- The Rocks In The Dirt Path On My Walks Home

I haven’t seen many posts on here talking about this, so I guess I’ll give it a go.

I think that a problem that a lot of people have nowadays when discovering their identity is “aesthetics”. I don’t mean like, “oh wow, that’s so aesthetically pleasing!” It is 100% to enjoy something because of how it looks. The problem, though, is when you enjoy an aesthetic (or several) to the point where if a part of your identity doesn’t correspond to one, you have to “fix” it. It’s harder to be yourself when you’re constantly worrying about which behaviour would fit into little boxes, and which wouldn’t.

That being said, there’s nothing wrong with enjoying an aesthetic, or simply liking something based on its appearance. The problem is when you lose motivation to do things you love because they aren’t “cutesy cottagecore femmecore coquette”. For example, I used to be utterly obsessed with the “That Girl” aesthetic. I woke up everyday at 6:30, worked out for 10 minutes, ate healthy foods whenever I could, took up journaling, started researching whatever I felt like, and cleaned up after myself and others. There’s nothing wrong with that. The problem began, though, when I found traits that weren’t something that “That Girl” would do. I’d listen to loud rock music, I’d sleep in on weekends, sometimes I’d skip workouts, etc. And because these habits didn’t fit into my little boxes that I made, I felt awful. I fell into a pit of self-hate, and started beating myself up over it. I found new interests, and lost even more motivation to fit into that aesthetic. But here’s the thing:

Nothing in life is going to be perfect.

The idea of having to correspond to an aesthetic is ridiculous at this point. Want to be “emo”, but also enjoy dressing in colourful clothes and don’t want to spend $500 on a pair of shoes? Okay! 

Want to be “That Girl” who has a 10 step skincare routine and is super fit, but lack the dedication and funds? That’s okay, too!

Nothing is ever going to fit in a single little box. Sometimes they’ll fit into cabinets. Somethings they’ll mix with other things. Sometimes, you can just enjoy something. There shouldn’t be a pressure to have a perfectly curated image, just because it corresponds to a certain category of being. You’re not just an aesthetic, you’re you.

There’s a good video by Shinspeare on YouTube, called “Social Media’s Obsession with Aesthetics and Curated Identities” that is really lovely, and talks about the subject as well!

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Made the worst brownies ever created just now

Hey putting this here as I want to collect my thoughts as well as speak to people before putting out an actual statement. I just wanted to apologize for the way that I handled the discussion about the racism that exists within my community. I thought as a way of discussing it that I would talk about some other things while playing a game in order to hopefully attract the part of the audience that actually needs to hear what is being said, as I thought that if I made an entire stream around it, those people would not click on it as they think that it doesnt apply to them so they wouldnt need to hear it. I see now that that was not the appropriate way of handling it even though before I thought it was and I thank you for bringing that to my attention. I should have put more emphasis on the issue and I should have at least have had it at the beginning with nothing to distract from the message. I also apologize for saying "move on" during the conversation. What I meant was when an argument starts over something that is not important, instead of bringing it to a point where someone takes it too far, to simply move on from it and to not have it get to that point of argument. I would never tell someone who has been affected by racism to just move on from it so know that is absolutely not what I meant and I am sorry again for not wording that correctly.

I take responsibility for how I handled today, it was not the correct way of handling the issue. I am speaking with people in order to get a better grasp of exactly how to address this situation. I am sorry to any bipoc who have felt let down because of this. I will continue to educate myself and I will do better. The issue starts with me and I apologize that I made it worse. I am sorry.

How to touch some grass

A guide for chronically online girlies who spend every second of their life scrolling through Tumblr. (no front, I love you <3)

Go on a walk. Fresh air, baby!

Lay in the sun. Or in the rain, since it's autumn.

Read a book. Only if you are able to with your goldfish TikTok attention span, lol. <3

Draw Something. I challenge you to draw a cat. send it to me on Twitter @ malusokay and I'll draw a better one. try me.

Try learning a new language. A date with the Duolingo bird.

Go to the theatre alone. Sit in one of those couple seats and stare at the cringy couples while eating popcorn; ignore the movie lmao.

Clean your room. Or reorganize it!

Climb a tree. At your own risk.

Make yourself some tea. Maybe host a tea party!

Try a new hairstyle. I've been trying those low space buns jk?

Bake a cake. Like a fancy and cool one!

Throw your phone into a lake and try to find it. :)

Workout or do yoga. Pilates can be fun too.

Try making friends in irl. This is a tough one, I'm sorry. <3

Paint your nails. Mine are black rn!

Start planning your birthday. Or write your Christmas wishlist.

Go get a coffee. Make your way to your local cafe and try something new! <3

Try learning how to crochet. I've been crocheting makeup bags, lmao.

Do your skincare routine. Do a face mask, and take time for yourself. <3

Make a smoothie. I'll give you a recipe... Banana, raspberries, strawberries, yoghurt for protein, your milk of choice and some coconut flakes as a topping!

Do your homework. So you can be lazy without feeling guilty.

Water your plants. They did nothing wrong... come on.. :(

Go to Ikea. Who doesn't love IKEA?? (not sponsored, lol)

Don't judge me, I wrote this at 3am, and I have the flu. It was fun tho haha.

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"May thy riot gear chip and shatter"

Seen inside the occupied Portland State University library, where student protesters are preparing for a police raid

simple minimalist habits that will improve your life

focus on the essentials of your day.

start organizing your days.

write a diary to organize your ideas and thoughts, discard those that no longer benefit you.

focus on the things that are in your control.

practice detachment (things, people, situations)

make a list of your priorities, what you need at this moment (can be objects and situations too)

get rid of everything you no longer use.

purchase/consume items that will be useful in your daily life.

tidy up your room or the place where you spend most of your time, create a serene and inspiring space.

create a capsule closet

digital and mental detox

spend less time on social media or watching tv, instead read more or spend time outdoors.

leave out of your life everything that is consuming you or doing you any kind of harm (people, social networks, habits).

be grateful every day.

live in the present moment.

practice meditation and mindfulness.