You Are Valuable - Blog Posts

Yes! This is very important. Those thoughts are coming from your brain because of your brain -- not because of who you are.

Think of all the situations you've experienced in the last year. Think of how many things you survived or accomplished or created. (Seriously, do it!)

Did you feel victorious and strong at the time? That would have been a feeling that was relevant to the situation, caused by the situation.

But a lot of us didn't feel inspired and mighty because of our victories. A lot of us still felt inadequate and fearful and ashamed. We didn't celebrate. We weren't in the moment. Our feelings weren't happening because of our lives -- just because of our brains.

Those are arbitrary feelings. In a way, they’re not quite tied to reality. Because they aren't dependent on what actually happens.

And when you're able to recognize them as such, it's a little easier to think of them as just background noise. “Oh, I’m actually anxious no matter what is happening around me. I actually feel bad about myself no matter how my life is going.”

And that can give you the chance to see what other feelings you may be having, in response to the actual situation.

Emotions are things that live and breathe, flex and bend and run parallel and contradict each other. They’re messy and real. So if how you feel doesn’t actually change with the situation -- something’s probably stuck!

something i need to repeat to myself five billion times: feeling that you’re the worst person in the world is part of a symptom, not some unfortunate, ultimate truth. there is nothing personal about it, despite what your brain may tell you. 

if we taught people that gender is an abstract concept, you'd probably see less hatred for xenogenders. 'How is your gender a dog that makes no sense' the same way your gender is man, or boy. Maybe I've just intellectually ascended or something, but the idea of someone being a pupgender neogirl just doesn't confuse me.

Stop treating concepts like 'man' and 'woman' as more solid than 'mushroom' or 'cleaver' in terms of gender, because gender in itself is abstract. It makes so much less sense to enforce the 'invalidity' of xenogenders because all these rules are made up.