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Sometimes, being a writer is taking a 30-minute detour from writing to go on a wild goose chase after a word you're pretty sure maybe hopefully exists, and dragging in all the word-nerds in your family to help along the way, because the thesaurus has utterly failed you.
And all you can tell them about the identity of this missing word is, "it's somewhere between castigated and in the doghouse, and kind of a cousin to disgraced."
Because, of course, you only have the breath of a shadow of a ghost of whatever-this-word-might-be lurking in some back alleyway deep in your brain, and you can't even remember what letter it starts with. If it really does exist at all, which, after three of your fellow word-nerds fail to identify it, you're beginning to question.
We eventually found the word, by the way. After a few wrong turns past chastened, chastised, discredited, and besmirched, we came upon abased, and concluded it to be our elusive quarry.
The crowning absurdity in all of this? I just looked up disgraced again in the thesaurus. And there was abased, not quite halfway down the list. (My apologies to the thesaurus. It seems I need to read more carefully in future.) But at least we all got a nice, little linguistic evening stroll.
Okay, the only word that I feel like gets close enough to what I'm looking for (by dictionary definition) is dionysiac, which according to my good friend *Oxford Learner's means "relating to the physical senses and the emotions, especially when they are expressed without control" but idk guys, while I'm known to be dramatic at times, saying "ugh, I'm so dionysiac rn" seems awfully pretentious
*For some reason that definition only comes up in the Learner's edition, not the regular Oxford dictionary (OED) which is weird. ¯\(°_o)/¯
Alright so sensual attraction is a thing. We all can acknowledge that, look it up on Google, confirm it. Great. Why is horny the only word close enough to describe randomly remembering I'm sensually attracted to my girlfriend? I hate that. "Horny" is wrong, that's not what I'm feeling but also I can't describe it in one word any better. Yeah, I've been thinking about my gf lightly bestowing kisses upon my skin and giving me the good shivers, but not in a "I need her to fuck me rn" kinda way, in a "wow I love feeling physical manifestations of love from my partner, it makes me happy and wow oh wow I love my gf so much" kinda way. I'm asexy horny. Gods I hate the word horny. Someone please give me an alternative word, my soul is screaming
Alright so sensual attraction is a thing. We all can acknowledge that, look it up on Google, confirm it. Great. Why is horny the only word close enough to describe randomly remembering I'm sensually attracted to my girlfriend? I hate that. "Horny" is wrong, that's not what I'm feeling but also I can't describe it in one word any better. Yeah, I've been thinking about my gf lightly bestowing kisses upon my skin and giving me the good shivers, but not in a "I need her to fuck me rn" kinda way, in a "wow I love feeling physical manifestations of love from my partner, it makes me happy and wow oh wow I love my gf so much" kinda way. I'm asexy horny. Gods I hate the word horny. Someone please give me an alternative word, my soul is screaming