How It Started, Tnks 4 Sharing

A great advice

Thank you!

We have been married 18 yrs, and we have fantasized about hotwifing for about 8 yrs. Our sex life is great, and we always act out the hotwife idea everytime we have sex by dp and dirty talk. We have discussed about doing it for real several times, but she is too worried about something going wrong like std, moral values, etc. I have gotten very serious about wanting to do this but she wont plan it, although she is showing signs that she really wants to. I have thought of just making it happen.

No no no…. The basis of cuckolding is absolute openness and honesty. It’s not something you can start with deception and hope it ends well. If you want it and she wants it but she can’t pull the trigger then she’s just not ready. If you try to manufacture it without her knowing you open the relationship to resentment and guilt. Even if you could make it happen what happens if it doesn’t go well or she regrets it and blames you? These are things that need to be talked about before hand. You have to be on the same page about everything. That being said there are ways to coax it along. Playing the “would ya” game. “Out of all the people we know who would you fuck if you had the chance?” That kind of thing. Get her talking about it in a real life sense.

Also play the bar game where you go and watch her from afar while she flirts. She doesn’t have to fuck anyone. You could come over and “win” her away from the guy and then go fuck like bunnies. It’s a gradual thing. A frog in a gradually heating pot. Baby steps. But she has to be in agreement as to what the rules are.

But at the end of the day if she can’t do it then she can’t do it. At least you have a sexual wife that you love who is willing to fantasize with you about your deepest desires. There are tons of men who would give their left nut to have what you have.

Play the game but never be deceptive.

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Other good definition

Buena nota

http://www.elgrafico.mx/especiales/tarea/14-09-2017/disfrutan-ser-cornudos Cecilia Rosillo 14/09/2017 - 09:57 Así son los hombres que se excitan al ver a sus mujeres con otros hombres Aunque parezca extraño hay hombres que no sólo disfrutan de ver a sus mujeres teniendo sexo con otros hombres, sino que se excitan hasta el orgasmo. Se les llama Cuckold, término en inglés que significa “cornudo”, es decir, quien tradicionalmente es engañado por su pareja. “Cuckolding” es el acto en sí, que se emplea para la escena de ser engañado de forma consentida. Los Cockold no son swingers, sino matrimonios estables en los que ella se acuesta libremente con todos los hombres que quiere aún delante de su marido, que le es fiel hasta la tumba. Es un estilo de vida alternativo que cobra cada día más adeptos. De hecho, es una práctica más común de lo que muchos piensan y está muy presente en las fantasías eróticas dde hombres y mujeres. Evidentemente van en contra de la idea convencional de que el sexo siempre tiene que quedar dentro de la pareja. Él se mantiene al margen disfrutando de que su esposa tenga sexo con otros hombres más guapos, más dotados o más salvajes. Para estos hombres es un estilo de vida, además se mantienen cien por ciento monógamos mientras la mujer puede disfrutar libremente de su vida sexual; es decir, no hay un límite en sus amantes, tiene licencia para hacer lo que quiera sexualmente, pero siempre informando lo que hace a su pareja y, lo más importante, con quién lo hace. Ellos se asumen como parejas que han dado un paso más, con un grado más de confianza, donde todo se convierte en sexo y nada más. No hay enamoramiento con un tercero. Únicamente es un recurso más para explorar su sexualidad. Este comportamiento de los hombres se ha estudiado desde 1889, se explica a través de un término médico que se refiere al impulso psicológico de un sujeto de exponer a su pareja sexual o imágenes de ella ante otras personas para obtener una gratificación erótica. En una variante de este trastorno del comportamiento sexual, el hombre obtiene placer obligando a su compañera a realizar actos sexuales con otra persona. El fenómeno de excitación dicen los hombres de ciencia, se explica en parte de la siguiente manera: Cuando el hombre está en un grupo donde hay un macho alfa y tiene coito con tu pareja, le entra un instinto de competencia. Entonces hace que se vuelva más cariñoso, más atento, crea estrategias para conservar a esa persona pese a todos los demás. Entre las reglas que existen en ésto está la de que no se incluye a más de tres, porque se consideraría una orgía; ella debe informar a su esposo de sus relaciones con otros hombres sin esconder nada; si el hombre no está durante el sexo, debe recibir material que compruebe los cuernos; debe ser sexo con condón.

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Are you ready for an open relationship?

More and more couples are experimenting with having an open relationship - basically, a relationship where each partner is allowed to have other sexual partners outside the relationship. Open relationships are different from polyamorous relationships; typically, in an open relationship, the couple remains emotionally committed to each other and only allows sexual, non-romantic relationships outside of that couple. Open relationships can be a means to cope with long distance, avoid boredom, or just add some variety to your sex life. They work well for some people, but they do require extra communication if they’re going to work.  If you and your partner are thinking about opening up your relationship, there are some important questions that the two of you need to discuss first. Namely:

Are both of you equally on board with opening the relationship? Or does one partner feel pressured into agreeing with it because they don’t want to lose the relationship? It’s okay if you’re both nervous or hesitant, but if one person is on board and the other one isn’t, that’s a recipe for disaster.

What are you hoping to get out of an open relationship? Why is this arrangement better for you? It’s okay if you both have different answers, but you should both be getting some benefit out of this. Neither of you should feel like you’re only tolerating this for your partner’s sake.

How much do you want to know about each other’s hookups? Do you have to notify your partner in advance when you’re going to hook up with someone? Do they want to hear the details? Or would they prefer not to know anything about it at all?

Are you allowed to hook up with people your partner knows, and vice versa? Are mutual friends off the table? Are you allowed to hook up with casual acquaintances, or people within your social circles? Or total strangers only?

Is your partner allowed to “veto” certain people that you might hook up with, and vice versa? Are there any potential hookups that are totally off the table? Do you have to give your partner a chance to veto a hookup beforehand?

Are you allowed to see the same person repeatedly outside of the relationship? Or is there a one-night-stand only rule?

Are you allowed to hook up with people within the same zip code? Some open arrangements only allow for hookups when one partner goes out of town. 

How are you going to make sure that you’re both being safe and avoiding disease? Are condoms mandatory? Will you both agree to get tested regularly? The answer to both questions should be yes, but it’s important that you both understand how important it is. 

What happens if one of you develops feelings for someone else? Do you have to tell your partner about it? Or just stop seeing the other person?

Is there an end date to the open relationship? Are you only open when you’re apart? Are you going to test this out for a “trial period” and then reassess if you like it? Are you going to continue to be open if/when you move in together, get married or have children?

What happens if one person wants to close the relationship? Does one person wanting to close the relationship mean it’s closed? Or do you both have to agree before that happens?

Are you going to tell people that you’re in an open relationship? How? Are there certain people that you aren’t going to tell, like parents or grandparents? 

Are you going to be okay if your partner has an easy time finding partners and you don’t? Or vice versa? Many people opening up their relationships assume that both partners will have an equally easy time finding people to hook up with, and this is definitely not always the case. 

This seems like a lot of questions and a lot of logistics, but the more you communicate beforehand, and the clearer your boundaries and ground rules are, the more likely you are to have a successful open relationship. An open relationship is supposed to be fun, but that’s not possible if one or both of you is wallowing in hurt feelings. Communicate your needs openly, and don’t be afraid to speak up if there’s a line you absolutely don’t want crossed. 

Great way to start a fantasy! Congrats and thank you for sharing your story.

Our First Step - True Story

This story is a little bit old. We never posted anything on the blog about this event when it first happened because we weren’t really sure how muchof our journey we wanted to chronicle but we’ve recently decided we want everything that can be on the blog to be on it. Its not quite as dirty as the last two either, but its a very important chapter to Amy and me. This was our very very first time of trying anything involving sharing and was the point when we knew it was something we definitely wanted to pursue.

Anyway, avid fans may remember around June Amelia and I disappeared for a few days. We went up to Edinburgh (Scotland for foreign followers) for a few days to celebrate our engagement. While we were there we had a guy from kik offer to meet up with us for drinks at some point during the holiday. Amy wasn’t too sure about this (bear in mind it was literally only a few months previously that I had told her about my fantasies) but I was up for it. After a bit of discussion we decided it was a good opportunity to meet someone new and we were under no obligation to actually do anything with him so we agreed to meet.

We met the guy in a pub and had a few drinks. Amelia was wearing a gorgeous corsetted top that showed off her big tits and neither me or the guy we met were able to keep our eyes off her cleavage! We all hit it off really well and had several drinks together. In fact we got on so well with him that, while he was off getting another drink, Amelia and I were disccusing what we should do with him. We really appreciated him making the effort to come meet with us and wanted to give him something to remember, so we decided Amelia would give him a goodbye kiss. I know that doesn’t sound ground breaking, but keep in mind, this would be the first guy Amy had kissed (that wasn’t me) for seven years and the first time I would see her with another man in any form.

Unfortunately he had to get the train home so we had to cut the party a little shorter than we would have liked. We walked him to the train station and said our goodbyes. Amy gave him a hug and, as he went to move away, pulled him in for what was, in my opinion, the perfect kiss. It was sudden enough that there was no way he could have expected it but lasted long enough for him to know it wasn’t an accident. Then we went out serperate ways. The walk back to our hotel was agonising for me. Just seeing her kiss the guy made me incredibly horny. I was full of energy and unable to stand still. I’m not sure I slept much that night because of the adrenaline!

The next day we decided we had enjoyed ourselves so much the night before that we asked him whether he wanted to meet up again that night as well. He agreed and we made plans to buy alcohol and bring it back to the hotel room this time. We made it clear to him that it wouldn’t go as far as sex but we left the possibility of other things happening open. We met at the same pub as the night before and had a drink there before heading back to the hotel.

Remember, this is the first time we had ever done anything like this, so we were both a little nervous. We knew we wanted something to happen but were a little lost as to how to initiate it so we came up with a bit of a plan. I would go to the bathroom leaving the two of them alone, wait a few minutes, then by the time I came out hopefully stuff would be happening.

The evening went on and we continued having a good time and a laugh. Finally, about an hour before the guy had to go get his train, I got a text from Amy saying simply, ‘Go to the bathroom’. I followed her instruction and waited for a few minutes full of nervous excitement. This was something I had wanted for a long time and it was surreal to me being so close to it. I listened at the door intently, desperately trying to hear what was happening. I could hear them talking but couldn’t make out what was being said. Eventually I had to just leave the bathroom, otherwise I’d have looked a little weird, so I pushed open the door to be greeted to the sight of Amelia making out with him!

She was sat on the edge of the bed, him in a chair next to it and she was proper making out with him. I had to stand in the doorway for a few minutes to take it all in. After a while he moved onto the bed next to her. He had a hand on one of her boobs while she sat on his lap but she grabbed his hand and moved it down between her legs so he could rub her through her tights!

“I saw that, Amelia, you fucking slut,” I said to her with a smile.

“You love it. And so does he,” she replied with cheeky smile before going back to making out with him. Well she definitely wasn’t wrong! I remember this bit vividly. It made me lightheaded and super horny watching her move another guys hand to her pussy!

They were so preoccupied Amy didn’t noticed me move behind her and undo her bra. She slipped it off and let him play with her tits a bit before straddling him on the bed. I got comfy on a chair nearby and watched as she undid his pants and played with his cock while his hands explored her entire body. She spent a bit of time licking his balls (which were really big and nice! Amy said she loved how big and full they were) and started sucking on his cock while he held her hair.

We all wanted to stay like that but we were quickly running out of time so the two of them had to tear themselves away from each other. There was enough time for us to finish our drinks and for Amelia to show us a sexy outfit she had brought up with her before we had to walk him to the station.

This one!

We left our room and they made out more in the lift. Then we walked to the station and they made out more on the platform. Once again we were both incredibly horny but we were forced to say our goodbyes and part ways. The guy said one of the guards watched him and Amy make out, then me walk away with my hand on her ass and gave us a funny look. Hahahahaha!

We still keep in contact with our friend and were very lucky to have found such a nice guy for our first time. I can’t imagine where we would be right now if the meeting had gone badly. It could have put us off the whole thing! 

So, that was our very very first first time doing anything with another guy. And look where its led us! Amy and I are closer than I ever thought possible and we’re hurtling towards my ultimate fantasies coming true!

I just hope we’re able to meet our Scottish friend again so I can thank him for his kindness by letting him fuck the hell out of Amy! ;) - D

Great advice

We're young, and I really do think she's the one, but that makes me worried I'd ruin things by being open about wanting to see her fuck someone else. I know it's kind of contradictory, like if we are meant to be our relationship should be fine after experimenting with sharing, but it's still tough getting the balls to admit it to her.

Most hotwife blogs will tell you not to go through with it given those feelings, but this is not a hotwife blog. I think a little bit of jealousy is hot. And when two dudes are grunting away like a couple of cavemen to satisfy one vixen, I think it’s arousing.

So you don’t want to look weak right? Trust me, if you say something like,

“I think it would be hot competing for you against other alpha males. I would love to prove to you why you married me over and over again. I like the thought of putting you on a pedestal and I feel a flutter of excitement and jealousy when I catch guys looking at you.”

Now stop being a pussy and go eat your wife’s.

#want to share her

I recently discovered your blog, and love it!. I was just wondering; how do you get in to the lifestyle? How does it started? (Hotwifing is actualy my most erotic fantasy) Thanks for sharing :-) And congrats for being a beuatiful, stable couple for so long.

Thank you!!  We got into the lifestyle innocently partying with another couple in our hottub.  Things just kind of happened,  The girls starting flashing and making out and me and the other hubby joined. We had never had a conversation about before then.  We continued to soft swap with the couple several times until we got tired of the drunk fest it had become and the drama between the other couple.  However, we did enjoy the excitement of it and I found it a huge turn on when she was with the other hubby. So, I started looking for straight single males that wanted to play with couples on Craigslist and actually found our first victim.  It was a huge turn on and the guy suggested some Swinger Websites that we should join.  We joined and started going to parties and events to meet people and played on cam in the website chat room.  We played with some couples but mostly MFM.

Defining things... naming is inherent to human nature; here a set of definitions worth to be shared in order to get a better understanding.

Terms & Definitions:

Swingers: Typically a couple in which both partners are allowed to engage in sexual activities with other men and women outside of their relationship, often referred to as “full swap.”

Hotwife:  A wife who has her husband’s permission to engage in sexual activities with other men. Also the term used to describe the fantasy with the same scenario. In this relationship all extra marital activities are approved of by the husband. Trust, respect, and the couple’s love for each other are central to the relationship.

Cuckold: A man in a relationship with a woman who engages in sexual activities with other men and women outside of their relationship, usually with a level of cheating and or humiliation. -Cuckolding

Cuckoldress: The female half of a cuckold relationship. A woman who engages in sex with men other than her husband, usually imposing a level humiliation on her husband about her extra marital activities.

Vixen: One term used to describe a woman in a Hotwife relationship.

Stag: One term used to describe a strong male figure in a Hotwife relationship.

Cucky: A humiliating term used to describe a man in a cuckold relationship.

Bull: The name often given to a wife’s repeat lover in a hotwife or cuckold arrangement

Reclaim: A term used to describe the passionate sex couples often experience the first time they have sex after one of them has has sex with someone outside of their relationship.

Hall Pass: Often used to describe a onetime “free pass” given to one of the members in a relationship to enjoy one sexual encounter with a person outside of the relationship.

Half Open Marriage: Used to describe a relationship in which one member of the relationship has the other‘s permission to enjoy complete sexual freedom, while the one remains completely faithful.

Shared Wife: A wife whose husband “shares” her sexually with other men.

MFM: A three some involving two men and one woman. In this arrangement the men are straight and focus on the woman.

MMF: A three some involving two men and one woman in which the men are bi-sexual and engage in sexual activities with each other as well as the woman.

FMF: A three some involving two women and one man. In this arrangement the women are straight and focus on the man.

FFM: A three some involving two women and one man in which the women are bi-sexual and engage in sexual activities with each other as well as the man.

Humiliation: A sexual kink which usually involves the woman verbally abusing the man about his inadequacies and inability to satisfy her, most often because of his penis size or his lack of stamina.  

Tease and Denial: One partner sexually teases and leads the other on, only to get them excited and then deny them sexual gratification.

Edging: Binging a person right to the edge of orgasm and then slowing or stopping sexual activities thus denying them the pleasure of orgasm.

Ruined Orgasm: Bringing a person right to the point of orgasm, and then stopping resulting in a weak orgasm. This is usually achieved through the use of oral sex or masturbation.

SPH: Small Penis Humiliation, verbal abuse used to humiliate a man about his lack of length and or girth.

Male Chastity: A kink in which the man is most often secured in a chastity device, referred to as a cock cage, and is denied the pleasures of sexual intercourse as well as masturbation.  Couples who engage in this kink often try to push the boundaries of how long the man can go without sexual release. This fetish often includes a level of humiliation as well.

Cock Cage: A metal or plastic device which locks to secure the penis. It is used impede the man’s ability to masturbate as well as achieve a full erection without being release by his key holder.

Key Holder: Most often the wife of a man confined to a cock cage. The key holder has full authority over the man’s ability to and the frequency of orgasms allowed. Often the key holder will use time in the cock cage as a punishment for her dissatisfaction with something the man has said or done.

Pegging: Used to describe a fetish in which the female uses a sex toy or strap on to perform anal sex on her male partner.

Wife Breeding: A fetish in which the wife is involved in unprotected sex with men other than her husband. The men ejaculate in the wife, thus presenting the possibility of pregnancy by men other than the husband.

Clean Up: An activity in which the man cleans up a woman after she has had sex with another man. Most often this is done after a lover has ejaculated into the woman’s vagina and the woman’s partner performs oral sex on her licking up as much of the other man’s sperm as possible.

Sloppy Seconds: A term used to describe the act of having sex with a woman after she has already had sex with another man. Most often after the first man has ejaculated inside of the woman’s vagina creating a “sloppy” situation for the second man.

Size Queen: A woman who prefers man with very large penises. Often with minimum size requirements which must be met before she will engage in sexual intercourse with a man.

BBC: Big Black Cock, used to describe the oversized penis of a black man.

BWC: Big White Cock, used to describe the oversized penis of a white man.

Queen Of Spades: The name sometimes given to a white woman who prefers sex with black men, often with above average penises.

Muy buen relato de como se puede descubrir este tipo de placeres. Gracias por compartirlo.

Como empezó mi fantasía parte 1

Hola a todos los que nos siguen, como muchos saben somos una pareja de México de 28 y 27 años y hoy quiero empezar a contarles como empeze con está fantasía de que otro hombre se cogiera a mi esposa.

Pues déjenme decirles que fue algo raro ya que yo era una persona muy celosa pero todo cambió el día que descubrí que mi esposa tenía contacto con sus amigos y pues como dicen la curiosidad mato al gato, así que revise su celular y pues encontré que charlaba con un compañero en un plan algo cariñoso más no sexoso debo decirles. Hablaban del hermano de el y mi esposa decía que era su cuñado y el amigo le seguía la corriente diciéndole que si.

Sentí coraje pero fue entonces donde noté que también estaba muy excitado y eso que no hablaban nada de sexo. Poco después descubrí una conversación entre el hermano del amigo de mi esposa y ella donde el le proponía un acostón pero mi esposa lo rechazaba pero no por mi si no porque ella le decía que si algún día ella le diera las nalgas sería a su hermano, esto me enfureció pero se me paro la Verga de inmediato y mi mente empezó a imaginar a mi esposa cojiendo con otro y casi me vengo. Unos días después le reclame pudimos arreglar las cosas y aunque me pidió perdón la idea ya se me había quedado en la cabeza.

Si les gustó el relato haganmelo saber para subir la siguiente parte prometo que irá mejorando y les aseguro que es 100% real

Great advice!

Looking to get my gf into the lifestyle or even just open up more sexually without telling her outright, any tips would be welcome!

Show her you love her.

not just in your words, but in your actions too. buy her flowers, buy her a card for no reason, help her around the house, and don’t forget to tell her you love her. Both men and women need to hear “I love you.”

Build her confidence.

Compliment her, tell her she is beautiful, tell her she looks nice in certain outfits, etc. If she has a nice ass, tell her. If she has great tits, tell her.It is important that the compliments are sincere. She will know if you are faking it.  During sex tell her how good it feels, how good she feels, how good she tastes. Tell her how good she is at sucking dick or how good her pussy feels.

Make her feel safe.

She has fantasies, even if she does not tell them to you or says she doesn’t. Open up about something you have never shared. She her it is safe. You’re together and you’re not going to judge each other.

Be honest.

If she asks you a question, no matter how embarrassing or hard the answer is, be honest. Trust is key to a woman’s ability to open up sexually.

Share some porn.

Text her a sexy picture or see if she will watch a porno with you. This is a great way to introduce kinks or to get the conversation started.

TALK.

After you have watched some porn or shared a few tumblr pics, flirt and tease about them. See if she is receptive. If she resists, back off and try again at another time. Once you plant the seed, water it from time to time and her mind will do the rest. She may be into some of the same things, but like you she does not know hot to bring them up. Crack the door for her.

You may need to do these steps for a several months before she starts to feel secure enough to open up, so have patience. If you rush it or try to force it, she will retreat. Remember your relationship should always come before sexual fantasies. Our fantasies are part of who we are, but we all guard them for fear of judgment or rejection. It is YOUR job to take those fears away from her and provide the environment she needs to relax and let go of her fears.

I hope this helps and good luck.

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