Sweet Tea & God’s Graces(Unreleased) + Mary’s Song (Oh My My My) + Seven

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Do you have any executive dysfunction hacks?? More specifically ones that relate to schoolwork and keeping myself motivated? Love your blog by the way 💖💖

Omg thank you so so much it makes me so happy to hear that you like my blog you are literally the sweetest🥺💕💖💘

I’m really sorry this took so long to answer I have been having the hardest time with executive dysfunction lately (ironically) and I procrastinated answering.

Hackning your executive dysfunction ✨

+Study edition📚📝

#1 Learn your triggers and how to spot executive dysfunction🧠

A lot of times I can tell that certain circumstances makes my executive dysfunction worse. And recognising these ”triggers” can help you become more aware of your behaviors. Knowing what contributes to your executive dysfunction will help you work towards creating strategies to overcome it.

A few examples of my triggers:

Not getting dressed in the morning

Skipping meals🍳

Working from home 🏡

Not washing my face in the morning🧼

Not using my calendar 🗓

Skipping workouts 🏋️‍♀️

Not brushing my teeth

Now a lot of these are tied to my physical health and hygiene and sometimes these are things that my exectutive dysfunction keep me from doing. But I try to look at them as medicine. I have to eat and brush my teeth and workout because it makes my brain and body happy. It’s hard but with practice you’ll get there.

By avoiding your triggers you’re at least setting yourself up for succsess. As silly as it sounds. Getting dressed in the morning can make the difference between lying on the couch all say and having anxiety because I haven’t gotten anything done and actually being productive and beating my executive dysfunction.

#2 Plan everything and write it down🗓✏️

I have a lot of issues with working memory. It’s just not there a lot of days. I forget everything. When I’m trying not to forget things, I’m spending a lot more energy than non ADHD people just trying to remember. Now this is a lot of energy that you can save by simply writing it down. Use a planner or a to do list or fifty of them if you have to.

I use a very simple system for this. I take a piece of paper and write ”to do” then I make 2 seperate colums. Above the first I write ”overall” or something like it. There I write down literally everything I can think of. ”Study” ”shower” ”laundry” ”make to do list” ” ”put away dirty socks” ”think about what to make for dinner” whatever, big or small.

Once that list is finished, I write above the second column ”today” and I pick from the first list what things I need/want to have finished on the same day. Try not to go overboard with this one. Think baby steps. It’s easy to become excited and think that you’re going to do everything because you often will get a burst of energy from planning stuff but stick to maybe 4-5 things a day at first.

Now the hardest part is to keep doing it. Usually you do really good for 2 weeks and then forget about it. Especially when the benefits are starting to show, you tend to forget your system because things are doing so good and then you stop and end up right where you started.

The way I (sort of) solved this was to make weekly ”evaluations”. What I do is I sit down and evaluate how much I planned this week and how much of what I planned I actually acomplished. By doing this I held myself accountable.

#3 ”The one thing” strategy

Now if all else fails despite your best efforts and you have no energy or motivation to do any of the things you want/have to, this is a good strategy to get yourself into a more productive mindset or at least check one thing of your to-do list.

It’s pretty much self-explanatory. You pick one thing and one thing only, even if you have a mountain of things that has to get done. Ignore them. All of them. They don’t exist anymore, they’re poofed out out existance for now.

Instead put your energy into doing one productive thing. After you finished the one thing you’re done. 100% done. No more doing stuff for you. You get to throw yourself back in bed if you like, or get a snack, whatever.

What usually happens however is that you’ll feel more energized and motivated by having completed a task and you’ll feel like continuing. If that’s the case, GREAT, if not you at least got 1 thing done instead of nothing.

#4 Find a studying technique that actually works for you🔑

I’m going to be brutally honest with you. This right here☝🏻☝🏻☝🏻is what made the difference between passing and not passing my exams this year.

I struggled for a really long time with my studies, No matter if I spent 5 hours reading a text book it just. Didn’t. Stick. And I used to get so upset because I was trying sooooo hard and everyone else could do it so why not me? It really lowered my motivation because no matter how hard I tried I always failed.

I watched hundreds of ”how to study” and ”study tips” videos on youtube and read tumblr posts but I still never really understood why I was having such a hard time until I tried using flashcards and it changed my whole view on studying.

It turned out I wasn’t stupid or lazy. I could understand everything on the page but as soon as I had read it, it was gone. I couldn’t remember any of it so it didn’t matter that I actually understood the subject quite well because I could never remember the contents.

What changed the game for me entirely was switching entirely over to flash cards and memory based studying. I went from failing entirely to actually getting really good results.

(A lot of people with ADHD struggle with memory so I would suggest always incorporating a lot of ”memory based” studying even if your best study technique is based on a different strategy)

The moral of the story is that sometimes we struggle without knowing why and it’s only by trying new things that we find out that maybe we weren’t lacking the ability as much as we thought, we just needed the right key to unlock it.

I hope you find some of these tips at least a little bit helpful and i wish you luck with your studies📚✨

Feel free to comment/reblog with your own tips and hacks for executive dysfunction/study motivation☺️✨

PS: This is a sideblog so I reply to comments as @time-for-tea-and-flattery

Can we please talk about how the bridge to Coney Island is a reference to Jake, John, Harry, and Calvin?

Jake: “Were you standing in the hallway with a big cake, happy birthday”

John: “Did I paint your bluest skies the darkest grey?”

Harry: “And when I got into the accident , the sight that flashed before me was your face”

Calvin: “But when I walked up to the podium, I think that I forgot to say your name”

Maybe while re-recording, she was reminded of the moments when her past relationships went downhill. I find this all really interesting and I knew that the bridge was important but I think I see it now. I could be wrong, but it’s fun to theorize ✨❤️

So a few days after I posted this I also just realized that

“And do you miss the rogue, who coaxed you into paradise and left you there?” could possibly be about Tom!

( Edit: omg thanks for all the likes and reblogs! I’m new to tumblr I just started my account a few days ago to vent and talk about Taylor so all the love on this post is so sweet❤️ thank u all!)

Shadow Work

Origins, Meaning and Utility

The Structure of the Mind

Carl Jung theorized the existence of three levels/spheres in the human psyche: the Ego, representing the conscious mind, the Personal Unconscious where memories are contained and the Collective Unconscious, where all knowledge and experiences of the species are shared.

Each Sphere has in it a certain number of Archetypes, used to better describe the components of those structures, and the Shadow is one of them.

What is the Shadow

The shadow can be seen as a instinctual or primitive part of ourselves, it exists as part of the unconscious mind and is composed of repressed ideas, weaknesses, desires, instincts, and shortcomings.

It is this archetype that contains all of the things that are unacceptable not only to society, but also to one's own personal morals and values, normally going against social norms and rules as well as what we personally consider right.

The Shadow is often described as the darker side of the psyche, representing wildness, chaos, and the unknown, and it is common for people to deny this element of their own psyche and instead project it on to others.

The Shadow in Witchcraft and Benefits of Shadow Work

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The Shadow, in witchcraft, can represent The Unknown, hidden depth of ourselves. Speaking in terms of energy, this is an area that can be a deep source of energetic issues, because it’s locked up in the dark and always striving to reach the light.

To not work with one’s Shadow is to make it greedy and aggressive, as well as denying a big part of oneself, making everything a half of a whole.

Through that brief explanation, we can already establish the importance and role of the Shadow in witchcraft, and with that in mind, comes the concept of Shadow Work.

Shadow Work can be seen in a number of practices, meditation, trances, inner journey’s, lucid dreaming, astral travels, spells and divination.

The method can change, but the principle is simple: Centering your intent to self discovery, self knowledge and self acceptance.

Working with one’s Shadow is not only beneficial to one’s craft, as it allows one to get in touch with their intuition as well as allows for easier connection with one’s guide/guides, but it also allows for healing and acceptance of one’s feelings and needs.

Think of all aspects of life as a wheel. If there is one part bent, the wheel can turn, but with more effort. If the owner spends time fixing that bent part, the wheel will turn in a much more smooth manner.

That is what happens when you take the time to do Shadow Work, you have to put in effort, and most of the time it’s not easy, but once done, all other components on the wheel of your life will be relieved to move on without that obstacle that makes their job harder.

The Shadow is not evil, as evil is just a moral compass invented by humans. It is a part of one’s nature, and to deny it is to supress a connection with yourself.

Take the time to know and accept your shadow, and you’ll see that life will be a little easier.

References:

A Natureza da psique (Structure & Dynamics of the Psyche) by C.G. Jung

The Archetypes and the Collective Unconscious by C.G. Jung

Moon Signs’ Positive and Negative Qualities

Positive Aries Moon: Standing up for others, independent, quickly overcoming negative emotions, honest and straightforward, great leaders, optimistic, courageous and not afraid of anything or anybody

Negative Aries Moon: Impatient, exploding when angry, argumentative, throwing tantrums, easily bored, causing confrontations, immature at times, initiating projects but never finishing them

Positive Taurus Moon: Dependable and trustworthy, affectionate, down to earth souls, always reaching towards their goals, never rushing into emotional situations without a thought-out plan

Negative Taurus Moon: Overindulging in food, too concerned with their material possessions, stubborn, lazy and sometimes unmotivated to get up,

Positive Gemini Moon: Keeping things fun, saying the right things at the right moment, intellectual and curious, sharing their knowledge with others, extremely constructive, boundless active imagination, good sense of humor

Negative Gemini Moon: Talking too much, overanalyzing their emotions, having an urge to create arguments, constantly changing what they want, not listening to what others have to say

Positive Cancer Moon: Psychically gifted, offering tender love and support, close bonds to their mothers, selfless and nurturing, knowing when someone is unreliable, sweet souls

Negative Cancer Moon: Clingy, holding grudges, using emotional blackmail to get their own way, shy and nervous, sensitive to people’s opinions, moods change often

Positive Leo Moon: Loyal friends, easy to reason with, magnificent entertainers, assertive, natural leaders that are able to inspire others, educated about a variety of topics, outgoing and enthusiastic  

Negative Leo Moon: Unwilling to share control, overly dramatic and egoistical, not handling rejection very well, hard time holding onto money, seeing it as a necessity to have the last word

Positive Virgo Moon: Helping out their friends, good memory, very honest and with strong morals, keeping things neat and orderly, grounded and stable, taking care of their health, analytical and practical

Negative Virgo Moon: Critical of others and pointing out their flaws too often, perfectionists, obsessed with details, feeling like they’re not good enough  

Positive Libra Moon: Good at socializing, peaceful and harmonious souls, graceful, never wanting to hurt anyone’s feelings, good manners, excellent planners, getting along well with most people

Negative Libra Moon: Indecisive, seeing flaws in everything around them, obsessed with creating balance, easily influenced, tendency for people-pleasing

Positive Scorpio Moon: Not letting themselves be manipulated, natural psychologists, magnetic personality, passionate and attractive, able to walk away from negative situations

Negative Scorpio Moon: Tendency to become evil, jealous and possessive, deep fear of betrayal, sensitive to criticism, having a hard time opening up to others

Positive Sagittarius Moon: Positive and open-minded, fond of learning, adaptable, happy-go-lucky demeanor, great teachers and mentors, interested in travel to foreign lands, making friends easily

Negative Sagittarius Moon: Pushing people’s buttons for fun, thinking they’re always right, running away from darker emotions, switching plans at the last minute, irresponsible

Positive Capricorn Moon: Responsible and mature from a young age, loyal and generous, taking any kind relationship very seriously, humorous, always working towards a goal, never depending on anyone else

Negative Capricorn Moon: Obsessed with proving themselves, melancholic thoughts, afraid to show emotions, too hard on themselves, having trouble letting people in

Positive Aquarius Moon: Doing well with groups and communities, original turn of mind, friendly towards others, valuing equality, not afraid to be different, well-respected amongst their friends, freedom-loving

Negative Aquarius Moon: Emotions are rarely visible, feeling like no one understands them, overthinking everything, very unpredictable, getting too caught up in their own vision

Positive Pisces Moon: Artistically talented, romantic and highly compassionate, having a sixth sense, knowing what others think and feel, vivid imagination, avoiding conflicts

Negative Pisces Moon: Pushing people away when stressed, forgiving too easily, hard to see a situation for what it really is, tendency to become a martyr, stuck in their own reality

mary’s song and seven are about the same person/situation, taylor said she was seven and the other person was nine, mary is the name of the girl in seven, there was a backyard tree and she dared them to kiss her and ran when they tried in mary’s song, if you want to add in inthaf and the childhood friends to marriage thing that’s applicable too...............

Book of Shadows Ideas that Aren’t Basic

sacred geometry

what damages crystals

what is a crystal grid and how do i make one?

candle flame reading

bone correspondences

what is a poppet? how do i use it?

basic alchemical symbols

ways to break a hex

favorite cryptids and their lore

what is your philosophy on witchcraft?

what is a liminal space?

scrying

how to trap a spirit in a jar or mirror

ghost hunting

species of demons

witchy books you’ve read, and a review or rating of the book (go to archive.org for free pdfs for books)

🕊16 days of Shadow Work

✨ Here are the prompts as I promised! They are timeless, whenever they find you, feel free to use them.

Feel free to share your thoughts with me!!

✧ Day 1 What do I need to stop running away from? Why am I always running away from this and what is going to happen if I face it head-on?

✧ Day 2 What is my definition of failure? What’s something that I have previously failed at and how did it make me feel? How can I deal with failure in a healthy way?

✧ Day 3 How do I lie to myself everyday? Why am I doing this and what am I trying to avoid?

✧ Day 4 If I could say one thing to the person who hurt me the most, what would it be and why? How would I feel afterwards? 

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