Imagine Growing Old With Her. Imagine Watching As The Wrinkles Come In, Deepening The Lines On Her Face

“i love you” as in

i will help you bear the load

i will cheer you on from the sidelines

i will give you the world

i will make wishes on stars for you

i will be there in the darkest of nights and brightest of mornings

There’s no such thing as work-life balance for neurodivergent & chronically ill people.

This is because everything in my life requires work:

maintaining friendships

keeping up with my hygiene

managing bills

making money

remembering my basic needs

sleeping regularly

outputting creatively

All requires some aspect of work for me.

And when everything in your life requires work, your balance goes out the window.

If you're neurodivergent and overwhelmed — I see you.

If you're chronically ill and overwhelmed — I see you.

You're not dysfunctional.

You're not incapable.

You're doing your best.

Spectrum of overwhelm, now in triangle form due to popular demand

[Image description: A triangle chart titled, ‘Spectrum of Overwhelm.’ The three points are ‘404 Error,’ showing a person with an empty thought bubble; ‘wet beast,’ showing a person sweating and sobbing; and ‘rage beast’ showing a person clenching their fists in an outline of orange fire. The peak is the ‘404 error’ vertex, and the inside of the triangle here is coloured beige and labelled, ‘shutdown.’ The lower half is labelled ‘meltdown’ and is red on the rage beast side and blue on the wet beast side. \End description]

I think it needs to become common knowledge that "inability to read social cues" can show up as overcompensating.

You don't know how much misbehaviour is allowed, so you become the perfect child who never tests rules.

You don't know if someone is irritated with you, so you'll be extra generous and self-effacing.

You don't know how much is expected of you at work so you'll kill yourself in a minimum-wage job and not notice that nobody else is working like this.

"Hardworking and quiet" should be as much of an autism red flag as "ignores rules and doesn't know when to stop talking". Or why don't we just start using words to communicate so i can stop tracking everybody's eyebrow twitches, that would be great.

My autobio collection We Are Here (And Other Queer Comics) is available to download in full on my kofi! That’s right folks! You can buy the harrowing confessions of my soul for just $5!!!

Huge thanks to my professor Jeremy Bushnell for being my advisor on this project, and for the many friends who supported me along my journey 💓🏳️‍🌈 I love you all you’re very cool

also pls don’t feel too bad for me in the comments abt this comic… i have an amazing lesbian girlfriend LMAO

The crux of the anti trans movement is a war on bodily autonomy. They don't want you to have any agency over what you look like, how you dress, who you date, whether to have kids, etc.

They want total control over you. Not just trans people. Not just queer people. You. Everyone.

Trans people are just a scapegoat. They want total control over everyone's self expression. They want the right to mold you into their perfect little cog in their dehumanizing machine.

Happy Trans Day of Visibility. Our rights are your rights. Our destruction is your destruction.

early AT anniversary art

fairy ring fungi 💖🌟

This is the herbologist reward for April! If you'd like these postcards as well as three pages worth of fairy ring fungi folklore and facts, consider joining my patreon for this month - a handful of slots are free!