When A Lesbian Doesn’t Want To Have Sex With A Biological Man:  Penises And Vaginas Are Analogous

one thing i dont think we talk enough about is how pretty much every sex ed resource for lesbian teens tells them they should be open to sex with male partners

i remember being 14/15 and googling how lesbian sex worked and just being confronted with site after site telling me that lesbian sex sometimes includes a penis and it was uninclusive and closed minded to think otherwise :)))

i guarantee you no girl or woman searching for lesbian sex ed resources is looking for advice on how to blow a guy or have piv intercourse, theyre looking for advice about sexual relationships between biologically female partners

i think people underestimate how ashamed and broken it made me and other lesbians feel to read that over and over. after reading those resources i felt so hopeless that i tried to force myself to be asexual because it was the only socially acceptable way to rule out having a male partner

constantly adding these ~helpful reminders~ is like telling lesbians that they just haven't met the right guy yet, and there is no context in which they should forget it

some of these were government affiliated websites insisting that exclusive homosexuality didnt exist, or at the very least that it was unthinkable and unpeakable

its a very impactful and insidious form of homophobia

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Thank you!

i just saw this on twitter but i couldn't find the user of the OP. anyways, damn right

posts that prove horseshoe theory. put respect on OSHA's name right now.

“women are WORSE at sports than men!!!” is not why we have women’s sports

some of yall need to understand that "my body, my choice" also applies to:

addicts in active addiction with no intention of quitting

phys disabled people who deny medical treatment

neurodivergent people who deny psychiatric treatment (yes, including schizophrenic people and people with personality disorders)

trans people who want or don't want to medically transition (yes, including trans masc lesbians with top surgery and trans women without bottom surgery, yall are so weird to them wtf)

and if you can't understand that, then you don't get to use the phrase

Current queerness activism is off its rocker and needs an entire overhaul. I couldn't figure it out from the beginning.

"Let them pee!" was pretty good, actually, I did fall for that one, an emotional appeal that people could relate to, but they just couldn't keep the lid on the AGPs hateposting their erections in the ladies rooms and getting their sex crimes splashed all over the internet, all the while insisting that it clearly had never happened and never would, and was paranoid pearl-clutching.

And No Debate? People said that like it was a normal thing to say in political debate, and not a huge red flag.

And using a word as loaded as genocide to describe stroke-of-the-pen lawmaking? Really ill-conceived.

Transphobiaaaaaaaaa! worked for awhile, until there was only one thing left that wasn't transphobic, which was lesbians having sex with men, and now does it mean anything? Other than 'you're not doing what you're told'?

Not just those language problems, either, the academics took the idea public that words about women don't really, on any meaningful level, define anything, and there's nothing about a woman that makes her a woman, and pointed at clownfish and shrugged smugly, like a reproductive capacity of a fish meant that women had been mistaken all along in believing we were women.

And then there was the shitshow of 'bonus hole' and 'non-men attracted to non-men'. That was an own goal. Now WPATH is chucking cis-supremacy around like that means a single thing.

The whole affair has been an utter shambles from start to finish. Just staggering from one PR disaster to another, constantly doubling down, and consistently revealing motives that look pretty indefensible, like begging for blockers and hormones for children, or they will harm themselves, while adult trans identities are valid just by saying so, and that women should participate in sports, contact and otherwise, with men, and be locked up in prison with them.

Queer Theory doesn't care about women, or know anything about women, just like Michael Foucault. It doesn't even respect women enough to answer our questions about seizing our rights.

Back to the drawing board, QT. Maybe get a talking gecko.

It is a deeply anti-female movement, it hates that women talk back, protect their kids, and analyze its ideas. So please keep doing all of that.

Baffling. Madness.

So why *can't* we have a word for, "adult human female?" Seems like a significant group with lots in common (and lots to talk about.) And why can't that word be "woman?"