The biggest danger in rape culture is that there are so many rapists who don’t think that they’re rapists. “It wasn’t rape, she was making out with me earlier, it doesn’t matter that she’s drunk now.” “It wasn’t rape, I asked if I could kiss her and she said sure, what did she think would happen next?” “It’s not rape, she’s my wife.” “It’s not rape, he’s gay, he should thank me.” “It’s not rape, I told her she could either have sex with me or I would kill myself.” Rape awareness and consent education are crucial, because many many men casually commit sexual assault and don’t realize or won’t admit it because the culture has told them it’s okay, it’s normal, it’s just what guys do. There are rapists that are in denial about what they’ve done because they think they’re good people who would never hurt someone like that, they aren’t a rapist. ‘Not physically fighting back’ isn’t consent. ‘Not screaming and crying’ isn’t consent. ‘Not calling the police afterwards’ isn’t consent.
Okay, this is a very nuanced thing to say and I want people to understand that. But it is actually a fairly common afab experience to hate your breasts when you’re growing up, even for cis women. It can be hard to distinguish dysphoria from the upsetting experiences afab kids have during puberty. Growing breasts can be really upsetting, because now you have to change how you dress, people will look at you, and for too many people you will now be seen as a sexual object and that’s terrifying. It’s extremely common for kids who “develop early” or happen to grow larger than their peers to experience sexual harassment from adults, even though they are children. And this trauma or bad experiences becomes emotionally tied to the breasts. I know a lot of people who binded and thought they were trans/nonbinary and ended up as cis women. But I also know people who were out as trans and nonbinary in high school and still are! A lot of trans men, trans mascs, nonbinary people, and cis women can relate to the experience of having really deep discomfort surrounding their chest, but at the core the reason for their discomfort is different. Gender dysphoria vs body dysmorphia, those two are very similar and can be hard to distinguish, let alone when someone experiences both of them.
“MAiD was administered” means these people were killed. That’s the terminology they use. They don’t even refer to it as euthanasia because it has to be covered in a less oblique term so the people that allow this to happen and carry it out can delude themselves into feeing a little bit better.
the phrases "same-day and next-day MAiD" "influence of caregiver burnout" (after preferred request for hospice and palliative care were denied) … truly some of the most evil statements imaginable
DON'T PUT YOUR TRIGGERS AND/OR PHOBIAS IN YOUR WEBSITES/PINNED POSTS/BIOS/ETC. FOR EVERYONE ON THE INTERNET TO SEE. ONLY TRUSTED PEOPLE SHOULD KNOW THAT INFORMATION, NOT THE WHOLE INTERNET. YOU WILL GET HURT!!! MEAN PEOPLE WILL USE IT AGAINST YOU!!!
the fact that any athlete can be subjected to "gender testing" on a whim because osmeone thinks she is too strong, too fast, just simply Too Good to be a woman is so fucking antifeminist, how can these people not see it?
this speaking as a cis person. Nothing brings me more joy seeing people find gender euphoria in becoming a mediocre representation of humanity. And I mean that so genuinely. Local boy finds joy and fulfillment wearing a cargo shorts and t-shirt combo. Local girl has transitioned to look like someone's disheveled aunt, has never been happier. Local person experiences gender euphoria rocking the world's worst bowl-cut. Without a scap of irony, this shit makes me see the wonder and whimsy in just, being a human. An average, person going through their day-to-day, is a wondrous thing? That's amazing. And heteronormativity has stripped these experiences of their joy. Like you're right, wearing a basic girlypop skirt should make my heart sing. Why not? Why are these expressions lesser because they're normal? All this to say. Shoutout to all the basic bitches out there. Yes that polo shirt does make you look like a divorced golfer dad. Yes, that too is kind of a slay, now that I think of it.
Reductress really taking no prisoners today
Feel free to ignore. This is my “old man yells at cloud” blog, so, let’s see where this shit goes.Qualifications aka basic biographical info: I’m a white queer adult in America and nothing else is any of your business
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