im going to come out and say it: isolating is a self-destructive behavior. it might not be as obvious and immediately self-destructive as say, impulsive spending, drug use or risky behaviors, but it gradually decays relationships and can deepen your mental health issues. often, our impulse is to retreat from others and responsibilities for “self care” or to “work on ourselves” and obviously sometimes we need mental health breaks, but there’s a line you cross from “taking a break” to full on neglecting your relationships with others and your social needs that can be incredibly damaging to yourself and others over time
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the best advice i have for trying to figure out who you are outside of your mental illness is to try things. try anything that seems remotely interesting and try not to get too caught up in the consequences or whether you’re going to be good at it. of course, this is all within reason - don’t do anything dangerous or illegal, but trying new hobbies and places and ideas is such a good way to find out what you like outside of festering in front of netflix and crying in the shower.
sing off key, or buy a cheap instrument. draw haphazardly. buy books you’ve never heard of. go to a coffee shop and order a drink you’ve never had. try out that recipe you keep seeing online. buy that shirt that catches your eye immediately.
mental illness often takes away who we are and we can lose so much of what makes us us. you may never return to who you were before your illness, but you can become a new person. someone strong and someone you like. trying new things is a good way to build the foundations of that person. keep your head up, you’ll get there.
do it for her (your thirteen year old self)
“When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.”
— Haruki Murakami
I can’t stand people that don’t let me speak hyperbolically. If I can’t respond to a minor inconvenience that someone should get shot in the fucking head for it then what’s the point of it all.
it’s so true that the greatest weapon against nihilism and existential despair is to find joy in the mundane and never stop chasing after love
your mental health is a priority your happiness is a priority your self-care is a priority your existence is a priority