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things to start and stop doing to be the best you

things to start doing:

put yourself first - live for yourself and up to your own standards and stop pushing aside your needs for other people.

set healthy boundaries for yourself and others

always find new skills and hobbies to learn and pick up

have a routine that works for you

never settle for less. if it's not what you want, keep looking forward.

be bold - not letting fear stop you from being great

improve your self talk. compliment yourself more. tell yourself things will be okay.

enjoy the silence more

more self reflection!

learn how to enjoy your own company

socialize more

take yourself out on solo dates

walk with your head high, shoulders back

listening to your intuition when you first brush it off. you can find out the reason later.

start being active. move your body. go on walks, go to the gym, sign up for yoga, dance classes, pilates, etc.

continue talking when someone cuts you off.

put people in their place. if your boundaries have been crossed or you see something that isn't right, don't be afraid to speak your mind whenever you see necessary.

read more books. set a goal for each month.

seek for all sides of the story. never come to a set conclusion at first glance or none at all.

take your own advice.

be assertive. don’t allow yourself to be pushed around. do what's good for you no matter what anyone says, be clear about what you want in life and go for it.

ask questions. don't be afraid to. this applies to everything.

explore different styles that pique your interest. clothes, majors, hobbies, jobs, literally everything.

journaling your thoughts and ideas.

things to stop doing:

seek validation from others

living for others when you should be living for yourself.

passively consume content on social media

having FOMO. who cares if you missed out on the latest celebrity gossip, what person cheated on who, the food pictures people are posting on their stories. does it benefit you for a lifetime? no? okay then.

saying "i'm going to do this" and not do it.

isolating yourself for a long period of time

spending more time on your phone than you are living your life. there's life outside a glowing screen. stop wasting what you have and make the best of it even if it seems "impossible". you can always make something out of nothing.

comparing yourself to others

idolizing everyone. celebrities, public figures, influencers....

letting people's limiting beliefs have a hold over you

choosing to keep the victim mentality.

putting your responsibilities and happiness aside to laze around or for other people.

sticking with your circle when you've outgrown them. i don't care how long you've known them for and how good the bond was. if they're not good for you anymore, leave.

letting people step all over you - say no and don't give in to pleases.

pushing your trauma/problems aside. your problems are no less than others. you are important too. tend to yourself.

guilt trip yourself for resting when you want/need to.

abandon your needs.

insulting yourself for failures and mistakes. it's normal, you're okay.

believing everything you see and hear whether it be online or in real life.

don't take criticism from people you wouldn't take advice from. or anyone for that matter unless it's out of the goodness of their heart (constructive)

all of BSI shares one communal brain cell

- the rocks in the dirt path on my walks home

- the massive jar of rocks on my desk that I collected throughout the years

- the hum of fluorescent lights

- the trees in my yard

- the field in my backyard that my neighbours park their trailers in

- the pond in the woods that’s been unused, since we’ve all grown up 

- the earthy, chalk-like smell of classrooms

- the 20 unfinished journals I own, with pages filled with drawings of people I’ve seen and places I’ve been, and words forgotten over the years

- the One pair of heels that have never shrunk over the span of 2 years

- the way my friends finish my sentences

- stuttering over things I’m excited about 

- getting a perfect A on my favourite assignments

- brining a thermos of coffee to school every morning and chugging it before science 

- the way the science lab overlooks the street and gives a perfect view of the sunlight

- biking and feeling the wind go through my shirt, cooling me off

- sending my friends memes after not talking for 2 days, and almost instantly getting a response 

- designing a perfect house for my loved ones 

- the way soft blankets feel on cold skin

ROMANTICIZE 👏 YOUR 👏 LIFE👏

Start appreciating more little things in your life! It’s the flaming 20′s for gods sake, start enjoying more things outside of your computer screen! Here’s a thread of things! (Updates whenever)

- being told you look different (in a good way) even though you haven’t change at all

- finishing a long book

- walking in the woods

- the way my cat tries to get milk like it’s the only thing keeping him alive

- the way my other cat acts as an uncle to our kittens

- laughing so hard your sides hurt

- taking good photos with bad equipment

- when you accidentally add a line or squiggle to a drawing and it suddenly looks perfect

ROMANTICIZE 👏 YOUR 👏 LIFE👏

Start appreciating more little things in your life! It’s the flaming 20′s for gods sake, start enjoying more things outside of your computer screen! Here’s a thread of things! (Updates whenever)

My routine for weekdays + how I will hold myself accountable to enforce it 🧘🏼‍♀️✨

As you may know from my other post I have 5 goals I would like to achieve for this new year, so of course there are small habits that will help me achieve these goals!

MORNING (7-8:35)

Get out bed at 7 AM (non negotiable)

Say my positive affirmations.

Skincare, Hygiene and put on makeup.

Do a 10 minute workout of my choice.

Breakfast ✨

Get dressed and do my hair  🫡

AFTERNOON (3:45-9:30)

Come home, take stuff out of backpack and change into my home clothing while putting away my school clothes.

Have food 🤍

Relax for an hour, watch a movie, go on my phone, whatever.

STUDY/ do assignment for the next two hours!

Have a (homemade!!) snack

Send in some job applications (apply to at least two jobs)

Free time until 9:00!

Journal about my day and if I accomplished everything that I wanted to do!

Clean up my room and bathroom.

Then I will shower, skincare,hygiene and go to bed.

HOW WILL I KEEP MYSELF ACCOUNTABLE?

idea cr: @memen2-mori 💘

So.. there are 6 habits I want to do every weekday:

workout for 10 minutes

do assignments for 2 hours

send in 2 job applications 

tidy my room

make a homemade snack 

say a positive affermation

Then when I journal I will simply ask myself “Did I complete todays tasks?”

If the answer is no, I will ask myself two more follow up questions- “Which tasks did i not complete? Why not?” as well as “What can I do to be better prepared tomorrow ?”

it girl winters

hydrating skincare routine for those dry-skin days

surrounding yourself with only positive + engaging people

cozy sweaters / sweatshirts

a workout routine that works to meet your goals

a go-to puffer jacket to throw on over everything

soft bound moleskines + black muji gel pens

ugg boots are a must

40oz hydroflask with straw for hot cocoa or ice water

fenty gloss bomb lip luminizers

glossier ultra rich moisturizer

baby long sleeves

cute matching workout sets

slick back ponytails or simple blowouts

shiny, healthy hair and nails

journaling, meditating, stretching

a favorite pair of staple mid-rise straight jeans

new books to devour, one per week

whole foods; eg solid, protein packed meals + produce

bluelight glasses > headaches + eye pain

either eight hours of sleep or two per night (no in-between)

phone screen time less than 1hr 30mins

glossier you solid or sol de janeiro '62 all day every day

body care forever... scrubs, washes, oils, u name it

signature simple jewelry

lash serum or extensions for an effortless glam

hot girl treadmill walks when you're too tired to run

studying and revising daily

homemade matcha or starbucks rewards

saving money for meaningful purchases

loving yourself & finding joy in everyday

BECOMING THE BEST VERSION OF YOU !! xx

please enjoy and feel free to send asks with more prompts/q's !! 🧘‍♀️

i sure hope my good friend johnathan harker has a safe trip...

simple minimalist habits that will improve your life

focus on the essentials of your day.

start organizing your days.

write a diary to organize your ideas and thoughts, discard those that no longer benefit you.

focus on the things that are in your control.

practice detachment (things, people, situations)

make a list of your priorities, what you need at this moment (can be objects and situations too)

get rid of everything you no longer use.

purchase/consume items that will be useful in your daily life.

tidy up your room or the place where you spend most of your time, create a serene and inspiring space.

create a capsule closet

digital and mental detox

spend less time on social media or watching tv, instead read more or spend time outdoors.

leave out of your life everything that is consuming you or doing you any kind of harm (people, social networks, habits).

be grateful every day.

live in the present moment.

practice meditation and mindfulness.