out your goofy fun side more, and hoe we’ve all seen it before, you’re a damn riot after a beer or two. People, in general, care more about fun than having every plan go right during the night/event. Be willing to be fun more, you’re so good at it. 

ISTJ: I know you get frustrated with yourself because you want to do new things and get out there and be a fun person, but the thing is, you’re so much better at being a responsible, caring person. Befriend the chaotic, crazy, lovable rascals and let them bring the fun to you (or more often than not, drag you kicking and screaming to where the fun is). 

ENTJ: Look, I’m an INTJ, so I know how hard this is to swallow, but showing you care about a person sometimes isn’t so much giving them solutions to their problems or trying to correct an issue; a lot of the other types literally just want you to listen and hear them out. And you gotta do that sometimes, babe. And shut your damn mouth while they’re telling you everything, okay? Just. Let them finish. 

INTJ: For the love of all that is holy, just cry already. Cry alone if you have to, or better yet, just go to the person you’d literally murder a thousand people for and freakin’ cry about all the crap you’ve been bottling up for the past two months and accept that you can have razor-sharp rationale and be a damn human at the same time. And just admit that you’re insecure about your relationship with that person because you care about them so much and you’re not the best at trusting people.