people often talk about "transfem hypervisibility and transmasc erasure" as if these are some equal but opposite forces, but this doesn't account for how transfem hypervisibility is a form of erasure all of its own.
when news panels have debates on trans women's inclusion in sports or bathrooms or society as a whole with no trans women present, that is erasure.
when cis men are hired to play trans women, that is erasure.
when every "family friendly" movie or sitcom you watch growing up has a hateful joke at trans women's expense, from Friends to fucking Shrek, that is erasure.
when the trans panel or trans anthology doesnt feature a single trans woman, that is erasure.
when people justify our exclusion because "trans women are already talked about enough, when is it our turn?" that is erasure.
erasure is not only "not being talked about." erasure is also being talked over, excluded from discussions about your own lived experience. when you meet someone who has never heard of someome like you, you get to introduce yourself, you have influence over how they see people like you. when you meet someone who has heard all about you, but never from anyone like you, when they only know you from mean spirited jokes, from porn, from politicians calling you a pedophile, well, the trans violence statistics speak for themselves.
trans women, i love you.
you were a woman yesterday. you're a woman today. you're a woman tomorrow. you're a woman forever.
trans women have existed long before those stuffy bigots sitting in a court room have. trans women will continue to exist long after they're dead and rotting in the earth.
This is not a hill I’m willing to die on, I’ll hear other takes, but imo the term ‘straight-passing relationship’ is not intended to refer to a relationship with a cis man and a cis woman who are both queer. Straight-passing relationship to me refers to couples like, one or both is nonbinary, gender-fluid, closeted trans and only out to their partner etc. Or a sapphic couple with a butch that often passes as a man or a gnc couple that looks like they might be a cis man and woman but actually aren’t.
Seeing a bisexual man and a bisexual woman call their relationship straight-passing feels wrong to me. They themselves might straight-passing, but there’s a difference between an individual person being straight passing and a relationship being straight passing. Their relationship is actually, by social standards, straight, even though the people in it are not. I’m not invalidating queer people in opposite gender relationships, they are still always queer no matter who they date, but calling a relationship between a cis man and woman queer feels wrong to me.
Miss Piggy's response to misogyny and fatphobia is physical violence and I think we should all take something from that
“MAiD was administered” means these people were killed. That’s the terminology they use. They don’t even refer to it as euthanasia because it has to be covered in a less oblique term so the people that allow this to happen and carry it out can delude themselves into feeing a little bit better.
the phrases "same-day and next-day MAiD" "influence of caregiver burnout" (after preferred request for hospice and palliative care were denied) … truly some of the most evil statements imaginable
You can separate the art from the artist, but you cannot separate the artist from that art's profit.
Unfollow this account if you're transautistic, transadhd, any of that bullshit. (Not talking about people who're trans and autistic, talking about transid people)
"But it's how I-" No.
"You can't control how I-" No.
You are neurotypical, calling yourself an identity that is for neurodivergent people. That's fine, except when neurodivergent people tell you to stop. Then you should stop. You have no argument for not stopping.
"But self-diagnosis-" No.
There's a difference between self-diagnosing and being transautistic.
Transautistic is saying "I'm not autistic, but I feel like I should have autism, and now I'm one of you!" And then I will respond by calling you ableist and punching you in the face.
Self-diagnosing is saying "Hey. I'm not diagnosed, but if I went to a good doctor, I think they would diagnose me with autism." And then I go "Oh, what are your symptoms? I have autism, I can help."
If you think you have autism, just self diagnose.
If you want to have autism, fuck off.
the fact that so many ppl view slurs and oppression as cool exclusive clubs to claim access to, tells me a lot of ppl have never genuinely experienced violence before.
Performative feminism is a most annoying aspect of our times.
People on this website are committed to misusing and redefining useful words in ways that make them useless as if it's a super great and radical act.
"Kink can be non-sexual if you just [describes participating in a hobby]" "afab transfems are real because transfem is just when you are trans and fem" "chaser is when you think trans women are hot and you really like them". Why even fucking use these words if you don't care about what they mean? Why use them? Do you even even think about what the point of any of these words is or do you only care about your dick measuring contest for who's more punk and who's got the most esoteric definitions?
Your honor, manslaughter actually doesn't have to be about accidentally killing someone. It can be about giving someone a bouquet of flowers.
Feel free to ignore. This is my “old man yells at cloud” blog, so, let’s see where this shit goes.Qualifications aka basic biographical info: I’m a white queer adult in America and nothing else is any of your business
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