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Joana: This is crazy!!
Rodrigo: Nothing is really crazy. Some things are just different.
Charlotte: Well, there must be some standard for what is crazy and what is normal,, like, how can we know what is right and what is not?
Rodrigo: Maybe we just created those ideas, maybe everything can be ok in a different circumstance, maybe what we judge as a polite or nice conversation can be annoying on another point of view or time.
Joana: WHAT?
Rodrigo: Think at this like what we consider wrong today or what we consider normal now days. Would you say it was always wrong or normal? During the history of modern society, was everything normal all the time?
Joana: Of course not!
Charlotte: Most definitely not, some things are just insane today or used to be at some point.
Rodrigo: That's my point. Nothing is crazy because the idea of crazy is always linked to the idea of normal,, and what's normal today might not be tomorrow and what we consider a crazy person may become what we consider a bright or extremely intelligent person in the future. Just think about it next time you think a idea is crazy.
Can we please normalize not asking people about their family, their origin, their ethnic background when doing small talk?! Not everybody wants to talk about their family. Not everybody with a "foreign"-sounding surname or first name cares to talk about their origin and, side note: Many people have been born in the country they live in now and do not enjoy constantly being reminded of their backstory! I am constantly being told that my German is perfect - well, guess what? It's perfect because it's my mother tongue, just because my father's from another country doesn't mean I personally grew up elsewhere!! For many people, these topics that are somehow deemed "small-talk appropriate" by others, are a constant source of stress and "othering", some might have had traumatic experiences in childhood/youth/have no contact to their biological family anymore/have been adopted ect. It's plain rude and nosy and unnecessary to ask such personal question - think before you talk for God's sake
Nem tudom mennyire furcsa dolog, de nem szeretem, sőt irritál, ha beszélnek hozzám, mikor olvasni próbálnék. Ha fontos/lényeges dologról van szó megértem, de ha olyan dologról van szó, ami bőven ráér, vagy teljesen felesleges, nem értem miért kell beszélni az emberhez... Nem látszik, hogy egy könyv van a kezemben, esetleg az, hogy tanulok/szakirodalmat olvasok? Értem én, hogy az ember nem szereti, ha figyelmen kívül hagyják, én se szeretem, de ha egyszer az ember elmélyülten, figyelmesen próbál olvasni, miért kell ezt csinálni?!! 😭
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Seeing a coworker/classmate sitting to the side and reading a book while on their break and then coming up to them and asking "what are you reading" should be illegal actually
One of the biggest issues of moving to England as a person who is Ukrainian AND neurodivergent is not knowing how to answer the small talk question of "how are you", but today I was reminded that Ukrainian blessed me with the phrase that roughly translates as "living is hard but dying would be a pity" and can we please naturalise it so I can use it all day every day
Genuinely useful and insightful. I think I've internalized a lot of these tips already as I've been actively working on getting better at small talk, but seeing it spelled out like this is hugely helpful.
One of the stranger things about training brand new nurses is explaining how to min max small talk. It feels very weird to coach people on how to chat.