Going Out Of Your Way To Search Up [insert Character] ANGST And All You Get Is Smut

does anyone else get, like, jealous when a fictional character dates or has a crush on another character?

... no? just me?

It feels like I am screaming into the void here but please PLEASE PLEASE PLEASEEEEEEE MORE PEOPLE NEED TO WRITE FOR DEXTER MORGAN AND/OR BRIAN MOSER/RUDY COOPER.😭😭😭

I was honestly SHOCKED by how little content about the two is on here and I've recently been sucked into the phase again where I want to read stuff for them every single free second I have. It's so frustrating to see almost nothing being uploaded, it honestly feels like there's only 1 or 2 writers left, which I'm beyond grateful for bc otherwise I think I would have already gone through the roof (is that even an expression?).☠️

So if anyone has anything at all for either one of them, PLEASE, I BEG YOU, post it. I'm taking literal crumbs at this point.

(I know of at least one other person who's also hyperfixated right now so I hope there are more of us out there👀)

If you want to write for them and don't have any idea what to write about, PLEASE comment here or post that you need requests, the other person (who doesn't want to be mentioned🙄) has tons of ideas, and I'd honestly read just about anything.😅

Thank you for coming to my TED-Talk!

My Modern Met

Study Shows That Reaching Out to Old Friends Is More Appreciated Than We Might Think

Yes, send that "How's it going?" text!

"It's easy to lose touch with friends, especially when you live far apart. And sometimes the longer you've gone without speaking to someone, the harder it feels to pick up where you left off. However, a new study suggests that reaching out to pals—especially ones that you have not talked to in a while—is even more appreciated than initially thought.

“People are fundamentally social beings and enjoy connecting with others. Yet, despite the importance and enjoyment of social connection, do people accurately understand how much other people value being reached out to by someone in their social circle?” the study asks. To answer this question, the authors gathered 5,900 participants and put them through a series of experiments.

In one scenario, half of the participants were asked to remember the last time they contacted a friend they had fallen out of touch with, then estimate on a seven-point scale how appreciative the person was (with one being the lowest score, and seven being the highest). Then, the other half of the participants were prompted to recall a time when someone had reached out to them and assign a number to how grateful they were. When these two groups were compared, the researchers found that people greatly underestimated the value of reaching out to someone.

“Across a series of preregistered experiments, we document a robust underestimation of how much other people appreciate being reached out to,” the authors continue. “We find evidence compatible with an account wherein one reason this underestimation of appreciation occurs is because responders (vs. initiators) are more focused on their feelings of surprise at being reached out to. A focus on feelings of surprise in turn predicts greater appreciation.”

In another experiment, participants were told to send a note and small gift to a friend they had not interacted with for a long period of time. They were then asked to estimate on a numerical scale how thankful the person would be because of the contact. Additionally, the receivers of the gifts were asked to rank their feelings upon accepting the gift on the same seven-number scale. Once again, the gift-givers greatly underestimated how much their gesture meant to the other person.

The study concluded that reaching out to people—particularly those that you've lost contact with—is almost always appreciated. It can seem challenging to maintain healthy social interactions, especially due to an increased amount of people working from home and a lack of opportunities. But clearly, the evidence suggests that a little extra effort is worth it.

“For those treading back into the social milieu with caution and trepidation,” the study adds, “feeling woefully out of practice and unsure, our work provides robust evidence and an encouraging green light to go ahead and surprise someone by reaching out.”"

-via My Modern Met, 7/31/22

nothing beats the intimacy of being silly together

Goodnight

Chore Scorpion: I come from the toughest meanest place you can imagine. I want to be gentle, I want to die gently, but It seems that when life gets hard I have to get harder to match.

it's an everyday struggle </3

Welcome to the world of “Being in love with a person who doesn’t exist in real life but you pretend they do anyway because you’re obsessed” ✧˖*°࿐

i am once again asking you all to stop fucking using “lives with their parents” as an insult. humans live in groups, sometimes (frequently) those groups include multiple generations, get the fuck over it. it’s weird as hell to act like THAT’S somehow unnatural or creepy or pathetic instead of like, anything that actually matters at all.

Me when y/n is acting like a little fucking child for male validation