Plural POV #68

the future should be plural

children should not be abused to the point of their brains physically altering itself and shattering itself to protect itself. Children should not have trauma. Children should not have to go through this. When we say the future is plural it means having a society that supports plural folks and works to make sure people have spaces to heal from trauma. No one is obsessed with traumatizing children to make new systems. Anyone who thinks that doesn't think very highly of children. Just no.

もんんも

"Source trauma" and "exo trauma" is real btw.

You can have trauma from something that didn't actually happen because trauma is a reaction to a distressing event, regardless of the actual event happened. Both are comparable to real trauma, so for the love of god stop acting like introjects can't be traumatized from source.

Fictional introjects can be IN their source, they can come from their source. They are no different from other alters.

They can have real experiences as being that character because they're can be that character and if they genuinely believe they do/are, that's not a bad thing and whether source separation is needed, the alter will come to their own conclusion some day.

making some simply plural custom fields because all the ones i& find are exclusionist.

names ,, nicknames ,, petnames ,, pronouns ,, terms ,,

age ,, maturity ,, birthday ,, formation ,,

species ,, appearance ,, alterhumanity ,, kins ,,

gender ,, romantic orientation ,, sexual orientation ,, mogai labels ,, amory (poly, mono, etc) ,,

languages ,, verbality ,, scribality ,, typing quirks ,,

roles ,, type (fully formed, frag, etc) ,, proxy ,, front frequency ,, clinical type (anp, ep, etc) ,, community type (host, protector, etc) ,, subsys ,, source ,, source connection ,,

dni ,, likes ,, dislikes ,, interaction status (oti, iwc, etc) ,,

front triggers (i& advise not to share these) ,, trauma responses (i& advise not to share these) ,, insys relationships ,, out of sys relationships ,,

hobbies ,, religious beliefs ,, mbti ,,

I would recommend just taking your time. You have a lifetime to figure things out, and from my experience the faster you try to learn about your system/get to know your headmates the more likely you are to have a denial phase. I used to cycle really badly between denial and trying to accept my system, and I only started making progress when I got to a point where I accepted that my little brain guys are around, but I don’t need to figure everything out immediately. Slowly easing into getting to know everyone and listen to them has worked really well for me, but if you find a better way by all means take it :)

guys i set up a simply plural what do i do now

also update: i havent gotten anyone to front yet other than that night

also i can hear my headmates (i think) but it feels like im just imagining them saying things instead of them actually saying things

The sucky thing about being plural and trans is that not everyone inside has figured out my pronouns and some still unintentionally default to feminine terms and she/her pronouns for me and some of the other guys, which just really sucks. I know one or two headmates use she/her pronouns but boy do I want the one caretaker I don’t know well to stop calling me a girl when comforting me :((

Trying to figure out if a couple guys I know of are headmates or if they’re just OCs. Like yeah, they come with their own Vibes, but is that really enough to go off of? I think one fronted earlier but only for like ten seconds so who knows really?? And the other is just a Feeling I’ve had off and on since I was a kid and I put the feeling into an OC and recently I found a journal entry where I(?) was calling myself by his name… but I don’t know… halp….

cracks knuckles ok can we stop acting like alters who stand up for themselves and/or the system are persecutors? can we stop acting like blunt headmates are persecutors? can we stop acting like generally aggressive headmates are persecutors? can we stop acting like headmates that aren't afraid to protect themselves and/or the system are persecutors, even if they go "overboard"? can we stop acting like headmates with social issues and take a while to warm up to new people are persecutors? can we stop demonizing persecutors? can we start listening when headmates say they aren't persecutors or don't want to be referred to in that way? can we be normal about persecutors?

it/its pronouns are not inherently dehumanizing, unless the user wants them to be. it/its pronouns aren't weird. it/its pronouns aren't too hard to use. people who only use it/its pronouns need to have this be respected no matter what your beliefs are. you don't get to single out people with "weird" pronouns and misgender us and use incorrect pronouns. accept someone who uses it/its as you support someone who uses they/them. there's nothing wrong with it/its pronouns. respect its users.

There’s a chance our first fictive from a popular source will be Szeth son-son Vallano. Our only previous fictive is from a tiny tiny source so I need to get my feelings sorted out* before this presence I feel ends up becoming someone xP

*I just don’t know what it will be like to have a mainstream fictive, and uncertainty makes me anxious, of course I’ll treat any new headmates as well as possible