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hihi!
my daddy isn’t all that into ddlg stuff and some of the bdsm things that i myself am into
however he’s interested in sex and mostly sex he’s not interested in the emotional side of bdsm purely the sex and pleasure for him
it upsets me that he doesn’t want to explore kinks with me but i can understand most of the time
i was wondering if you had any advice
The short answer here is “it depends”. It depends on multiple factors. Perhaps your partner is just selfish and does not care all that much. More likely, your partner may just not be super comfortable with taking the dynamic further and doesn’t want to feel embarrassed… like they don’t know what to do. Rather than risk looking/feeling stupid, they avoid taking things further and may even claim they are not that “into it”. Fear generally and fear of something so personal as sexual embarrassment are quite potent motivators to overcome. If he doesn’t care enough, that is another story altogether.
However, if they care about you, you may be able to convince them to explore more, but it will take some work to make them comfortable with it.
In anon... I can only offer some general advice on how to get an intimate partner to explore more things with you. Every relationship is different, and what works for one may not work for another. Therefore, I encourage you to communicate openly, honestly and respectfully with your partner about your desires and expectations and listen to their feelings and preferences. The biggest key to deepening your relationship this way and reaching your goals is empathy. It is the most powerful thing humans do. There are ways to help this, but that is a bit deeper and would likely require direct messaging rather than anon. Or if you like I can point you to some resources on it.
Feel free to reach out more if you like. Either way, I wish you all the best.