"aroace People Do Not Exist" Thank God. I Am So Tired Of Existing In Late Stage Capitalism. Thank You

taken out of context, Goncharov is actually one of the funniest characters of all time.

he refuses to have sex with his hot wife. she invites him to dinner with Sofia (and was almost CERTAINLY going to propose a threesome) but he's like no thank you. i have to go stare into Andrey's eyes for 3 hours. he gets a motorcycle and crashes it 10 minutes later. he gives a eulogy at the funeral of a guy he killed. he picks a fight with a grandfather clock and the clock wins. his wife loses the mansion in a poker game because he was busy throwing a tantrum in his man cave and then she comes home and points a gun at him and he looks at her like a middle-aged suburban dad whose kids just broke the TV remote for the fifth time.

Look at the love of my life being a badass energy

goncharov (1973) dir. martin scorsese // h of h playbook - anne carson // @/orpheuslament (x) // wolf in white van - john darnielle // “the gods show up” - michael kinnucan (x) // @/annevbonny (x)

Inflation is Percy getting 100 bucks in the books and 200 in the show

Goncharov wouldn’t be half as entertaining if Tumblr weren’t completely and utterly willing to “yes and” all the initial flaws. Katya’s name should be Goncharova? Her calling herself Goncharov reflects her complicated relationship with both her gender and her queerness. Andrey’s name should be Andrei? No, because he’s actually a Ukrainian being mistaken for a Russian by the Italians, which is central to his character and the themes about identity and nationality in the wake of the collapsed USSR. The USSR wouldn’t even fall until 20 years after the film was made? Matteo JWHJ0715 was ahead of his time.

It’s a great example about how good faith approach to writing can really enhance the reading, when you treat flaws as opportunities rather than just nitpicking them or erasing them. The mistakes being folded into Goncharov makes for a deeper, stronger, and more interesting story than if those mistakes had never happened at all.

give up the control

David Slack warning against AMPTP trying to turn the unions against each other, and stating the facts.

Happy... Halloween?

[“Growing up in an upwardly mobile English-educated family in Kolkata meant that I had access to the United States Information Services and British Council libraries, where I would spend countless hours devouring the Atlantic Quarterly or Signs, learning about the emerging LGBT and new wave feminist movements. The splashy images from the twentieth anniversary celebrations of Stonewall in 1989 inspired some of us to start the first gay and lesbian support group in Kolkata.

We would spend hours in cruising parks and women’s studies gatherings doing outreach for support group meetings. Soon we connected with support groups in local cities and recently formed LGBT South Asian groups in major cities of the US and UK. We organized the first International South Asian conference on “Histories of Alternate Sexualities” in New Delhi in 1993 and in the following year the first International South Asian conference of gay men and men-who-have-sex-with-men (MSM). Tensions existed along class and gender lines, and any conversations with Hijras (often referred to as third-sex-third-gender in South Asian countries) were barely happening. Our publications had to be trilingual to reflect the complex linguistic contexts of India, but at support group meetings, Bengali and Hindi-speaking men and women would often remain silenced.

At the core of these tensions was our own internalized classism and homophobia. The key organizers of these fledgling LGBT support groups were all upper-middle class English-educated men and women. We were well-trained, respectable Indian citizens. The feminine voices and flamboyant mannerisms of the non-English speaking Kothis were too disruptive for us. I would act polite and smile as I met Kothis in cruising parks and I would hand them flyers for the support group, yet secretly I hoped they would never show up at meetings. In the parks, they would walk in small groups, wear facial makeup, and speak in street Bengali. Their loud mannerisms and shabby clothing felt alien compared to my English-speaking, denim-sporting, globetrotting “gay” world.

Yet when I was harassed by cops at the parks, it was Kothis who came to my defense. One such incident happened on a dark winter evening. I was caught carrying condoms in my bag by the local police, who would haunt the cruising joints hoping to extract money from “cocksucking Kothis.” The two cops threatened to arrest me for distributing “profane materials.” I was nervous, and yet kept talking to them in English and broken Bengali, telling them that I worked for family planning programs. The cops laughed loudly at all my pleas. Three of the Kothis came running, yelling and clapping loudly, cursing the hell out of the cops. A small crowd gathered, and ultimately the cops left. As I began to mingle more with the Kothis, I began to face my own inner prejudices and fears. I learned that loud mannerisms, claps, and street-smartness were their way of surviving the harsh realities of working class femme men in Kolkata. I went on to build friendships with several Kothis. We would sit on a park bench and giggle over how we would love to be the “wives” of hot butch men.”]

— debanuj dasgupta, from trans/nationally femme: notes on neoliberal economic regimes, security states, and my life as a brown immigrant fag, from why are faggots so afraid of faggots? flaming challenges to masculinity, objectification, and the desire to conform, edited by mattilda bernstein sycamore.

its important not to apply modern labels to queer historical figures, but that also applies currently. cultures, languages shape identity.

i know "a he/they" is mostly used in a joking way, but it still communicates something. it does function as shorthand for an, or many, identities with specific traits. it might even seem vague and inclusive, and yet it's still hyperspecific and only real to english speakers. This idea of "they/them" becoming the third gender, mandatory pronouns for anyone outside of the binary is ridiculously exclusive to people who don't want to use them, and to the vast majority of the world's population, whose languages don't have an equivalent. Saying "it/its" pronouns are superfluous and attention seeking might seem like a reasonable stance in english (it's not, people should be called whatever the fuck they want) but there are languages where it/its is the most mainstream and common option for people who don't want to use he or she pronouns, and expecting them to reframe their identity to fit your language is cruel and self centered. same with people using both he and she pronouns. extremely common in poland, pretty rare for english speakers.

and this focus on pronouns is in itself very anglo-centric. pronouns are a shorthand people use to refer to you. imaging living your life in a language that barely allows you to say one sentence without gendering yourself and everyone you mention. your understanding of gender identity, the difficulties you face and what support you need from society with be drastically different.

not to mention cultures with established 'third gender' traditions (in itself an anglo-centric descriptor). are the hijra trans women? not really. kind of. some of them. I don't know, because I'm neither indian nor hijra. are two-spirit (again an english descriptor of countless identities) native americans nonbinary? not really. kind of. some of them. again, not my place to answer. statistically, not yours either. what is your place, is giving them the basic respect of not trying to squeeze their identity into categories unique to your own culture and language