Friendly Reminder That Radqueers Aren't Valid

goodnight to people who are unable to run goodnight to people who used to be known for 'running/skipping' everywhere until it became far too painful and dangerous goodnight to people who have a walking gait that shows deformity and 'disturbs others' goodnight to people who have limbs that 'move wrong' goodnight to people who walk with a limp goodnight to people who stumble and fall goodnight to people who use a mobility aid goodnight to people who use elevators goodnight to people who use shower-chairs goodnight to people who use ramps

vent below the cut, see warnings in tags

you ever just be thinking about The Happenings and your brain is like "Well actually Abuser X was a lot worse to you than Abuser Y.. Abuser Y only raped you once and beat you only a few times, the rest of their abuse was emotional and they're getting better, unlike the much worse Abuser X!" and you're like, "Okay, brain, that's an objective statement, Abuser X was worse than Abuser Y. What about it?" and then your brain pulls out the "Maybe you should cut Abuser Y some slack, then... I mean, you're just being bitter at this point... I mean, compared to Abuser X, Abuser Y is like an angel! You shouldn't still be mad at Abuser Y or still hold them accountable!" and then I'm like "Oh, okay, stfu then."

and then your brain gets all whiney and doubles down like "And you shouldn't even be mad at Abuser X, either, since he really was nice to you at times and you know he wouldn't have done that if he himself wasn't hurt-" and then you're like "fuck you" because you're secretly the Fuck You Guy

Alr no one is gonna talk about this so i guess i will, even if i really do not want to bring this sort of topic onto my account.

Long long ass post so (i’m a Proshipper AND ANTI-radqueer. rant ahead)

As a proshipper who has been harmed by "pro-c radqueers" (and questioned joining the community for a while for reasons i will also discuss later on) It is extremely difficult for me to interact with fellow Anti-rqs (blogs or just people) because of the idea that all proshippers are also rq.

I am not here to start discourse, Just to spread the word around that while we may disagree on shipping and fiction, please know that many proshippers do not want any of the true harm that rqs push onto others!! The proship community has been here far far longer than them, we have unfortunately had to deal with becoming their scapegoat over time and i would love for others to recognize that anti-rq proshippers exist, But interacting with the community makes it feel as though one can "only be on [the actual irl danger] side if you're into [fictional characters doing something i do not like] thing" , it makes it very easy for some proshippers to fall into the trap, !!!!Radqueers depend on others’ exclusionism to take advantage and bring others into their community!!!!!

Yes, many Rqs are proshippers, but proshippers are not all inherently rq!!! Kind of like a squares and rectangles situation.

Hello!!! Just to update, my posts may become less frequent, I'm starting a new job that's a lot better for me and very helpful/ingrained with my campus

SHOTA OC OF THE MONTH : JANUARY

So remember when I said I would make a shota (young-looking male cartoony character) OC for each month of my 2025 year? Well, here's January.

also should i make his pookie(s) be one of the other months of 2025... Eheheh.. We will See. LOOK AT HIM. HES SO CUTE. I WANT TO TUCK HIM IN.

aging your self insert down >>>>>>

proship culture is wanting radqueers to get the fuck out of our tags

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💜 Dark/Villain/Criminal Self-Ship Asks

For those with evil, morally questionable f/o’s anyone with darker self-ships. Warning for suggestion of occasionally toxic dynamics.

🖤 - What is a twisted, secret act of love you and your F/O share that only the two of you would understand?

🩸 - Has your F/O ever marked you in a way that felt like a bond, even if others might see it as dangerous or unhinged?

🔪 - Has your F/O ever protected you in a way that was violent or ruthless, but it made you feel deeply cherished? Do they kill or intimidate others for you?

🕷️ - Does your F/O bug your clothing, house or vehicle? Would they ensure you’re well monitored? Do they do it out of protection or obsession?

🕸️ - Does your F/O trap you in their world, or do you willingly crawl into their web?

🥀 - Has your F/O ever “tested” your loyalty in a way that felt dangerous or thrilling? How did you prove yourself to them?

🎭 - Does your F/O hide their true self from others? How does it feel knowing the side of them no one else does?

🌙 - What’s the darkest secret you and your F/O share that bonds you, even if it would horrify anyone else? How did they confess this secret?

👻 - Does your F/O enjoy toying with your fear, knowing it brings you closer to them?

🪓 - Does your F/O ever fear losing control around you? How do you reassure them? Or do you like the chaos?

🦂 - Has your F/O ever lied to you for your own safety or to manipulate your feelings, and how did it change your relationship?

⛓️ - If your F/O could keep you by their side forever through unconventional means, (being immortal via soul pact, vampirism, science) would you let them?

💣 - Would your F/O ever involve you in their criminal or villainous schemes, willingly or not? How would it bond you? Would it be fun or sickening? Other?

🗡️ - Is there a dark or forbidden fantasy your F/O has indulged for you? How did they react to you telling them about it?

🧲 - Has your F/O ever manipulated a situation to keep you close? How do you feel knowing they did it?

🔗 - Does your F/O see you as their weakness, their strength, or both? How does that shape your connection?

🎁 - Has your F/O ever gifted you something darkly romantic, like a token from their crimes or a memento from a fallen enemy?

🕯️- Has your F/O ever orchestrated a chillingly intimate moment, a declaration of love in a tense setting, like an illicit deal or crime scene?

🔥 - Does your F/O have any dangerous habits they’ve pulled you into, and how does it make you feel?

📜 - Does your F/O have a code or rule they live by? How does it affect the way they treat you? Do they have any rules for you in particular?

⛏️ - Has your F/O ever trusted you with their signature weapon, or even asked you to use it?

⚰️ - If your F/O had to fake your death, kidnap you or move you to another country to keep you safe, how do you think they’d go about it?

🪦 - Would you help your F/O cover up a crime, no questions asked? How far would you go to protect them?

💀 - What’s the most cryptic or ominous thing your F/O has ever said to you that you still can’t forget?

💍 - Does your F/O treat you like a partner, a prize, or something else entirely? How do you feel about it?

💋 - Does your F/O enjoy teasing you about their darker side, as if daring you to love them despite it? How do you respond?

💎 - Does your F/O ever use their charm to manipulate you, even in harmless ways? How do you feel about their slyness?

🔮 - Does your F/O believe you’re destined to be together? What lengths would they go to if fate didn’t agree?

👑 - How does your F/O treat you differently from everyone else, even when they’re at their cruelest?

🫀 - If your F/O could claim ownership of a part of you, physically or emotionally, what would they choose?

🌌 - If your F/O could rewrite the world, what would it look like, and where would you stand in it?

🕳️ - If your F/O lost their current life or position (taken in by authorities, empire crumbled, demoted by higher ups) how would your dynamic change?

🪢 - What’s a moral line you’ve crossed because of your F/O’s influence? Would you do it again?

🌪️ - How is your romance inherently destructive in nature? What kind of people do you end up hurting? Do you hurt yourselves in the process?

😈 - Does your F/O take pleasure in seeing others afraid of you, knowing you're tied to their darkness?

☠️ - If you were forced to kill for your F/O, would you do it willingly, or would they push you to the edge?

🎻 - What is a villainous song for your F/O?

Dividers by @/adornedwithlight

For this Disability Pride Month, I saw a post that was shittybad and it made me angry. So have this

there are no qualifications for liking dark fiction, by the way. you don't have to be traumatized. you don't have to be using it as a coping mechanism. you can enjoy it without having a reason beyond just liking it, there's nothing wrong with that!