Transmisandry - Blog Posts

trans men/mascs are NOT the enemy of trans women/fems transmisogyny is

trans women/fems are NOT the enemy of trans men/mascs transandrophobia is

ascribing bigotry to an entire demographic is what is causing this divide in the community

everyone needs to start understanding how to separate the demographic from the bigotry because otherwise you are going to be extremely susceptible to radicalization

anyone is capable of being transmisogynistic, even trans women/fems

anyone is capable of being transandrophobic, even trans men/mascs

and people are not inherently [insert bad thing here] based only on their identity

ok quick question

why does shinigami eyes (browser extension that tells you who is trans-friendly and who is anti-trans) mark people who LITERALLY deny that transmascs and intersex people are oppressed as trans-friendly? since when transandrophobia and intersexism are a trans-friendly thing to spread?

if that's what's going on then this extension is very much useless. maybe it always has been useless.

"there were no signs" as if they didn't solely buy you dresses, pink shirts, and girl toys even if you asked for something else

Being forcefully raised as a woman is not any less traumatic and emotionally repressive as being forcefully raised as a man. Femininity is not inherently pure and safe. Coercing someone to perform femininity is not any less toxic than coerced masculinity. Being dysphoric around femininity or having trauma from women doesn’t make you a misogynist.

The minute you stop putting bigotry in little boxes of “oh it’s an x thing” or “it’s a y thing” and accept that bigotry is intersectional and doesn’t care about boundaries, you can start helping yourself and your fellow targets of hatred.

Being sexualised without consent isn’t just “oh it’s a girl thing! Welcome to the club trans women!!” It’s about being an “other”. Bigots don’t care about you identifying as a woman or a man, you’re just an other whose identity has been presented through media as inherently sexual. This is why gay men experience it as well as gay women, why trans men, non-binary, and trans women also experience it. This is why the buck doesn’t stop at women. Misogyny, racism, transphobia, and homophobia all intersect in disgusting ways that effect everyone who’s a target.

am I saying it’s bad to vent about your experiences? FUCK NO. I’m saying it’s going to make you lonely when you divide your experiences from other people’s, especially when they relate. DONT MAKE YOUR LIFE HARDER BY SHUTTING OUT EVERYONE ELSE.

the importance of inclusive language isn't just making sure trans people's feelings don't get hurt. like dysphoria can be life ruining yes & it's important to keep in mind. but trans inclusive language is vital because otherwise we WILL be forgotten. we will be overlooked by research and resources that are desperately needed. we cannot afford to be shuffled off into assumed-cisness because it's convenient

A brief lesson on why relying on generative AI for sex ed is harmful:

Okay Google, what the fuck is this?

This is so concerning... The Google Gemini AI overview is clearly so confused by the existence of trans men.

I'm not sure if it's better or worse that Gemini isn't even trying to answer the same question, but rephrased.

The phrasing "some straight women may be looking for something they don't have" rubs me the wrong way. Also, separating queer women from women in general is upsetting.

I'm conflicted on whether or not we should help Google with training Gemini, but considering how many people rely on Google for information, I've come to the conclusion that--for now--it is worth it to always hit the "thumbs down" icon underneath the generations that turn up poorly and describe in detail what's wrong with the result. 👎

After all, when we tell people not to ask offensive questions to transgender people, the usual advice is "Go Google it!"

As distrustful as I am of Gemini's results, most people that I've met are more than willing to accept its responses at face value. At the very least, the average user seems to accept it for a quick and easy surface level response.

The HRC and PFLAG have much better resources on LGBTQIA+ identity and how to support your loved ones.