Fuck Exclusionists - Blog Posts

Using my it/its pronouns irl is basically just a marriage proposal tbh

Ok first of all here is the A: LGBTQIA+. And you're telling me it's only about lesbians, gays, bisexuals and trans people? So you're also excluding pansexuals, intersex people, omnisexuals etc? Even if you refuse to put an A in your acronym there's still a + for other orientations... And what are inclusies? People, who include other people? That's a bad thing?

Sorry, I totally forgot that I wanted to respond to that and left this in my drafts.

Dear exclusionists and gatekeepers please explain:

You say aspec people don't belong in the LGBTQIA+ community because we are are "not oppressed enough" or "basically straight" but then proceed to say that the A in LGBTQIA+ stands for ally. Like WTF?! Allys most of the time are cishet people. They are straight, they aren't oppressed based on their sexuality in any way and you say they are part of the community and we aren't?! Please explain I don't get it.

I don't think younger/newer users fully grasp the shit show that ace discourse was around 2014-17

It was so hostile that, to this day, discussions that begin to derail just enough can make me physically nauseous, some specific mockery trigger crying sessions years later. We lost most accounts with any sort of ace positivity. There was no information, no support, and all this damage was done predominantly by other queer people.

All this to say that you, however you identify yourself, should be engaging with aphobic comments the same way you do any hate. We don't sugarcoat or try to be comprehensive with people who are blatantly racist, homophobic or terfs, so why give it a pass just because it's coming from a queer person? I see how this tolerance goes and it's done enough damage as it is.

One of my funniest Tumblr moments was coming across this transmasc transmed making literally every bad exclusionist argument (e.g. "bi/pan lesbians aren't real", "queer is a slur", "you need dysphoria to be trans", etc), looking at their blog, and they're just flipping their shit over the pregnant man emoji. They're all like "how dare you remind trans men what they're dysphoric of??? 😡😡😡"

Yeah, like dude? May I have your attention for a second?

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(not transmasc; just making fun of gatekeepers)

Do you ever see someone on this site who looks cool, you check out their profile, you read their DNI list, and you read the most fucked-up, yet oddly specific queer-exclusionist shit, and you're all like: